i have issues with exwife, we are already divorced.
where can I ask a family judge or lawyer a question ?
I am in illinois.Need free legal advice, family law/divorce issues in illinois?
Check the yellow pages - a lot of attorneys offer a free 1/2 hour consultation. Write out your questions and go see at least two so you can compare answers. Always good to have a 2nd opinion on legal stuff.Need free legal advice, family law/divorce issues in illinois?
good luck lawyers are never free
Tuesday, November 22, 2011
I need real good advice about my split family? I want to know what you think is best for my children.
I am feeling very conflicted over some events that have happened in the past couple of weeks. I have two children from a previous marriage and my ex has started dating the sixth woman in the past 2 years. He has also had his oldest son, whom is 18, move back in with his 7 month old child. I really need advice on what would be in the best interest of my children.
My husband was in an accident this past week and I have been very good at calling the hospital to see how he is doing and letting him talk to my children. Each time he is on the phone he asks my youngest if he wants to speak with his girlfriend. This makes me very angry because he has only been dating this woman for about 4 weeks and she feels that it is ok to tell my child that she loves him and misses him. I have never spoken to this woman or met her and with my ex's track record, I feel that this creates some anxiety on my part and is not good for the children. I proceeded to tell him the next time that we spoke that it made me feel uncomfortable and he stated that I should not be calling the hospital and that if something bad happened to me, then he would not call to check on me. He explained that we need to limit our conversations to being about the kids only. My children are very young (6 %26amp; 3) and my oldest is disabled. I feel that it is my duty to make sure that he is ok and vise versa. Am I wrong for thinking this?
On another bad point, my ex has visitation for 3 days out of the week because he fought with an attorney through the divorce and I could not. He was awarded the 3 days per week because that was the way he could get out of paying child support. I was not happy but I could not do anything since Florida is an equal rights state. I know I am jumping around here, but with the children staying with him 3 days out of the week, they are not able to have their own room because of the other teenage boys living in the home and with another baby in tow. I feel that this is not healthy for them.
I could go on and on, but I guess we can start here.I need real good advice about my split family? I want to know what you think is best for my children.
Your situation is what YOU make it out to be. Your children ALWAYS come first. Your ex has drawn the line and has told you what he would do if the tables were turned...wow! Be careful with your children when it's time for them to stay with their father...especially now that things have changed in his house. Your children are your first priority and NOT your ex.I need real good advice about my split family? I want to know what you think is best for my children.
Cannot change some one else's behavior but you can take control of this situation..raise your children up rightly..and focus on being the best mother you can be. Life is not want we always want it to be..but take it one day at at time..maybe in time as they all grow up..children will see the truth..they will know right from wrong..now is the time to teach them to be the best that they are be..laura mercier
My husband was in an accident this past week and I have been very good at calling the hospital to see how he is doing and letting him talk to my children. Each time he is on the phone he asks my youngest if he wants to speak with his girlfriend. This makes me very angry because he has only been dating this woman for about 4 weeks and she feels that it is ok to tell my child that she loves him and misses him. I have never spoken to this woman or met her and with my ex's track record, I feel that this creates some anxiety on my part and is not good for the children. I proceeded to tell him the next time that we spoke that it made me feel uncomfortable and he stated that I should not be calling the hospital and that if something bad happened to me, then he would not call to check on me. He explained that we need to limit our conversations to being about the kids only. My children are very young (6 %26amp; 3) and my oldest is disabled. I feel that it is my duty to make sure that he is ok and vise versa. Am I wrong for thinking this?
On another bad point, my ex has visitation for 3 days out of the week because he fought with an attorney through the divorce and I could not. He was awarded the 3 days per week because that was the way he could get out of paying child support. I was not happy but I could not do anything since Florida is an equal rights state. I know I am jumping around here, but with the children staying with him 3 days out of the week, they are not able to have their own room because of the other teenage boys living in the home and with another baby in tow. I feel that this is not healthy for them.
I could go on and on, but I guess we can start here.I need real good advice about my split family? I want to know what you think is best for my children.
Your situation is what YOU make it out to be. Your children ALWAYS come first. Your ex has drawn the line and has told you what he would do if the tables were turned...wow! Be careful with your children when it's time for them to stay with their father...especially now that things have changed in his house. Your children are your first priority and NOT your ex.I need real good advice about my split family? I want to know what you think is best for my children.
Cannot change some one else's behavior but you can take control of this situation..raise your children up rightly..and focus on being the best mother you can be. Life is not want we always want it to be..but take it one day at at time..maybe in time as they all grow up..children will see the truth..they will know right from wrong..now is the time to teach them to be the best that they are be..
Advice for a mormon family of 3 moving to abu dhabi.?
Please help with some inside information for members of the LDS church who are living and working in Abu Dhabi. I would like information on where to live, shop, schools, etc.... Advice for a mormon family of 3 moving to abu dhabi.?
How mormon are you? My gut reaction is to tell you not to come. I know there are a few (at least 1) Christian churches here, but I do not go and don't really know anyone that does. Abu Dhabi is not an extremely easy place to live, esp. right now with the rents being out of control. Find out first if your company will provide accommodation or if you have to look for it yourself. Make sure if you have to look for yourself you get a decent amount or you will not find anywhere to live.
Sorry I do not know too much about religions of my friends as I feel it is offensive to ask.
The previous answer was prob. true 5 or so years ago...Advice for a mormon family of 3 moving to abu dhabi.?
always eat what you are offered, women must alwasy wear long pants as not to offend the Muslim coomunity, the muslim men may look at you weird becaus eyou are not wearing the burqua. I wish I could remember the customs there as what to do and not to do, but I went to kuwait they are more westernized there. They have ramadan in september for 30 days where they fast two meals and then eat a meal at night, I would find out the basics about islam just for my info. I would ask a military person about curtosys becasue if you do something you arn't suppose to do, you might offend someone and not knwo it.
How mormon are you? My gut reaction is to tell you not to come. I know there are a few (at least 1) Christian churches here, but I do not go and don't really know anyone that does. Abu Dhabi is not an extremely easy place to live, esp. right now with the rents being out of control. Find out first if your company will provide accommodation or if you have to look for it yourself. Make sure if you have to look for yourself you get a decent amount or you will not find anywhere to live.
Sorry I do not know too much about religions of my friends as I feel it is offensive to ask.
The previous answer was prob. true 5 or so years ago...Advice for a mormon family of 3 moving to abu dhabi.?
always eat what you are offered, women must alwasy wear long pants as not to offend the Muslim coomunity, the muslim men may look at you weird becaus eyou are not wearing the burqua. I wish I could remember the customs there as what to do and not to do, but I went to kuwait they are more westernized there. They have ramadan in september for 30 days where they fast two meals and then eat a meal at night, I would find out the basics about islam just for my info. I would ask a military person about curtosys becasue if you do something you arn't suppose to do, you might offend someone and not knwo it.
Need advice for sharing my work with family.?
I'm a young writer and have just finished a short story. I'm really shy about sharing my work, especially with my family. Not because I'm afraid of their reaction; I know they wouldn't do anything like make fun of me or say it's stupid. I'm just not sure how to go about asking them to read it. Any help would be immensely appreciated.Need advice for sharing my work with family.?
A bit odd, but, none my family (wife included) have read my book. It sat around (in manuscript form) in everyones face for two years, and though it is now published, they have still yet to read it...Need advice for sharing my work with family.?
i know the feeling! i always find it hard showing people, but my family are always really interested in reading my work and like to offer suggestions and i'm sure yours would be the same.
i would print out a copy of your finished story and just hand it to your mum or dad and ask them if they can edit it for you, tell you if there is anything they as a reader would like changed etc. that way there is a reason you're showing them and they have some guidelines of things to say. unless you've studied literature it's sometimes hard to know what to say about a story.
good luck, it's normal to feel nervous about showing people so just do it and you'll be glad!
first you need to edit your story
look online for a picture you think would go (Deviantart.com has great photography!)
buy a binder
print your story
put picture on front and the story inside
if your shy to ask your family members to read it then just lay it around in places that will be obvious for them to see it and leave a blank sheet of paper in the back of your story for their feedback and mistakes you might have not caught
answer mine please!
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>
I had a similar problem. What i did was pretend it was a class assigment and it would help if they read it to check for mistakes.
Hopes this helps.
Just ask them. Finish a story, edit it, and then ask them to read it.
';Hey, mom, dad, wanna read something I wrote?'; :-)
A bit odd, but, none my family (wife included) have read my book. It sat around (in manuscript form) in everyones face for two years, and though it is now published, they have still yet to read it...Need advice for sharing my work with family.?
i know the feeling! i always find it hard showing people, but my family are always really interested in reading my work and like to offer suggestions and i'm sure yours would be the same.
i would print out a copy of your finished story and just hand it to your mum or dad and ask them if they can edit it for you, tell you if there is anything they as a reader would like changed etc. that way there is a reason you're showing them and they have some guidelines of things to say. unless you've studied literature it's sometimes hard to know what to say about a story.
good luck, it's normal to feel nervous about showing people so just do it and you'll be glad!
first you need to edit your story
look online for a picture you think would go (Deviantart.com has great photography!)
buy a binder
print your story
put picture on front and the story inside
if your shy to ask your family members to read it then just lay it around in places that will be obvious for them to see it and leave a blank sheet of paper in the back of your story for their feedback and mistakes you might have not caught
answer mine please!
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>
I had a similar problem. What i did was pretend it was a class assigment and it would help if they read it to check for mistakes.
Hopes this helps.
Just ask them. Finish a story, edit it, and then ask them to read it.
';Hey, mom, dad, wanna read something I wrote?'; :-)
I wish to report a non,cooperating family that is REFIEWSING to take proper health precautions advice on how?
to do itI wish to report a non,cooperating family that is REFIEWSING to take proper health precautions advice on how?
well, first of all, i'd learn how to spell ';refusing';..I wish to report a non,cooperating family that is REFIEWSING to take proper health precautions advice on how?
What?
If they're endangering the public health, call the health department. If they're only endangering their own health ... well, there's no law against suicide. (If they're endangering a minor child's health, call child services.)
well, first of all, i'd learn how to spell ';refusing';..I wish to report a non,cooperating family that is REFIEWSING to take proper health precautions advice on how?
What?
If they're endangering the public health, call the health department. If they're only endangering their own health ... well, there's no law against suicide. (If they're endangering a minor child's health, call child services.)
Do you follow your family doctor's advice to the letter?
No, not always...we have to trust our own gut instincts.Do you follow your family doctor's advice to the letter?
Yes. I always follow my family doctor's advice.
Yes. I always follow my family doctor's advice.
What things, photo's, memories, advice, etc. should a family pass on to their children?
anything with sentimental value.
dpWhat things, photo's, memories, advice, etc. should a family pass on to their children?
If you have old photos, please use a pencil or archival ink pen and write on the back or put it in a book but be sure to put who is in the pictures and how they relate to the family. for example, ted on left stephanie in middle children of Joseph and mary Doe, david matthison on right is friend of ted. That way people know who they are looking at. This is more precious than gold after you are gone. if there is an old family story you heard as a child. write it down. like the time our great grandfather had a cheese business and while he was taking his horse drawn wagon up the hill at hollywood and vine . as they were dragging the hourse drawn wagon up vine street a 400 lb wheel of cheese slid out of the wagon and rolled down the hill crossing hollywood blvd with all the brothers chasing behind it. those things are priceless too. Pictures of great aunts and cousins of cousins. those people will be lost to the next generation if you dont write their names down and where they lived. etc. stories like who first came to your country and how they got there. where they settled. anything you know. even if your not sure. write it down. Like my grandmother used to say we were relations of benedict arnold. but it turned out it was just an old wives tale. still a funny story. Oh and dont rely on recordings Like tape or dvd they can go bad or you cant play them once they are scratched etc. We made that mistake. Pencil or archival ink is the best preserver. If you do have an old plate that has been passed down. Write what you know about it and put it in an envelope and set it beside it or tie it too it by wrapping a ribbon around the plate and the envelope together. Or staple it to the back of a piece of furniture or take a picture of it and add it to the scrapbook with details written beside the picture so people know the story behind it. It may sound overwhelming to do but if you do one piece a week or one picture. Eventually it will all get down. And that way you dont get burnt out. Good luck.What things, photo's, memories, advice, etc. should a family pass on to their children?
A journal,pictures,talk to elderly relatives and take notes.They love to tell you the old family stories,medical history,names of relatives who passed on and what year.Old newspaper clippings,
family tree,talking with family.
Photos are good. The one thing to pass on is '; Treat others the way you expect to get treated.'; That was passed on to me as I always tell my children. On thing that I id do for my children is keep a journal for each of them and for myself and my husband.
Every night I write in a journal how my day went and how I feel my life is going and what my goals are and how I am achieving those goals. I also have a journal for each of my 3 children. It is called the story of Brenna( or whatever the child's name is)as told by Mom....And every night I write in it and tell them what they learned for the day or what they did. So when they read it when they are older they can have a good laugh, I started it he day I found out I was pregnant with each of them.
Yes, photos and personal stories are important things to pass on to children. I think the most useful stories are about how people learned their life lessons from experience, and stories about what makes them a unique individual.
I have asked my family to go one step further and record their voices as well. Science has shown us that it is easier to remember things (and people!) when multiple senses are involved. So when you pull out the photos, you can also play back their voices to remember people after they are gone.
All it takes is a small tape recorder. You can transcribe onto CDs later.
Something that was personal to them, not just things. A journal or something that tells how they thought and what their values were.
Family should set a time to see each other that's what you should pass on to your children.
I think you should passs on things that would benefit their life. Like pictures of past family.
Biographies are nice, if you can convince Grandpa and Grandma to write one.
Look in any search engine for
biography questions
or
biography outline
Then ask the questions and write down the answers.
everything that make them remember you.
My suggestion would be to assemble a scrapbook. Keepsakes can be photographed and an explanation of the history placed below it in the scrapbook. Another idea is to either make an audio or videotape of families relating their history. It will be invaluable!
Their is a lot of thing to learn but the big one I think of how to be self reliant. To be able to live within your means and be able to support yourself and not need to have anyone else to help out, like say pay your bills. If you can have want you need on your own, then your not going to be the one that is filing for bankruptcy because you never learned how to live within your our means. Like making the choice to pay your bills or go to the bar, if you know how to live within you own means then your choice is that bills come first.
Today they make it to easy to get a credit card or even a loan for stuff. I do know that in today's world you need to build your credit, but you dont need to spend tomorrows money before today.
A family should pass on photos which illustrate how their children have grown, changed, and matured. We should pass on memories that will always move us and our internal spirit, and advice that will empower them with wisdom.
photo's each picture has a story behind it
Photos with labels. Otherwise the people in the pictures are soon forgotten.
dpWhat things, photo's, memories, advice, etc. should a family pass on to their children?
If you have old photos, please use a pencil or archival ink pen and write on the back or put it in a book but be sure to put who is in the pictures and how they relate to the family. for example, ted on left stephanie in middle children of Joseph and mary Doe, david matthison on right is friend of ted. That way people know who they are looking at. This is more precious than gold after you are gone. if there is an old family story you heard as a child. write it down. like the time our great grandfather had a cheese business and while he was taking his horse drawn wagon up the hill at hollywood and vine . as they were dragging the hourse drawn wagon up vine street a 400 lb wheel of cheese slid out of the wagon and rolled down the hill crossing hollywood blvd with all the brothers chasing behind it. those things are priceless too. Pictures of great aunts and cousins of cousins. those people will be lost to the next generation if you dont write their names down and where they lived. etc. stories like who first came to your country and how they got there. where they settled. anything you know. even if your not sure. write it down. Like my grandmother used to say we were relations of benedict arnold. but it turned out it was just an old wives tale. still a funny story. Oh and dont rely on recordings Like tape or dvd they can go bad or you cant play them once they are scratched etc. We made that mistake. Pencil or archival ink is the best preserver. If you do have an old plate that has been passed down. Write what you know about it and put it in an envelope and set it beside it or tie it too it by wrapping a ribbon around the plate and the envelope together. Or staple it to the back of a piece of furniture or take a picture of it and add it to the scrapbook with details written beside the picture so people know the story behind it. It may sound overwhelming to do but if you do one piece a week or one picture. Eventually it will all get down. And that way you dont get burnt out. Good luck.What things, photo's, memories, advice, etc. should a family pass on to their children?
A journal,pictures,talk to elderly relatives and take notes.They love to tell you the old family stories,medical history,names of relatives who passed on and what year.Old newspaper clippings,
family tree,talking with family.
Photos are good. The one thing to pass on is '; Treat others the way you expect to get treated.'; That was passed on to me as I always tell my children. On thing that I id do for my children is keep a journal for each of them and for myself and my husband.
Every night I write in a journal how my day went and how I feel my life is going and what my goals are and how I am achieving those goals. I also have a journal for each of my 3 children. It is called the story of Brenna( or whatever the child's name is)as told by Mom....And every night I write in it and tell them what they learned for the day or what they did. So when they read it when they are older they can have a good laugh, I started it he day I found out I was pregnant with each of them.
Yes, photos and personal stories are important things to pass on to children. I think the most useful stories are about how people learned their life lessons from experience, and stories about what makes them a unique individual.
I have asked my family to go one step further and record their voices as well. Science has shown us that it is easier to remember things (and people!) when multiple senses are involved. So when you pull out the photos, you can also play back their voices to remember people after they are gone.
All it takes is a small tape recorder. You can transcribe onto CDs later.
Something that was personal to them, not just things. A journal or something that tells how they thought and what their values were.
Family should set a time to see each other that's what you should pass on to your children.
I think you should passs on things that would benefit their life. Like pictures of past family.
Biographies are nice, if you can convince Grandpa and Grandma to write one.
Look in any search engine for
biography questions
or
biography outline
Then ask the questions and write down the answers.
everything that make them remember you.
My suggestion would be to assemble a scrapbook. Keepsakes can be photographed and an explanation of the history placed below it in the scrapbook. Another idea is to either make an audio or videotape of families relating their history. It will be invaluable!
Their is a lot of thing to learn but the big one I think of how to be self reliant. To be able to live within your means and be able to support yourself and not need to have anyone else to help out, like say pay your bills. If you can have want you need on your own, then your not going to be the one that is filing for bankruptcy because you never learned how to live within your our means. Like making the choice to pay your bills or go to the bar, if you know how to live within you own means then your choice is that bills come first.
Today they make it to easy to get a credit card or even a loan for stuff. I do know that in today's world you need to build your credit, but you dont need to spend tomorrows money before today.
A family should pass on photos which illustrate how their children have grown, changed, and matured. We should pass on memories that will always move us and our internal spirit, and advice that will empower them with wisdom.
photo's each picture has a story behind it
Photos with labels. Otherwise the people in the pictures are soon forgotten.
Any advice for someone abused by a staff and lied to my family when confronted threatens to file a police -?
report and I can't trust the police because she CLAIMS I am a Schizophrenic refusing to take meds (when I DO take ALL my meds) if I return I am afraid I might commit suicide I am PRESENTLY happy at a relativesAny advice for someone abused by a staff and lied to my family when confronted threatens to file a police -?
Do not commit suicide. There are so many wonderful things in the world you would not get to experience. Honestly, regardless of whether or not that person lies, stick to your guns, be strong, and file that police report. That person will do it again to someone else and get caught eventually. Even if you lose, you will know you stood up for yourself. Also, do get help, it will make a difference, even if u think ur happy now. I am sorry for you. You can get through this.Any advice for someone abused by a staff and lied to my family when confronted threatens to file a police -?
Please get some help. Talk to your doctor or a counselor.laura mercier
Do not commit suicide. There are so many wonderful things in the world you would not get to experience. Honestly, regardless of whether or not that person lies, stick to your guns, be strong, and file that police report. That person will do it again to someone else and get caught eventually. Even if you lose, you will know you stood up for yourself. Also, do get help, it will make a difference, even if u think ur happy now. I am sorry for you. You can get through this.Any advice for someone abused by a staff and lied to my family when confronted threatens to file a police -?
Please get some help. Talk to your doctor or a counselor.
Hi family. I just need advice on how 2 have my laptop hooked up so I can watch current events and sports.?
I need help. I'd like 2 watch internet t.v. if thats at all possible.Hi family. I just need advice on how 2 have my laptop hooked up so I can watch current events and sports.?
Download your favorite video player from the TV network station you want to watch. Usually if you lead up to the steps to watch the Internet TV show it will prompt you to install a movie player.
Download your favorite video player from the TV network station you want to watch. Usually if you lead up to the steps to watch the Internet TV show it will prompt you to install a movie player.
We are looking for accommodation that would suit a young family in Sete, France? Any advice?
You can find available accommodation for young family on this site:
www.hostelbookers.com
www.hostelbookers.com
Family problem please give me so advice?
So my mom just went through a divorce with my stepdad. My stepdad was abusive towards my mom. He never hit her but he was verbally abusive. He would also make any problems that went on between my mother and him my fault. He would say how horrible i am. Now they want to get back together and i don't want them too. because he has beat me so bad before that i was put into the hospital. But my mom doesnt seem to care what i say. please help me.Family problem please give me so advice?
Wow.
I usually have a answer but I don't on this one.
Umm.
How about asking our mother about other living options. Like aunts uncles anyone but your parenst and step-parents. That's just not right. If no other living options, call the cops. They'll handle it. Or you can tell your teacher about it, or a relative. They'll be sure to do do something.Family problem please give me so advice?
HOLY CRAP u seem to be in a HUGE problem next time he even try to touch u, u have to stand up for ur self and i know this sounds really bad but maybe u should sleep with a kife under u pilliow (just incase) and always keep ur phone in handy in case u need to call the cops.
Let them be, if he does it again, call the cops. they might not believe you right away but once it happens more then they will catch on. that or move in with your dad to let her know how serious you are.
dont put up with that... is living with your dad an option?
Wow.
I usually have a answer but I don't on this one.
Umm.
How about asking our mother about other living options. Like aunts uncles anyone but your parenst and step-parents. That's just not right. If no other living options, call the cops. They'll handle it. Or you can tell your teacher about it, or a relative. They'll be sure to do do something.Family problem please give me so advice?
HOLY CRAP u seem to be in a HUGE problem next time he even try to touch u, u have to stand up for ur self and i know this sounds really bad but maybe u should sleep with a kife under u pilliow (just incase) and always keep ur phone in handy in case u need to call the cops.
Let them be, if he does it again, call the cops. they might not believe you right away but once it happens more then they will catch on. that or move in with your dad to let her know how serious you are.
dont put up with that... is living with your dad an option?
A small family owned business wants to create their own website any advice on where online to go to do this?
Yahoo small businessA small family owned business wants to create their own website any advice on where online to go to do this?
Hello, K!
For your website:
1. Buy one on eBay (Pretty cheap, and quick!)
2. Make one yourself (Make sure it looks professional!)
3. Hire the local web designer (expensive!)
4. Hire someone from GetAFreelancer.com to build it (A LOT cheaper than number 3)
It's a simple process, but there's a lot involved.
But, starting a website is just the first step to having an online presence!
1. Make SURE your website has a ';list builder.';
You need a way to collect visitor's email addresses so that you can send them newsletters or bi-weekly new offers. Give away prizes to get email addresses!
2. Become an expert on the subject that your business is about.
Most people are not doing this, so you'll have an edge up. Start marketing yourself in forums, chatrooms, and blogs as an expert on whatever your website's subject is. Find out why your product, service, or website is better than anyone else's. (Then tell other people that!)
3. Give away tons of free samples of your product.
With online websites, it's really easy to find 100000 websites that sell or do the same thing. Make people able to TRUST your website by giving away your product for free, and then by having people write back in and saying how well it's worked for them. Otherwise, they won't trust you, and they'll just leave.
3. Come up with, and market, your USP.
(Unique Selling Point) You need to show people why you're better than anyone else!Anyways, I hoped this helped. This stuff is just the TIP of the iceberg of marketing!
I hope this helps!
Good luck with your website!
-Andy
Hello, K!
For your website:
1. Buy one on eBay (Pretty cheap, and quick!)
2. Make one yourself (Make sure it looks professional!)
3. Hire the local web designer (expensive!)
4. Hire someone from GetAFreelancer.com to build it (A LOT cheaper than number 3)
It's a simple process, but there's a lot involved.
But, starting a website is just the first step to having an online presence!
1. Make SURE your website has a ';list builder.';
You need a way to collect visitor's email addresses so that you can send them newsletters or bi-weekly new offers. Give away prizes to get email addresses!
2. Become an expert on the subject that your business is about.
Most people are not doing this, so you'll have an edge up. Start marketing yourself in forums, chatrooms, and blogs as an expert on whatever your website's subject is. Find out why your product, service, or website is better than anyone else's. (Then tell other people that!)
3. Give away tons of free samples of your product.
With online websites, it's really easy to find 100000 websites that sell or do the same thing. Make people able to TRUST your website by giving away your product for free, and then by having people write back in and saying how well it's worked for them. Otherwise, they won't trust you, and they'll just leave.
3. Come up with, and market, your USP.
(Unique Selling Point) You need to show people why you're better than anyone else!Anyways, I hoped this helped. This stuff is just the TIP of the iceberg of marketing!
I hope this helps!
Good luck with your website!
-Andy
My family thinks i'm crazy for using eastern medicine. Can you offer me any advice?
Acupuncture, Neti Pots, Chiropractors, oh my!
Have you ever had to face criticism for finding relief in eastern medicine?My family thinks i'm crazy for using eastern medicine. Can you offer me any advice?
Chinese medicine... been around for about 5000 years. Western medicine... been around for about 120. No contest.
Surely if something didn't work, people wouldn't keep using it.My family thinks i'm crazy for using eastern medicine. Can you offer me any advice?
Your Question changes sides in mid Sentence . . . . . .
Therefore Most people have answered as if you were questioning western medicine ... seems to me you are asking about your interest in TCM or Traditional Chinese Medicine, that uses Herbs, acupuncture , etc. and an approach that concentrates on strengthening the natural body functions and immunity rather than fighting symptoms as the modern western approach does.
TCM has a history that goes back more than 2000 years, that adds up to a lot of experience.
Not too many years ago It was considered Quackery to talk about Acupuncture in the west , at the same time Chinese Doctors were performing open heart surgery using acupuncture anesthesia.
Most people believe what they are told to believe , not the evidence.
This is an example of a Cultural Prejudice in action , so when you know that , you can go beyond in your personal quest for truth .
Dare to follow your intuition , Truth, sometimes has to be dug up, an area for the stout hearted only.
There is nothing wrong with western medicine. For example, Acupuncture has the aim of relieving pain and for therapeutic purposes. They are okay, they serve good purpose.
well it the first and original type of medicine. not controlled by the government, isn't bad for you it has no side effects .. and it doesn't mess up your liver
All the time... I am a yoga instructor, Reiki Practitioner, and have accupuncture treatments. Too bad for the others.
Gift of Magi.
it is best to combine the best of East %26amp; West!
wats wrong with western meds?
Have you ever had to face criticism for finding relief in eastern medicine?My family thinks i'm crazy for using eastern medicine. Can you offer me any advice?
Chinese medicine... been around for about 5000 years. Western medicine... been around for about 120. No contest.
Surely if something didn't work, people wouldn't keep using it.My family thinks i'm crazy for using eastern medicine. Can you offer me any advice?
Your Question changes sides in mid Sentence . . . . . .
Therefore Most people have answered as if you were questioning western medicine ... seems to me you are asking about your interest in TCM or Traditional Chinese Medicine, that uses Herbs, acupuncture , etc. and an approach that concentrates on strengthening the natural body functions and immunity rather than fighting symptoms as the modern western approach does.
TCM has a history that goes back more than 2000 years, that adds up to a lot of experience.
Not too many years ago It was considered Quackery to talk about Acupuncture in the west , at the same time Chinese Doctors were performing open heart surgery using acupuncture anesthesia.
Most people believe what they are told to believe , not the evidence.
This is an example of a Cultural Prejudice in action , so when you know that , you can go beyond in your personal quest for truth .
Dare to follow your intuition , Truth, sometimes has to be dug up, an area for the stout hearted only.
There is nothing wrong with western medicine. For example, Acupuncture has the aim of relieving pain and for therapeutic purposes. They are okay, they serve good purpose.
well it the first and original type of medicine. not controlled by the government, isn't bad for you it has no side effects .. and it doesn't mess up your liver
All the time... I am a yoga instructor, Reiki Practitioner, and have accupuncture treatments. Too bad for the others.
Gift of Magi.
it is best to combine the best of East %26amp; West!
wats wrong with western meds?
Heart Condition in the family...need advice?
I recently met my biological father for the first time. I found out that his mother, brother and uncle died of a heart condition. I don't think there is a name for it, but was wondering if someone could recommend the best ways to keep the heart heathly, and what things to avoid as I dont want to end up down the same path....?Heart Condition in the family...need advice?
There is only one right way to handle this. Find out what you can about his family history and your mom's. Then go to your doctor for a really good physical and follow whatever advice you are given. Anything you get off the internet is pishposh at best. Your doctor is the real thing and has the benefit of knowing everything about you.Heart Condition in the family...need advice?
are you also hypertensive? if not, then chances are you don't have it.
I largely agree with the LeChat above me.
A heart condition is not a heart condition is not a heart condition...in other words, there are volumes written on all of the possible things that can go wrong with the heart...some are hereditary, some are not so much...
The point is that it is important to know exactly what the condition is before you make any efforts to address the issue.
Whatever heart condition they had...it has a name. They may not know it, but it has a name. I know you just met these relatives but it is in your best interest to find out just what sort of heart condition they all suffer from. (request medical records if necessary) If they all have the same thing, I would get really interested to learn all I could about it.
With this family history in hand, your doctor will be able to further advise you on what if any precautions you might need to observe. Good luck.
go to webmd.com I use it a lot. Maybe it can help you.
You should take and continue taking Fish Oil, known as Omega-3. They come in pill form in the health section of most stores like Walmart and other reatail stores. That is a very important thing, because it helps promote heart health and good circulation throughout the body!
Do all those healthy things. I was wondering how ';fit'; your real mom and her family are. If they seem to be out of shape there it is a chance that it is not your genes as much as they're social habits. That would mean you may have a better chance if you eat and live healthy.
Good luck.laura mercier
There is only one right way to handle this. Find out what you can about his family history and your mom's. Then go to your doctor for a really good physical and follow whatever advice you are given. Anything you get off the internet is pishposh at best. Your doctor is the real thing and has the benefit of knowing everything about you.Heart Condition in the family...need advice?
are you also hypertensive? if not, then chances are you don't have it.
I largely agree with the LeChat above me.
A heart condition is not a heart condition is not a heart condition...in other words, there are volumes written on all of the possible things that can go wrong with the heart...some are hereditary, some are not so much...
The point is that it is important to know exactly what the condition is before you make any efforts to address the issue.
Whatever heart condition they had...it has a name. They may not know it, but it has a name. I know you just met these relatives but it is in your best interest to find out just what sort of heart condition they all suffer from. (request medical records if necessary) If they all have the same thing, I would get really interested to learn all I could about it.
With this family history in hand, your doctor will be able to further advise you on what if any precautions you might need to observe. Good luck.
go to webmd.com I use it a lot. Maybe it can help you.
You should take and continue taking Fish Oil, known as Omega-3. They come in pill form in the health section of most stores like Walmart and other reatail stores. That is a very important thing, because it helps promote heart health and good circulation throughout the body!
Do all those healthy things. I was wondering how ';fit'; your real mom and her family are. If they seem to be out of shape there it is a chance that it is not your genes as much as they're social habits. That would mean you may have a better chance if you eat and live healthy.
Good luck.
A member of my family has been taken and along with 拢350000 can't please or advice me how to find them?
a member of my family has been taken along with 拢350000 can please some buddy tell me or advice me how to find them, or if there is any agents specially for this?A member of my family has been taken and along with 拢350000 can't please or advice me how to find them?
You should try contacting the U.S. Embassy in the country where this person was taken. They will then contact the proper authorities. That would be the first step I would take. I hope everything works out for you and my prayers are with you and your family.A member of my family has been taken and along with 拢350000 can't please or advice me how to find them?
I would definately tell the police as soon as you can if you havent already - that is a must. They will help you. If Nothing else can be done about this you could always try a secret investigator. It might go as far as being on the news and radio stations, good luck - and i wish the best xx
The names ';BOND'; Sir ! ';Premium Bond'; at your sevice
yes the police!
Go to the police,you don`t have a choice.
You should try contacting the U.S. Embassy in the country where this person was taken. They will then contact the proper authorities. That would be the first step I would take. I hope everything works out for you and my prayers are with you and your family.A member of my family has been taken and along with 拢350000 can't please or advice me how to find them?
I would definately tell the police as soon as you can if you havent already - that is a must. They will help you. If Nothing else can be done about this you could always try a secret investigator. It might go as far as being on the news and radio stations, good luck - and i wish the best xx
The names ';BOND'; Sir ! ';Premium Bond'; at your sevice
yes the police!
Go to the police,you don`t have a choice.
Why does everyone ask for personal/family/relationship advice from total strangers on YA?
While there are some valid questions on here it still baffles me why anyone would take any advice from a total stranger when they ask a question like ';should I get a divorce?'; or whatever.Why does everyone ask for personal/family/relationship advice from total strangers on YA?
Because sometimes it's good to get an outsiders point of view and opinions. Someone who doesn't know the people involved on a personal level. Sometimes it helps to just get things off your chest and sometimes a person who answers may have an answer that the person asking had never even thought of before.Why does everyone ask for personal/family/relationship advice from total strangers on YA?
neutral 3rd parties sometimes have the best things to say in a given situation. advice is diff from info and opinion. ultimately, it's the asker's choice to follow the advice/info/opinion offered or not.
they would like to know the opnions of others, duh.
It's due to the fact that you do not know the person that is answering and they do not know you.
In other words I am unbiased outsider to a persons question.
For instance if you ask a question about a certain relationship that you are in. I can truelly answer you.
However if that person asks somebody they know; that person might not want to hurt them, have a hidden objective, just agree with them, might be biased towards his/her spouce, or might judge them.
Yes, I could easily judge them too, however I have forgotten all about them 5 minutes later.
In other words it is a lot easier to be judged by somebody you don't know then somebody you do.
How do you know they are ';taking'; the advice? Maybe they are simply exploring their options by seeking the opinions of unbiased people outside of their relationships. Sometimes it is difficult to talk to people you know, particularly if the situation is embarrassing.
coz pple here dont know you, so they give you a neutral answer friends will be very judgemental or might just tell you what you want to hear coz they know you.
Because it is an advice. From many sources, the person can choose a best answer.
Because they will get honest answers to questions rather than the friends who will have a biased judgment simply because they know you. This is bare bones answers that are nothing but what folks feel without any of the baggage that the asker knows about. We give them our feelings and the asker can weigh out what they want and make a decision based on a lot of different opinions rather than a limited few. It makes a good sounding board for those who need advice and help. Good question!!!
There r some situations where v feel unbalanced so a helping hand from some strangers may also help us in such situations to deal with d problem.
Afterall A STRANGER MAY ALSO B A FRIENDna.........who thinks of us better than us.
Because sometimes it's good to get an outsiders point of view and opinions. Someone who doesn't know the people involved on a personal level. Sometimes it helps to just get things off your chest and sometimes a person who answers may have an answer that the person asking had never even thought of before.Why does everyone ask for personal/family/relationship advice from total strangers on YA?
neutral 3rd parties sometimes have the best things to say in a given situation. advice is diff from info and opinion. ultimately, it's the asker's choice to follow the advice/info/opinion offered or not.
they would like to know the opnions of others, duh.
It's due to the fact that you do not know the person that is answering and they do not know you.
In other words I am unbiased outsider to a persons question.
For instance if you ask a question about a certain relationship that you are in. I can truelly answer you.
However if that person asks somebody they know; that person might not want to hurt them, have a hidden objective, just agree with them, might be biased towards his/her spouce, or might judge them.
Yes, I could easily judge them too, however I have forgotten all about them 5 minutes later.
In other words it is a lot easier to be judged by somebody you don't know then somebody you do.
How do you know they are ';taking'; the advice? Maybe they are simply exploring their options by seeking the opinions of unbiased people outside of their relationships. Sometimes it is difficult to talk to people you know, particularly if the situation is embarrassing.
coz pple here dont know you, so they give you a neutral answer friends will be very judgemental or might just tell you what you want to hear coz they know you.
Because it is an advice. From many sources, the person can choose a best answer.
Because they will get honest answers to questions rather than the friends who will have a biased judgment simply because they know you. This is bare bones answers that are nothing but what folks feel without any of the baggage that the asker knows about. We give them our feelings and the asker can weigh out what they want and make a decision based on a lot of different opinions rather than a limited few. It makes a good sounding board for those who need advice and help. Good question!!!
There r some situations where v feel unbalanced so a helping hand from some strangers may also help us in such situations to deal with d problem.
Afterall A STRANGER MAY ALSO B A FRIENDna.........who thinks of us better than us.
I'm Canadian, but I love America. I want to move down there, but what about my family? I need some advice.
I think America is an awesome country, I love everything about (with the exception of a certain person, but hey,in my opinion he's better than Harper) I also love America's patriotism and I think it's a beautiful country, but if I moved I would feel bad about leaving my family. I need some advice. What do you guys think?I'm Canadian, but I love America. I want to move down there, but what about my family? I need some advice.
go ahead AI'm Canadian, but I love America. I want to move down there, but what about my family? I need some advice.
go for it....A Big Welcome from Wisconsin...ey
I'm assuming you mean NORTH America, but sorry, no more room here, we're all filled up, what with the Mexicans, Chinese, Filipinos, Arabs, etc. coming over.
You might have better luck trying SOUTH America.
Do what you really think is best. Maybe you could move to a bordering state, such as Washington, so you're not too far away. The problem is that if you want to live here long term, it's not a piece of cake. I'm assuming it's the same as if any other nationality moves here. Immigration is quite a long and difficult process, especially after 9/11. You have to have a job here that will get you a green card, win the green card lottery, or fall in love and marry an American. My husband is Swedish and the process was so complicated even though he came here on a student visa and came from a neutral country. We decided to hire a lawyer, so we wouldn't have to try to fill out all of that paperwork. Anyway, it was well worth it. Good luck.
uhm america is crazy and different from canada...but whatever you wanna do is cool, just move to america but stay close to the border so you can go see your family!
Do it!! I have the same dilemna 'cuz I would love to move to Mexico, just for a year, but my family's holding me back (that %26amp; my friend who was supposed to do it with me just backed out!) You only live once - your family can come visit you %26amp; you can visit them. You can keep in touch via phone, emails %26amp; webcam. If you don't like it, move back to Canada!
I live in the U.S. and if you ask me, Canada is looking good these days. I would stay where you are! Maybe move to a different part of Canada.
we have a beautiful country? thats what i thought i live in wisconsin its very beautiful lots of woods to go exploring in the air smells so clean, too even our city miluakee smells clean but one day i went to New York i expected it to be great but once the plane landed and i got out side the air was horrible and i couldnt see a single tree in sight so many people crossing the road it took an hour just to go a few blocks and so much graffti im still getting over it dont move somewhere like this well i heard the candy is sweeter in canada is it true you have so many cool things i want to see....its a diffrent country which makes it cool
everyone wants what they dont have good luck in america
I think you gotta do what you gotta do. You can visit them anytime you want to, its not like your leaving them and never go back.
I moved from the states to Canada, leaving behind my kids, grandkids, parents and friends.
I have never had any regrets, and I do visit them every 2 months or so, as well as contact online and by phone.
Do what you want to do. The process itself to immigrate will take some time, so start planning for it if that is what you want to do.
explain the theme parks and natural wonders
Your family will still be there. Just make sure you keep contact and visit. Life is too short to not experience what you want while you can. If I could do things over I would wait for my family and take the time of my life.
go ahead AI'm Canadian, but I love America. I want to move down there, but what about my family? I need some advice.
go for it....A Big Welcome from Wisconsin...ey
I'm assuming you mean NORTH America, but sorry, no more room here, we're all filled up, what with the Mexicans, Chinese, Filipinos, Arabs, etc. coming over.
You might have better luck trying SOUTH America.
Do what you really think is best. Maybe you could move to a bordering state, such as Washington, so you're not too far away. The problem is that if you want to live here long term, it's not a piece of cake. I'm assuming it's the same as if any other nationality moves here. Immigration is quite a long and difficult process, especially after 9/11. You have to have a job here that will get you a green card, win the green card lottery, or fall in love and marry an American. My husband is Swedish and the process was so complicated even though he came here on a student visa and came from a neutral country. We decided to hire a lawyer, so we wouldn't have to try to fill out all of that paperwork. Anyway, it was well worth it. Good luck.
uhm america is crazy and different from canada...but whatever you wanna do is cool, just move to america but stay close to the border so you can go see your family!
Do it!! I have the same dilemna 'cuz I would love to move to Mexico, just for a year, but my family's holding me back (that %26amp; my friend who was supposed to do it with me just backed out!) You only live once - your family can come visit you %26amp; you can visit them. You can keep in touch via phone, emails %26amp; webcam. If you don't like it, move back to Canada!
I live in the U.S. and if you ask me, Canada is looking good these days. I would stay where you are! Maybe move to a different part of Canada.
we have a beautiful country? thats what i thought i live in wisconsin its very beautiful lots of woods to go exploring in the air smells so clean, too even our city miluakee smells clean but one day i went to New York i expected it to be great but once the plane landed and i got out side the air was horrible and i couldnt see a single tree in sight so many people crossing the road it took an hour just to go a few blocks and so much graffti im still getting over it dont move somewhere like this well i heard the candy is sweeter in canada is it true you have so many cool things i want to see....its a diffrent country which makes it cool
everyone wants what they dont have good luck in america
I think you gotta do what you gotta do. You can visit them anytime you want to, its not like your leaving them and never go back.
I moved from the states to Canada, leaving behind my kids, grandkids, parents and friends.
I have never had any regrets, and I do visit them every 2 months or so, as well as contact online and by phone.
Do what you want to do. The process itself to immigrate will take some time, so start planning for it if that is what you want to do.
explain the theme parks and natural wonders
Your family will still be there. Just make sure you keep contact and visit. Life is too short to not experience what you want while you can. If I could do things over I would wait for my family and take the time of my life.
POLL: What is the best advice ever given to you by one of your family members?
listen to the old lady
see what i mean about shechina?
On and on and on (a hug would be alright she can go on and on)
but she is a great contact to have she has never shown up at any of my forums. (arrogant little twit)
Muah!!POLL: What is the best advice ever given to you by one of your family members?
The best AND the worst advice I ever got from a family member was from my mother, who drilled it into my head that I should never place myself in the position of being dependent on another person. She was speaking primarily about marriage, that I should go to college and have a career so that I would never have to be dependent on a man.
I followed her advice and got a degree and a career and am independent. I am grateful, but I think I took things too far. I have the attitude that if I don't do it myself then nobody is going to do anything for me and that I am the only person I can depend on. I guess you get what you believe in, because sure enough no one ever tries to care for me in the least, even when I really need someone to help me or just be there for me. Not even a ******* hug, not even from my mother who doled out the lovely advice and went even further by forcing me to be independent by never taking care of me. So that's my whining fest for the night. What can I say? I'm tired and cranky.POLL: What is the best advice ever given to you by one of your family members?
The warning light in the dash
means it's too late,
They are simply there to remind
you that you should have fixed
it earlier you idiot !! LOL
Thus ,,,,, Idiot Lights.
Wrap you wapper before you attack her.
The Midwest Arsonist
I'm not allowed to pick out another husband by my self.
You don't need one.
get that out of there
see what i mean about shechina?
On and on and on (a hug would be alright she can go on and on)
but she is a great contact to have she has never shown up at any of my forums. (arrogant little twit)
Muah!!POLL: What is the best advice ever given to you by one of your family members?
The best AND the worst advice I ever got from a family member was from my mother, who drilled it into my head that I should never place myself in the position of being dependent on another person. She was speaking primarily about marriage, that I should go to college and have a career so that I would never have to be dependent on a man.
I followed her advice and got a degree and a career and am independent. I am grateful, but I think I took things too far. I have the attitude that if I don't do it myself then nobody is going to do anything for me and that I am the only person I can depend on. I guess you get what you believe in, because sure enough no one ever tries to care for me in the least, even when I really need someone to help me or just be there for me. Not even a ******* hug, not even from my mother who doled out the lovely advice and went even further by forcing me to be independent by never taking care of me. So that's my whining fest for the night. What can I say? I'm tired and cranky.POLL: What is the best advice ever given to you by one of your family members?
The warning light in the dash
means it's too late,
They are simply there to remind
you that you should have fixed
it earlier you idiot !! LOL
Thus ,,,,, Idiot Lights.
Wrap you wapper before you attack her.
The Midwest Arsonist
I'm not allowed to pick out another husband by my self.
You don't need one.
get that out of there
Need legal advice, family law + custody...?
My ex and I have been divorced for 2 years and my 5-year old daughter lives with me. We have joint custody, but I am the primary caregiver and decision maker. I want to move a few states away to be near my serious boyfriend (he is in the military). The problem is, my ex refuses to let me move with our daughter and will not compromise on visitation arrangements (he currently gets her every other weekend).
Has anyone had a similar situation? If I have to go to court, what are the chances that the judge will allow me to move with my daughter?Need legal advice, family law + custody...?
Dad doesn鈥檛 have to compromise. He has every right to say NO. You can go to court and ask for approval to move your child out of state. You will have to convince a judge that it鈥檚 in your CHILD鈥檚 best interest to move and that it鈥檚 a significant enough reason to override Dad鈥檚 wishes. How is you wanting to be closer to your boyfriend in your child鈥檚 best interest? It鈥檚 not. That鈥檚 in YOUR best interest.Need legal advice, family law + custody...?
We can't give ';legal advice,'; on Yahoo Answers (and I wouldn't trust it either) but here are some preliminary thoughts.
Custody and physical care revolve on the ';best interest of the child.'; So when you go to court, you have to show why this move would be in the best interest of the child, at the detriment of her seeing her father. You'll have to talk about family stability, potential economic outcomes, etc.
There have been cases in which a parent is not allowed to move out of state to get a much better job, because, overall, the move would not be in the best interests of the child. Your situation woudl be very dependent upon the specific facts of your case, the amenability of the judge, and the arguments of counsel. Since this will likely be contested, you'll probably need an attorney (who can do some case research to show precedent supporting your position). But don't be surprised if the Court says that merely moving to be close to a boyfriend (in the military, which means he's likely to move even more) is not in the best interests of the child.
Good luck.
Residence change of custodial parents is a common problem in family courts. State laws vary somewhat, but in general unless the custody agreement says otherwise; then unless the parents agree to a change, the custodial/residential parent must petition the court for modification of the final judgment to allow the change in residence. The petition must allege a good reason to change the residence; such as an employment transfer; a substantially better job; re-marriage; medical necessity, or the like.
I can tell you from years of experience that just wanting to be near your new boyfriend isn't gonna cut it. Especially if he's in the military %26amp; likely subject to further transfers.
** Note: This is a general discussion of the subject matter of your question and not legal advice. Local laws or your particular situation may change the general rules. For a specific answer to your question you should consult legal counsel with whom you can discuss all the facts of your case. **
you are wanting to uproot your daughter from her home and her father for your ';boyfriend';, don't u think that is being a little selfish and it also seems like maybe u are trying to hurt her father. the court is going to ask y u have to move and if its because of a boyfriend then i wouldn't count on it.
Sorry honey, but your ex husband has all the rights in the world. What if the shoe was on the other foot. What would you say to him?
In your divorce there was a paper about moving out of state. Look back at your paper work and read it. I believe you can and he will have to go by what the judge says.
Please contact me, I can provide you access to an Attorney/Law Firm in your State. I will be able to save you time and money. This will get you access to your Legal Rights, 24hours a day. I hope to be of service to you and yours.
Sincerely,
Jon
Listen...
You may not like to hear this, but when you made the decision to marry, get knocked up and then have a baby, all while obviously not being sure of your circumstances with regard to stability, honor, love, and abiding by your word to be with this person until death did you part, then you deserve everything you get! Simple.
He has rights, whether you like it or not. And personally, I feel sorry for your daughter that you'd be willing to move away, reducing your daughters opportunity to be with her natural father!
I pray for you, your daughter, and your decisions!
Has anyone had a similar situation? If I have to go to court, what are the chances that the judge will allow me to move with my daughter?Need legal advice, family law + custody...?
Dad doesn鈥檛 have to compromise. He has every right to say NO. You can go to court and ask for approval to move your child out of state. You will have to convince a judge that it鈥檚 in your CHILD鈥檚 best interest to move and that it鈥檚 a significant enough reason to override Dad鈥檚 wishes. How is you wanting to be closer to your boyfriend in your child鈥檚 best interest? It鈥檚 not. That鈥檚 in YOUR best interest.Need legal advice, family law + custody...?
We can't give ';legal advice,'; on Yahoo Answers (and I wouldn't trust it either) but here are some preliminary thoughts.
Custody and physical care revolve on the ';best interest of the child.'; So when you go to court, you have to show why this move would be in the best interest of the child, at the detriment of her seeing her father. You'll have to talk about family stability, potential economic outcomes, etc.
There have been cases in which a parent is not allowed to move out of state to get a much better job, because, overall, the move would not be in the best interests of the child. Your situation woudl be very dependent upon the specific facts of your case, the amenability of the judge, and the arguments of counsel. Since this will likely be contested, you'll probably need an attorney (who can do some case research to show precedent supporting your position). But don't be surprised if the Court says that merely moving to be close to a boyfriend (in the military, which means he's likely to move even more) is not in the best interests of the child.
Good luck.
Residence change of custodial parents is a common problem in family courts. State laws vary somewhat, but in general unless the custody agreement says otherwise; then unless the parents agree to a change, the custodial/residential parent must petition the court for modification of the final judgment to allow the change in residence. The petition must allege a good reason to change the residence; such as an employment transfer; a substantially better job; re-marriage; medical necessity, or the like.
I can tell you from years of experience that just wanting to be near your new boyfriend isn't gonna cut it. Especially if he's in the military %26amp; likely subject to further transfers.
** Note: This is a general discussion of the subject matter of your question and not legal advice. Local laws or your particular situation may change the general rules. For a specific answer to your question you should consult legal counsel with whom you can discuss all the facts of your case. **
you are wanting to uproot your daughter from her home and her father for your ';boyfriend';, don't u think that is being a little selfish and it also seems like maybe u are trying to hurt her father. the court is going to ask y u have to move and if its because of a boyfriend then i wouldn't count on it.
Sorry honey, but your ex husband has all the rights in the world. What if the shoe was on the other foot. What would you say to him?
In your divorce there was a paper about moving out of state. Look back at your paper work and read it. I believe you can and he will have to go by what the judge says.
Please contact me, I can provide you access to an Attorney/Law Firm in your State. I will be able to save you time and money. This will get you access to your Legal Rights, 24hours a day. I hope to be of service to you and yours.
Sincerely,
Jon
Listen...
You may not like to hear this, but when you made the decision to marry, get knocked up and then have a baby, all while obviously not being sure of your circumstances with regard to stability, honor, love, and abiding by your word to be with this person until death did you part, then you deserve everything you get! Simple.
He has rights, whether you like it or not. And personally, I feel sorry for your daughter that you'd be willing to move away, reducing your daughters opportunity to be with her natural father!
I pray for you, your daughter, and your decisions!
I'm researching family history in Flintshire, Wales - any advice?
My Great Granparents (Wright/ Reece) are from Flintshire in Wales (specifically Hawarden) and whilst I can easily obtain their birth certs etc as I get further down the line it gets harder. Does anyone know any resources I can use to research them - obtain info from parish records etc without having to go to Wales or Chester (much as i'd like to!)?
Thanks!I'm researching family history in Flintshire, Wales - any advice?
UK answer.
I would use www.ancestry.co.uk they have millions of records covering England and Wales, and you can even search the 1881 Wales census for free.
1901 Wales
1891 Wales
* 1881 Wales*
1871 Wales
1861 Wales
1851 Wales
1841 Wales
You can buy pay per view vouchers and if you need any help to get you started here in the UK you can email me through my profile or you can post a couple of names on the forum, providing they are long gone of course. I am sure there are lots of people chomping at the bit to find the information for you.
Hope this helps.
The site posted below is the Mormon site and that is completely free.
http://www.familysearch.org/I'm researching family history in Flintshire, Wales - any advice?
My mom does genealogy. We are from Sunderland, England. I know this is vague but she checks a mormon site where they keep a lot of records, not just of mormons.(I know, i'm very helpful) And she goes to a free genealogy site where people swap information and she emails people from the site. She has gotten quite far back and all from research she has done from Canada lol Im sorry, how useless. Maybe just search Mormon records genealogy, its very popular so it shouldn't be hard to find. Hopefully someone will give you an actual helpful answer. Sorrylaura mercier
Thanks!I'm researching family history in Flintshire, Wales - any advice?
UK answer.
I would use www.ancestry.co.uk they have millions of records covering England and Wales, and you can even search the 1881 Wales census for free.
1901 Wales
1891 Wales
* 1881 Wales*
1871 Wales
1861 Wales
1851 Wales
1841 Wales
You can buy pay per view vouchers and if you need any help to get you started here in the UK you can email me through my profile or you can post a couple of names on the forum, providing they are long gone of course. I am sure there are lots of people chomping at the bit to find the information for you.
Hope this helps.
The site posted below is the Mormon site and that is completely free.
http://www.familysearch.org/I'm researching family history in Flintshire, Wales - any advice?
My mom does genealogy. We are from Sunderland, England. I know this is vague but she checks a mormon site where they keep a lot of records, not just of mormons.(I know, i'm very helpful) And she goes to a free genealogy site where people swap information and she emails people from the site. She has gotten quite far back and all from research she has done from Canada lol Im sorry, how useless. Maybe just search Mormon records genealogy, its very popular so it shouldn't be hard to find. Hopefully someone will give you an actual helpful answer. Sorry
My family needs a lot of advice what changes the should make. What should Mr. and Mrs. joe do?
Mr. and Mrs. Joe don't know what to do about their fourteen-year-old son, James. He's very intelligent but has no interest in school or in learning. His grades are getting worse, but he won't do any homework. Sometimes he skips school without permission, and then he writes an excuse for the school and sings his mother's name.My family needs lot of advice, can someone help?My family needs a lot of advice what changes the should make. What should Mr. and Mrs. joe do?
they should try to show their son that they are there for him and that he can talk to them about anything and hopefully he can tell them whats really wrong and why he's not motivated in school...they have to be sensitive, non-judgmental, supportive, encouraging, and overall interested in whats going on with their son...i'm not exactly sure what the problem is with their son but this is my story: i was always the smart girl and the one who wanted to do perfect in school and who wanted to get good grades so i can get away from my horrible family by going to a good college and had the potential to get scholarships...i started slip at 15, my sophomore year in high school, i literally went from straight A's from that year to straight F's my senior year, my home life was very difficult at the time and my dad wouldn't bother to listen to me when i needed to talk to him about school or my friends he basically shut me out all the time...my mom doesn't live with us and i couldn't talk to her either because she is too caught up with her life to listen about mine...because of all the stress, i couldn't focus in class because all i was thinking about was finding a way out...i started hanging out with people years older than me who had already graduated high school who were real bad influences and i started ditching school and going to my boyfriends house to get high to the point where i would eventually pass out...i started becoming depressed and the fact that my dad didn't even notice or care when i did try to share stuff with him didn't help so things got worse...i missed so much school i couldn't walk at my graduation and had to make up my classes at adult school...looking back i hate how things turned out, but the whole time all i wanted was for my parents to care about me and just to listen to me...they need to be in contact with the school and his councilor to keep on top of when he's missing school and have talks with his teachers to see how he can be motivated, he might not like the idea of parent involvement but he'll realize later on it was for the best...good luck.
they should try to show their son that they are there for him and that he can talk to them about anything and hopefully he can tell them whats really wrong and why he's not motivated in school...they have to be sensitive, non-judgmental, supportive, encouraging, and overall interested in whats going on with their son...i'm not exactly sure what the problem is with their son but this is my story: i was always the smart girl and the one who wanted to do perfect in school and who wanted to get good grades so i can get away from my horrible family by going to a good college and had the potential to get scholarships...i started slip at 15, my sophomore year in high school, i literally went from straight A's from that year to straight F's my senior year, my home life was very difficult at the time and my dad wouldn't bother to listen to me when i needed to talk to him about school or my friends he basically shut me out all the time...my mom doesn't live with us and i couldn't talk to her either because she is too caught up with her life to listen about mine...because of all the stress, i couldn't focus in class because all i was thinking about was finding a way out...i started hanging out with people years older than me who had already graduated high school who were real bad influences and i started ditching school and going to my boyfriends house to get high to the point where i would eventually pass out...i started becoming depressed and the fact that my dad didn't even notice or care when i did try to share stuff with him didn't help so things got worse...i missed so much school i couldn't walk at my graduation and had to make up my classes at adult school...looking back i hate how things turned out, but the whole time all i wanted was for my parents to care about me and just to listen to me...they need to be in contact with the school and his councilor to keep on top of when he's missing school and have talks with his teachers to see how he can be motivated, he might not like the idea of parent involvement but he'll realize later on it was for the best...good luck.
Im 35 single,she is 47 married with 2 kids.we both r like soulmates and deeply in love.she has a family.advice
she has a balanced family,accomlished husband and kids.I am a regular guy who has his 2 feet on the ground,i make a good living but not too hotshot.i love her like the dickens and i m sure she also does.just that each way seems dead ended,i mean i am not a jerk to topple so many lives for my selfish needs and on the other hand i just cant seem to live without her.we have a lot in common ,in terms of origins,background and tastes which is no such case with her husband.worst is the fact that she lives in another continent and comes only for her holidays once a year.solutions anyone?Im 35 single,she is 47 married with 2 kids.we both r like soulmates and deeply in love.she has a family.advice
You are her boy toy!!
Break it off unless you like being used!Im 35 single,she is 47 married with 2 kids.we both r like soulmates and deeply in love.she has a family.advice
Solutions? Check out of cyber fantasy-land and check back into reality. She already has a family and you hardly even know her. Have you gotten any medical counseling lately? Look in the phone book under ';PSY....';
Ok guy. reality check. She doesn't love you. She just uses you when she is in the country. IF she really wanted to be with you, she would be. Not with her husband. She has a life, a husband and kids. Get yourself someone to take your mind off of her. Someone on your continent without a husband and kids. Good Luck.
It would take a miracle to make this work. Im sorry.
The best thing you could do is leave this alone, let her go and try and move on.... at least for the childrens sakes if nothing else.
You MUST get over her, it wont work.
You are her boy toy!!
Break it off unless you like being used!Im 35 single,she is 47 married with 2 kids.we both r like soulmates and deeply in love.she has a family.advice
Solutions? Check out of cyber fantasy-land and check back into reality. She already has a family and you hardly even know her. Have you gotten any medical counseling lately? Look in the phone book under ';PSY....';
Ok guy. reality check. She doesn't love you. She just uses you when she is in the country. IF she really wanted to be with you, she would be. Not with her husband. She has a life, a husband and kids. Get yourself someone to take your mind off of her. Someone on your continent without a husband and kids. Good Luck.
It would take a miracle to make this work. Im sorry.
The best thing you could do is leave this alone, let her go and try and move on.... at least for the childrens sakes if nothing else.
You MUST get over her, it wont work.
What is the latest advice from the Vatican regarding family planning?
Just Do It!
Where is that Nike add when you need it?What is the latest advice from the Vatican regarding family planning?
Family Planning actually means and includes preventive ((pregnancy)) which allows the couple to choose when they are ready ((financially/emotionally/spiritually)) to have children.
Most who believe in the Bible say that it says you can not spill your seed on the ground ((no masturbating or pulling out)) So they who believe in this route will tell you that it is a sin to have protected sex with your spouse, you are to have all the children you can possibly get pregnant with ... this way the Vatican can continue to protect their Priests while molesting your children.What is the latest advice from the Vatican regarding family planning?
Get married first then plan to have a large family.
I'm not aware of the latest word from the Vatican but the usual advice has been, don't plan. Breed.
Where is that Nike add when you need it?What is the latest advice from the Vatican regarding family planning?
Family Planning actually means and includes preventive ((pregnancy)) which allows the couple to choose when they are ready ((financially/emotionally/spiritually)) to have children.
Most who believe in the Bible say that it says you can not spill your seed on the ground ((no masturbating or pulling out)) So they who believe in this route will tell you that it is a sin to have protected sex with your spouse, you are to have all the children you can possibly get pregnant with ... this way the Vatican can continue to protect their Priests while molesting your children.What is the latest advice from the Vatican regarding family planning?
Get married first then plan to have a large family.
I'm not aware of the latest word from the Vatican but the usual advice has been, don't plan. Breed.
My family is moving. Can you help with advice about mail?
We have completed change of address cards, but fear that we won't get state refunds which we filed on time, Apr. 15th. As I understand it government checks are not forwarded. Is there a website to report the change or some other way to report it?My family is moving. Can you help with advice about mail?
Look up the states you are waiting on refunds from on (whatever state).gov There should be a link or search box for change of address. You just need to notify the states. Honestly tho unless you just filed near April 15th you should have had your refund by now. adn even if you filed on April 15th you should of had your state refund.
check out the .gov sites. If you think a check got lost notify them immediately. Also, if you call and you get a recording and want to talk to a live person try this trick....when it goes into its spiel push one for this, push two for that...keep pushing zero. It confuses the automated system and instead of letting you hang up a real person will come on to help you. (works 90% of the time!)My family is moving. Can you help with advice about mail?
call your state revenue office and they should lead you in the proper direction and if you are waiting on federal, call IrS office and report your change of address.
once you start working in a new state, the irs will know all about it.
state u live in .gov or call the state irs dept and give new address.
Look up the states you are waiting on refunds from on (whatever state).gov There should be a link or search box for change of address. You just need to notify the states. Honestly tho unless you just filed near April 15th you should have had your refund by now. adn even if you filed on April 15th you should of had your state refund.
check out the .gov sites. If you think a check got lost notify them immediately. Also, if you call and you get a recording and want to talk to a live person try this trick....when it goes into its spiel push one for this, push two for that...keep pushing zero. It confuses the automated system and instead of letting you hang up a real person will come on to help you. (works 90% of the time!)My family is moving. Can you help with advice about mail?
call your state revenue office and they should lead you in the proper direction and if you are waiting on federal, call IrS office and report your change of address.
once you start working in a new state, the irs will know all about it.
state u live in .gov or call the state irs dept and give new address.
Isn't it sad that I have no family and I have to get motherly advice off YA?
I'm feeling sorry for myself as I don't have a mother or a grandmother and I want someone to tell me it's OK to raise my child off YA.
I'm crying because I feel so alone - can you reassure me that all will be OKIsn't it sad that I have no family and I have to get motherly advice off YA?
I have an adopted mom, a biological mother, and a mother in law and the only one I trust at all when it comes to child rearing is my Mom-in-law!! Even with her we do not see eye to eye on a lot of things!! Like when I waited a little longer than most moms to start feeding my child solid foods (I had terrible food allergies and didn't want my child to have the same thing) she kept trying to tell me he needed to eat!! I looked at her and said,';Does he look like he is starving???'; I get most of my parenting advice from here!! Well, that and the EC forum and an extended breastfeeding forum. My little man (13 mo) seems pretty healthy and happy!! And I have found that instead of just one opinion to choose from, on here you have many and can figure out which one really fits your situation!!Isn't it sad that I have no family and I have to get motherly advice off YA?
its ok to get advice off yahoo but you need a real life support group that you can actually see. Do you go to church? i don't have the kind of parents i can actually go to for advise but i have found support from other mothers in my church. also another group is called MOMS club. they get together about once a week. it is really neat because you can visit with other mothers while your children also get to be around other children. it is so refreshing.
heres the link
http://www.momsclub.org/
i hope this helps
Everything will definitely be alright. At least you've got YA. Can you imagine what motherless daughters did generations ago? Maybe you can look for other women in your family or your community to mentor you as a new mom. Believe me, there are no shortage of women willing to give you the benefit of their new mom experience!
Do you have any other family (i.e. female cousins, aunts) with children that you admire, maybe even friends? It doesn't always have to be from your mother or grandmother where you learn to parent. I LOVE my mom and my grandma, but would I raise a child 100% by what they said? No, because I agree they have made some mistakes, although all in all did some quality parenting. You have common sense don't you? With good common sense you can raise a child. I would also reccomend parenting books, but I would research which one is the best to buy because some are just trash. Good Luck!!!
there are plenty of moms in your type of situation, sometimes having someone isn't always better (crappy, deadbeat, etc) there are moms on a couple of websites that you can talk with, one i know of thats easy to talk on is www.cafemom.com. its just for moms to be, moms, grandmas. there are groups to join based on ages (16-35 yrs is the typical age range), locations, single/divorced/separated, and many others, other sites with good information are listed below
http://www.CafeMom.com has a lot of supportive mothers. You can find some locally to talk to. There are groups you can join. EVERYONE on the site is a mother to at least one child. Think Myspace for Mothers Only. You can upload pictures of your precious bundle, ask advice, give advice. It's like Yahoo Answers, but much more focused on providing support solely for all mothers out there. Most of the people I know on the site are single mothers, as well, and they're great to talk to when you're feeling down.
It's okay! Everyone gets down once in a while. Everyone needs pick-me-ups, and the internet is convenient when you're raising Baby because talking on the phone is such a hassle when Baby's fussy or when you don't want to wake him up but nobody can understand you over the phone because you're whispering. And it's faster than snail-mail. And, best yet, you don't have to go out and go out of your way to find people to talk to or ';hang out'; with -- you don't have to get Baby ready or mess up his daily routine so that you can spend just a couple minutes with a friend. We're all right here for you!
It will all be okay.
i think its fine, i have support but still like to see what other mothers are doing with the same problems.........occasionally you get the dumb people who say stupid things and may make you doubt yourself, but dont read them ones.....do you have child health nurses close by? i know they arent like a mother but you can tell them anything and they've seen it all......my nurse came to me the other day asked how i was and i said ';good'; then burst into tears, she gave me a hug and assured me how im feeling is normal.......it was weird but comforting also..........it must be hard having no support like that, i have heaps of support in terms of mothers x2 grandamas x 2 aunties x4 dads x 2 sisters x 2 etc and i know i''d be a mess without them......hang in there, if you can than your stronger than you know!!!
hey whats wrong with YA I get heaps of advise of here, its good to know that other people are experiencing the same problems as you, have you done a mothers group that can really help you to talk to other mothes whose babies are around the same age, i go to one and i enjoy getting out of the house once a week and talking to other mothers and being reassured im not the only one, also make sure you arnt depressed, if you dont feel right then go speak to a doctor!! your doing a great job, im sure thats what your mum would say to you.
everyone feels alone, really we do. some may not say they do but its true. Everything will be okay as long as you realize the world isn't perfect like the stories on t.v or in books. Life kinda sucks at times but you shouldn't focus on the bad, but rather on the good. It will make you feel a lot better, and I don't see any kind of problem raising a child off YA, I mean your communicating with the world, who better to talk to?
Yes - and harder for the Dads out there. :(
There are usually other mothers around, at the shops, play centres, malls; who love to dote and give out advice.
In the end it is your child and you should treat *any* advice with a grain of salt - and then do what is best for your child.
You are never alone.
i was adopted and raised my kids on dr.spocks baby book because we didn,t get along at all.but now you have ya and there are doctors and nurses on here,so do what you have to do.but in an emergency take the child to a doctor or er.be safe.don,t feel alone,God and his angel,s are with you.you are loved by people on here.there are caring people on this website believe me.God Bless
I have no family that can advise me either. It is sad but not your fault! It will be ok. Find a few friends you can confide in. Sometimes people on here are MEAN! Well I am here I don't know everything but I have 3 kids! LOL
you can email me at jen_mom2maddy@yahoo.com if you have any questions
i have 2 baby girls 10and22 months andi was a preschool teacher so i would like to think i know it all...well at least to age 5 lol
sweet heart.... Your never alone! You have no sisters, aunts? friends? You do have a family, because everyone has a family :) email me at babygurl_141506@yahoo.com
It's fine. People do it everyday. You need to see a doctor.
I'm crying because I feel so alone - can you reassure me that all will be OKIsn't it sad that I have no family and I have to get motherly advice off YA?
I have an adopted mom, a biological mother, and a mother in law and the only one I trust at all when it comes to child rearing is my Mom-in-law!! Even with her we do not see eye to eye on a lot of things!! Like when I waited a little longer than most moms to start feeding my child solid foods (I had terrible food allergies and didn't want my child to have the same thing) she kept trying to tell me he needed to eat!! I looked at her and said,';Does he look like he is starving???'; I get most of my parenting advice from here!! Well, that and the EC forum and an extended breastfeeding forum. My little man (13 mo) seems pretty healthy and happy!! And I have found that instead of just one opinion to choose from, on here you have many and can figure out which one really fits your situation!!Isn't it sad that I have no family and I have to get motherly advice off YA?
its ok to get advice off yahoo but you need a real life support group that you can actually see. Do you go to church? i don't have the kind of parents i can actually go to for advise but i have found support from other mothers in my church. also another group is called MOMS club. they get together about once a week. it is really neat because you can visit with other mothers while your children also get to be around other children. it is so refreshing.
heres the link
http://www.momsclub.org/
i hope this helps
Everything will definitely be alright. At least you've got YA. Can you imagine what motherless daughters did generations ago? Maybe you can look for other women in your family or your community to mentor you as a new mom. Believe me, there are no shortage of women willing to give you the benefit of their new mom experience!
Do you have any other family (i.e. female cousins, aunts) with children that you admire, maybe even friends? It doesn't always have to be from your mother or grandmother where you learn to parent. I LOVE my mom and my grandma, but would I raise a child 100% by what they said? No, because I agree they have made some mistakes, although all in all did some quality parenting. You have common sense don't you? With good common sense you can raise a child. I would also reccomend parenting books, but I would research which one is the best to buy because some are just trash. Good Luck!!!
there are plenty of moms in your type of situation, sometimes having someone isn't always better (crappy, deadbeat, etc) there are moms on a couple of websites that you can talk with, one i know of thats easy to talk on is www.cafemom.com. its just for moms to be, moms, grandmas. there are groups to join based on ages (16-35 yrs is the typical age range), locations, single/divorced/separated, and many others, other sites with good information are listed below
http://www.CafeMom.com has a lot of supportive mothers. You can find some locally to talk to. There are groups you can join. EVERYONE on the site is a mother to at least one child. Think Myspace for Mothers Only. You can upload pictures of your precious bundle, ask advice, give advice. It's like Yahoo Answers, but much more focused on providing support solely for all mothers out there. Most of the people I know on the site are single mothers, as well, and they're great to talk to when you're feeling down.
It's okay! Everyone gets down once in a while. Everyone needs pick-me-ups, and the internet is convenient when you're raising Baby because talking on the phone is such a hassle when Baby's fussy or when you don't want to wake him up but nobody can understand you over the phone because you're whispering. And it's faster than snail-mail. And, best yet, you don't have to go out and go out of your way to find people to talk to or ';hang out'; with -- you don't have to get Baby ready or mess up his daily routine so that you can spend just a couple minutes with a friend. We're all right here for you!
It will all be okay.
i think its fine, i have support but still like to see what other mothers are doing with the same problems.........occasionally you get the dumb people who say stupid things and may make you doubt yourself, but dont read them ones.....do you have child health nurses close by? i know they arent like a mother but you can tell them anything and they've seen it all......my nurse came to me the other day asked how i was and i said ';good'; then burst into tears, she gave me a hug and assured me how im feeling is normal.......it was weird but comforting also..........it must be hard having no support like that, i have heaps of support in terms of mothers x2 grandamas x 2 aunties x4 dads x 2 sisters x 2 etc and i know i''d be a mess without them......hang in there, if you can than your stronger than you know!!!
hey whats wrong with YA I get heaps of advise of here, its good to know that other people are experiencing the same problems as you, have you done a mothers group that can really help you to talk to other mothes whose babies are around the same age, i go to one and i enjoy getting out of the house once a week and talking to other mothers and being reassured im not the only one, also make sure you arnt depressed, if you dont feel right then go speak to a doctor!! your doing a great job, im sure thats what your mum would say to you.
everyone feels alone, really we do. some may not say they do but its true. Everything will be okay as long as you realize the world isn't perfect like the stories on t.v or in books. Life kinda sucks at times but you shouldn't focus on the bad, but rather on the good. It will make you feel a lot better, and I don't see any kind of problem raising a child off YA, I mean your communicating with the world, who better to talk to?
Yes - and harder for the Dads out there. :(
There are usually other mothers around, at the shops, play centres, malls; who love to dote and give out advice.
In the end it is your child and you should treat *any* advice with a grain of salt - and then do what is best for your child.
You are never alone.
i was adopted and raised my kids on dr.spocks baby book because we didn,t get along at all.but now you have ya and there are doctors and nurses on here,so do what you have to do.but in an emergency take the child to a doctor or er.be safe.don,t feel alone,God and his angel,s are with you.you are loved by people on here.there are caring people on this website believe me.God Bless
I have no family that can advise me either. It is sad but not your fault! It will be ok. Find a few friends you can confide in. Sometimes people on here are MEAN! Well I am here I don't know everything but I have 3 kids! LOL
you can email me at jen_mom2maddy@yahoo.com if you have any questions
i have 2 baby girls 10and22 months andi was a preschool teacher so i would like to think i know it all...well at least to age 5 lol
sweet heart.... Your never alone! You have no sisters, aunts? friends? You do have a family, because everyone has a family :) email me at babygurl_141506@yahoo.com
It's fine. People do it everyday. You need to see a doctor.
Advice for family of 80 yr old grandfather with alzheimers?
my grandfather has alzheimers and his wife just died. it's not too severe yet, he can still take care of himself, but he needs someone to remind him to do stuff (dr. appointments, take medicine, ect). and more than that, he needs companionship. he's horrified of the idea of living in a retirement home (or as he calls it the old folks home). so, we are trying to get people to live with him. (you know, from those companies that have employies that their entire job is living with and taking care of an elderly person). but he doesn't like this either. he refuses to like any of the people that we put with him. he wants to either live by himself or live with us. but, we can't leave him alone and we can't be his main caretakers. there's just no way. but he can't grasp either thing. he's always sad, depressed, ect. he used to be the happiest person i knew. i know that losing a spouse of 54 years is hard, but we've got to get him to accept the fact that he has to have someone living with himAdvice for family of 80 yr old grandfather with alzheimers?
I'm very sorry to hear of your situation and my heart goes out to you all.
You need to try and sit down and have a talk with him explaining your concerns.
You might want to get him some counseling or find a support group for him.
My grandmother was in the same situation but she soon died of a broken heart. We had gone thru many agencies and finally found someone.
Try talking with the rest of the family to see if their could be someone else to help try and take care of him. Maybe the local YMCA or hospital can give advice on places he can go for companionship.
I wish you all the best of luck.Advice for family of 80 yr old grandfather with alzheimers?
Very tough situation. I'll pray for you.
I'm sorry to hear this. It is certainly tough on you and your family.
Older folks have a difficulty in adjustment to something new/strange. Perhaps that is the reason for his declining the service you mentioned. Is it possible for you to discuss with the company to help by introducing the service of the employee in stages. e.g. Let grandpa meet the person for a chat for a few times, than for a meal, then let the person help him with some activities in his daily living, before proceeding with having the person live in with him.
Your family would give need to give the necessary support by being around as that person ';break in'; slowly, to build rapport and gain your grandpa's trust.
Other alternatives:
1) Accede to your grandpa's request. Have him to live in with you. Since he has been staying over for weekends, I suppose living space is not the issue. As for his care and supervision while you are at work, perhaps a neighbour or two would be glad to have him during the day while you are at work.
2) Another avenue is to place him in a Day Centre during your absense.
After work, you could bring him home either from your neighbour or the Day Centre.
Yes, you would need to sacrifise on your privacy to a certain degree. But, think of the sacrifice you made for the family when he was young. Further, in all possibility, even if you want to, he won't have many years with you.
Why can't he live with his family? There is no possible way it could work out? Who are you putting first here? In many other countries all over the world, families take care of their elderly and disabled in the home. It is so sad that people want to shirk their responsibilities to eachother as human beings, and throw our elderly in homes to die. Make his last few years happy. Bring Gramps home.
Edit: i understand the difficulties with an elderly family member who has dementia. my grandfather lives in a retirement home, and just had surgery on a skin infe ction due to neglect of his caregivers. perhaps you could find a home health care nurse or organization that would care for him in a more comfortable and safe surrounding to him? good luck and god bless.laura mercier
I'm very sorry to hear of your situation and my heart goes out to you all.
You need to try and sit down and have a talk with him explaining your concerns.
You might want to get him some counseling or find a support group for him.
My grandmother was in the same situation but she soon died of a broken heart. We had gone thru many agencies and finally found someone.
Try talking with the rest of the family to see if their could be someone else to help try and take care of him. Maybe the local YMCA or hospital can give advice on places he can go for companionship.
I wish you all the best of luck.Advice for family of 80 yr old grandfather with alzheimers?
Very tough situation. I'll pray for you.
I'm sorry to hear this. It is certainly tough on you and your family.
Older folks have a difficulty in adjustment to something new/strange. Perhaps that is the reason for his declining the service you mentioned. Is it possible for you to discuss with the company to help by introducing the service of the employee in stages. e.g. Let grandpa meet the person for a chat for a few times, than for a meal, then let the person help him with some activities in his daily living, before proceeding with having the person live in with him.
Your family would give need to give the necessary support by being around as that person ';break in'; slowly, to build rapport and gain your grandpa's trust.
Other alternatives:
1) Accede to your grandpa's request. Have him to live in with you. Since he has been staying over for weekends, I suppose living space is not the issue. As for his care and supervision while you are at work, perhaps a neighbour or two would be glad to have him during the day while you are at work.
2) Another avenue is to place him in a Day Centre during your absense.
After work, you could bring him home either from your neighbour or the Day Centre.
Yes, you would need to sacrifise on your privacy to a certain degree. But, think of the sacrifice you made for the family when he was young. Further, in all possibility, even if you want to, he won't have many years with you.
Why can't he live with his family? There is no possible way it could work out? Who are you putting first here? In many other countries all over the world, families take care of their elderly and disabled in the home. It is so sad that people want to shirk their responsibilities to eachother as human beings, and throw our elderly in homes to die. Make his last few years happy. Bring Gramps home.
Edit: i understand the difficulties with an elderly family member who has dementia. my grandfather lives in a retirement home, and just had surgery on a skin infe ction due to neglect of his caregivers. perhaps you could find a home health care nurse or organization that would care for him in a more comfortable and safe surrounding to him? good luck and god bless.
I have sponsorship family problem , I need advice?
I live in Canada. I applied sponsorship for my family few years ago. But recently i revived an letter that say you are not eligible because your income dose not meet minimum requirement for family sponsorship. Actually my accountant had mistake about my financial documents.
what can I do right now. They said you can continue your application but your chance is low and immigration officer will decide about your application. Any body have idea about this situation?I have sponsorship family problem , I need advice?
well you can have the accountant write a letter explaining that it was his mistake, or you can get another sponsor. i don't know about canada but i know that in the usa you can even have a cosponsor.
what can I do right now. They said you can continue your application but your chance is low and immigration officer will decide about your application. Any body have idea about this situation?I have sponsorship family problem , I need advice?
well you can have the accountant write a letter explaining that it was his mistake, or you can get another sponsor. i don't know about canada but i know that in the usa you can even have a cosponsor.
I am looking for a Christian career where I can help people, but still need to support my family. Advice?
My giftings are welcoming people, talking to them, getting to know them. Plugging them in somewhere. I also am very organized. I have experience with writing and editing/proofreading. I've also been told I have an excellent speaking voice and should be a DJ (though I have no broadcast schooling).
I'm looking to get out of the secular career I have and start fresh working for God. I'm just having trouble finding something that fits my experience and what I'm interested in that also pays decently (enough to support my wife and eventual children). I'm not looking for a super high salary, just something to live on.
If anyone has any advice on where I can look or what path I should go down, I'd appreciate it. Thank you.I am looking for a Christian career where I can help people, but still need to support my family. Advice?
Whatever job you do is the Lord's work. You work for God no matter what you do, so find something you think you can do and enjoy for a very long time. There is not a lot of money in pastoral ministry, but there are usually available jobs. Thing is, the average pastor has to find another job about every three years. This is very rough on the family. But if you have a good secular career where you can be a light for God, then you can help in your church, and even pursue certificates and such that would qualify you to help more there if you like.
If you are intent on being a professional Christian, consider getting a degree in Christian counseling, as such counselors seem to always have work. Or, you could find a parachurch ministry and start working with them. Almost everything is going to require some qualification or experience unless you are willing to really start over from the ground up. I could talk more on this if you like.I am looking for a Christian career where I can help people, but still need to support my family. Advice?
Christians are not exclusive. Go out and find a job that helps others. There are many wonderful not for profit organizations you can be a part of.
The fact that you need to be a part of some exclusive Christian organization is bogus and flies in the face of everything Jesus taught.
Stop looking for excuses not to work and get off your butt.
Sounds as if you might want to look into counseling or social work as a profession. You'd probably need to take lots of classes, but if you're aiming to work in service to God, then you can rely on Him to help you.
Above all, PRAY about it! Lay your heart and mind wide-open before the Lord every morning, and then get out there and let Him direct your steps.
May God bless you and your family with peace and prosperity!
Ask the Lord were he wants you to use your Gifts and what you would be best at and where acknowledge him in all your ways and he shall direct your path Be blessed Lisa
I would suggest maybe the Coast Guard, I was in the Marine Corps and your qualities show that you might do well in the military, the Coast Guard is also non-deployable and you will get all the military benifets that the goverment offers without the chance of getting sent over seas. There are religious paths that you can take in the military, I don't know exactly what they are called for the Guard but in the Corps we have Chaplains, who are part of the Navy. The C.G. should have something similiar.
An honest days work for an honest days pay is a Christian's way!
TRAVELING OVERSEER!!!
FULL TIME PIONEER?
http://www.watchtower.org/
Go back to school and get a degree in Theology than find an Evalengical Christian TV minister and hook up with their organization...I am sure they'll have something for you to do. Frankly, you don't need to work for God (if there is one) you need to work for the good of Humanity.
I'm looking to get out of the secular career I have and start fresh working for God. I'm just having trouble finding something that fits my experience and what I'm interested in that also pays decently (enough to support my wife and eventual children). I'm not looking for a super high salary, just something to live on.
If anyone has any advice on where I can look or what path I should go down, I'd appreciate it. Thank you.I am looking for a Christian career where I can help people, but still need to support my family. Advice?
Whatever job you do is the Lord's work. You work for God no matter what you do, so find something you think you can do and enjoy for a very long time. There is not a lot of money in pastoral ministry, but there are usually available jobs. Thing is, the average pastor has to find another job about every three years. This is very rough on the family. But if you have a good secular career where you can be a light for God, then you can help in your church, and even pursue certificates and such that would qualify you to help more there if you like.
If you are intent on being a professional Christian, consider getting a degree in Christian counseling, as such counselors seem to always have work. Or, you could find a parachurch ministry and start working with them. Almost everything is going to require some qualification or experience unless you are willing to really start over from the ground up. I could talk more on this if you like.I am looking for a Christian career where I can help people, but still need to support my family. Advice?
Christians are not exclusive. Go out and find a job that helps others. There are many wonderful not for profit organizations you can be a part of.
The fact that you need to be a part of some exclusive Christian organization is bogus and flies in the face of everything Jesus taught.
Stop looking for excuses not to work and get off your butt.
Sounds as if you might want to look into counseling or social work as a profession. You'd probably need to take lots of classes, but if you're aiming to work in service to God, then you can rely on Him to help you.
Above all, PRAY about it! Lay your heart and mind wide-open before the Lord every morning, and then get out there and let Him direct your steps.
May God bless you and your family with peace and prosperity!
Ask the Lord were he wants you to use your Gifts and what you would be best at and where acknowledge him in all your ways and he shall direct your path Be blessed Lisa
I would suggest maybe the Coast Guard, I was in the Marine Corps and your qualities show that you might do well in the military, the Coast Guard is also non-deployable and you will get all the military benifets that the goverment offers without the chance of getting sent over seas. There are religious paths that you can take in the military, I don't know exactly what they are called for the Guard but in the Corps we have Chaplains, who are part of the Navy. The C.G. should have something similiar.
An honest days work for an honest days pay is a Christian's way!
TRAVELING OVERSEER!!!
FULL TIME PIONEER?
http://www.watchtower.org/
Go back to school and get a degree in Theology than find an Evalengical Christian TV minister and hook up with their organization...I am sure they'll have something for you to do. Frankly, you don't need to work for God (if there is one) you need to work for the good of Humanity.
Going to Hickory, NC soon. Any advice for family or couple's activities?
Going to visit some friends on vacation. Just looking for some local activities.Going to Hickory, NC soon. Any advice for family or couple's activities?
say hello to my aunt...
you can climb grandfather mountain, that's fun.
Lake James is also nearby which is fun for renting jet skis and boats and spending a day on the water.
say hello to my aunt...
you can climb grandfather mountain, that's fun.
Lake James is also nearby which is fun for renting jet skis and boats and spending a day on the water.
I need help with makeup advice for family photos.?
I am in my mid twenties and I have never been the kind of girl who wears makeup. It's not that I never have, I just am way too busy for it most of the time. What I need help with is knowing if I should wear makeup for a family photo. If I don't will I look washed out? If I should wear it how dramatic/subtle should it be? Help please? Thanks!!I need help with makeup advice for family photos.?
For family picture Less is Best (I know very Cliche) Look Natural. Apply concealer. Then Brush on some foundation, followed by a light blush. Apply lipstick/lipbalm with a slight shine and then put on mascara. Good Luck :) I need help with makeup advice for family photos.?
wear under eye circle concealer first off and even out your skin tone.
get mascara.
some rosy blush and lipstick .
For family picture Less is Best (I know very Cliche) Look Natural. Apply concealer. Then Brush on some foundation, followed by a light blush. Apply lipstick/lipbalm with a slight shine and then put on mascara. Good Luck :) I need help with makeup advice for family photos.?
wear under eye circle concealer first off and even out your skin tone.
get mascara.
some rosy blush and lipstick .
I Have troble balencing my friends my homework and my family have any advice?
I know some of you out there have been there.. and i need some ideas.
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thanksI Have troble balencing my friends my homework and my family have any advice?
';FIRST';....';U';...have to prioritize....what is more important to...';U';...:1.Carear; 2.Future; 3.Friends[friends are when ';U'; are giving, stop giving %26amp; they will no longer be your friends]; 4.Family; 5.Your obligations????????
YES, I pay more attantion to my friends and I did not finishe school....but they did....they moved to different social level then mine %26amp; they forgot about me or just looking down on me. But I got ahaed of them finaly and now I do not have friends any/more....just aquintence: ';Hi....Hi';....';Bye.....Bye';...::))) Family, yes, ';U';...need...then %26amp; they ...need ...';U';. Homework...think about....';Bill Gates';.I Have troble balencing my friends my homework and my family have any advice?
get a paper and write down w/ it your time schedule and just don't failed to follow it! =)
try to make plans with them once a week if possible. for instance, i have dinner dates with my parents every thrus. just to catch up. hope that helps. good luck
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thanksI Have troble balencing my friends my homework and my family have any advice?
';FIRST';....';U';...have to prioritize....what is more important to...';U';...:1.Carear; 2.Future; 3.Friends[friends are when ';U'; are giving, stop giving %26amp; they will no longer be your friends]; 4.Family; 5.Your obligations????????
YES, I pay more attantion to my friends and I did not finishe school....but they did....they moved to different social level then mine %26amp; they forgot about me or just looking down on me. But I got ahaed of them finaly and now I do not have friends any/more....just aquintence: ';Hi....Hi';....';Bye.....Bye';...::))) Family, yes, ';U';...need...then %26amp; they ...need ...';U';. Homework...think about....';Bill Gates';.I Have troble balencing my friends my homework and my family have any advice?
get a paper and write down w/ it your time schedule and just don't failed to follow it! =)
try to make plans with them once a week if possible. for instance, i have dinner dates with my parents every thrus. just to catch up. hope that helps. good luck
Advice on family complications with personal decision?
I'm 18 and unfortunately living at home. I plan on moving out as soon as possible and there's a GSD at a shelter which I might possibly want to adopt. I've known I would always get a second dog (even without my current dog's confidence issues) and planned on doing so after moving out, but in some ways my dog has been regressing and the sooner I get a second dog the better. The issue is this: though I'm inclined to simply come home with him for a couple reasons (my ma brought home a Corgi without warning and recently I was led to believe we'd get the kind of dog that mine needs around only for the family to impulsively get a dog of the complete opposite) I realize it may not be the best idea or approach.
Any suggestions?
I realize I could very well need ';parental permission'; as well in adopting him, thus another reason I'm seeking advice.Advice on family complications with personal decision?
Ask you family if you can make the finale decision about the the new dog because you know your dog the best and you want to make sure that you find one with the right personality for your dog. Isn't it important to get what the dog really needs. Take care HeatherAdvice on family complications with personal decision?
No dog without ';Parental Permission';. Mom gets to bring home any dog she wishes with out warning or consent because it is her home. When you have your own home you also will not need consent.
Right now it sounds like you should probably be more concerned with your family relationship than your dog's emotional issues. I've heard it said that pets are a reflection of their owners. Who knows? Maybe fixing the family problems will kill two birds with one stone. Good Luck!
Why are you ';unfortunately'; living at home? There is an old adage that says ';familiarity breeds contempt...'; Unfortunately it carries a lot of truth. You are far more concerned with your dog's feelings than that of your family. Is it because he will put up with anything and can't answer back? Does this seem right to you?
What will you do when you have your own place? Who will look after the dogs when you are at work?
Take a step back and explore your own attitudes, if you are attentive to all of your dog's needs and are sure that you could do the same for a second dog, without your family's help - and that you can support yourself on your own, move out right away, what are you waiting for?
If not, do a little soul searching and think of ways that you can make your relationship with your family better....
I'm not sure how bringing a German Shepherd home would help your dog with it's confidence. Especially a dog from the shelter. Why do you think big dogs like that are at the shelter? Because they haven't been properly trained or socialized. Then there is the problem of your family. You can't go bringing dogs home without checking first. The reason you have to check first, and your mom doesn't is that it's her house - as others have said. Getting another dog to solve problems with the dog you have is not a great idea.
you may want to bring your dog to a park with a lot of dogs that might bring her cofidence up maybe letting her try to play with the more confident dogs to help her out and this will help and buy some time to get another doglaura mercier
Any suggestions?
I realize I could very well need ';parental permission'; as well in adopting him, thus another reason I'm seeking advice.Advice on family complications with personal decision?
Ask you family if you can make the finale decision about the the new dog because you know your dog the best and you want to make sure that you find one with the right personality for your dog. Isn't it important to get what the dog really needs. Take care HeatherAdvice on family complications with personal decision?
No dog without ';Parental Permission';. Mom gets to bring home any dog she wishes with out warning or consent because it is her home. When you have your own home you also will not need consent.
Right now it sounds like you should probably be more concerned with your family relationship than your dog's emotional issues. I've heard it said that pets are a reflection of their owners. Who knows? Maybe fixing the family problems will kill two birds with one stone. Good Luck!
Why are you ';unfortunately'; living at home? There is an old adage that says ';familiarity breeds contempt...'; Unfortunately it carries a lot of truth. You are far more concerned with your dog's feelings than that of your family. Is it because he will put up with anything and can't answer back? Does this seem right to you?
What will you do when you have your own place? Who will look after the dogs when you are at work?
Take a step back and explore your own attitudes, if you are attentive to all of your dog's needs and are sure that you could do the same for a second dog, without your family's help - and that you can support yourself on your own, move out right away, what are you waiting for?
If not, do a little soul searching and think of ways that you can make your relationship with your family better....
I'm not sure how bringing a German Shepherd home would help your dog with it's confidence. Especially a dog from the shelter. Why do you think big dogs like that are at the shelter? Because they haven't been properly trained or socialized. Then there is the problem of your family. You can't go bringing dogs home without checking first. The reason you have to check first, and your mom doesn't is that it's her house - as others have said. Getting another dog to solve problems with the dog you have is not a great idea.
you may want to bring your dog to a park with a lot of dogs that might bring her cofidence up maybe letting her try to play with the more confident dogs to help her out and this will help and buy some time to get another dog
My family are going to spend christmas in Florence this year, any advice? How far is Venice from florence?
There is a nice christmas market in Florence in one of the old train stations. During the Christmas season here, most or all of the cities have very good exhibitions of Presepi (nativity scenes) that you should look for. There will also be Christmas season concerts. Ribollita is particularly nice on a cold day - many restaurants have this typical Tuscan soup, but it will vary from place to place. I went to Florence for lunch last Sunday for the Ribollita. You should also definitely try the Fiorentina.
Rome is about 1 hr 40 min on the fast trains. Venice is about 2 hr 40 min. You'll be able to find specific schedules and prices here when the winter schedule is released: http://www.ferroviedellostato.it/homepag鈥?/a> There's a small, but nice Christmas market in Campo San Stefano in Venice.My family are going to spend christmas in Florence this year, any advice? How far is Venice from florence?
The distance from Florence to Venice is about 277 kilometers (172 miles) 3 hours by car, you have to cross a stretch of the Apennines between Florence and Bologna, which is not very good at street level it's all highway. However there are two beautiful cities in Tuscany to eat well is among the most good at gastronomiche.E say that Venice is ';wonderful'; advice to do a nice gondola ride. I recommend to visit Sirmione, Lake Garda is located at 157 kilometers (97 miles) poor two-hour drive but well worth it. Greetings from Carlo in Pescara (Abruzzi), and happy holidays.My family are going to spend christmas in Florence this year, any advice? How far is Venice from florence?
It takes about 2.5 hours to drive from Venice to Florence unless there's heavy traffic.
If youa re traveling by Train
The fastest and the most comfortable and the best train from Venice to Florence is the Euro Star. You can buy tickets from any travel agent in Venice or buy them at the train station. First or second class. All seats are reserved.
You can ask this to the hotel management that you are going to stay in Florance and I advise you to stay at Hotel Ducale in Venice. Don't foget to buy three Venice Calenders (one for you, one for your boy friend and for your best friend) and a Mask.
And one more thing don't eat too much pizza, afterwards you have to buy a bigger size swimming suit before summer :)
Florence' s beautiful during christmas.. Probably won't be snow..Venice is in another ';place';( I don't know right word!!)..
If she takes train, she will lose 3-4 hours I think..I'm italian, sorry for my english..
For Christmas, I suggest Firenze. If you need any helps, write me.
Venezia is far about 250 km. (more than 3 hours by car)
Or, you could drive to Rome, and fly onto Venice! See 2 places making the most of your time! Flights daily to venice from rome.
that far
Rome is about 1 hr 40 min on the fast trains. Venice is about 2 hr 40 min. You'll be able to find specific schedules and prices here when the winter schedule is released: http://www.ferroviedellostato.it/homepag鈥?/a> There's a small, but nice Christmas market in Campo San Stefano in Venice.My family are going to spend christmas in Florence this year, any advice? How far is Venice from florence?
The distance from Florence to Venice is about 277 kilometers (172 miles) 3 hours by car, you have to cross a stretch of the Apennines between Florence and Bologna, which is not very good at street level it's all highway. However there are two beautiful cities in Tuscany to eat well is among the most good at gastronomiche.E say that Venice is ';wonderful'; advice to do a nice gondola ride. I recommend to visit Sirmione, Lake Garda is located at 157 kilometers (97 miles) poor two-hour drive but well worth it. Greetings from Carlo in Pescara (Abruzzi), and happy holidays.My family are going to spend christmas in Florence this year, any advice? How far is Venice from florence?
It takes about 2.5 hours to drive from Venice to Florence unless there's heavy traffic.
If youa re traveling by Train
The fastest and the most comfortable and the best train from Venice to Florence is the Euro Star. You can buy tickets from any travel agent in Venice or buy them at the train station. First or second class. All seats are reserved.
You can ask this to the hotel management that you are going to stay in Florance and I advise you to stay at Hotel Ducale in Venice. Don't foget to buy three Venice Calenders (one for you, one for your boy friend and for your best friend) and a Mask.
And one more thing don't eat too much pizza, afterwards you have to buy a bigger size swimming suit before summer :)
Florence' s beautiful during christmas.. Probably won't be snow..Venice is in another ';place';( I don't know right word!!)..
If she takes train, she will lose 3-4 hours I think..I'm italian, sorry for my english..
For Christmas, I suggest Firenze. If you need any helps, write me.
Venezia is far about 250 km. (more than 3 hours by car)
Or, you could drive to Rome, and fly onto Venice! See 2 places making the most of your time! Flights daily to venice from rome.
that far
Anyone with an ear to lend and a shoulder to cry on? Marriage/Family advice needed!?
I feel like my marriage of 12 years is falling apart. I married my first love at 20 and we now have 3 children. I don't know if I have the 12 year itch, or what. I have been struggling with a decision to end this marriage but I hesitate for the obvious reason...my children. My husband does not cheat on me, has a steady job, does not drink (just social, on occasion), and seems like a good guy from the outside. Now that I have been thinking of ending this marriage, my family admits they do not like him because he is unfriendly and anti-social. My husband's faults do not end there. He is overly cranky and crabby with the kids (my 7 year old recently asked my why I had to marry him), he is not involved with them outside of sitting next to them on the couch (not to say he has never interacted with them...he is just lazy most of the time), he does little work around the house (I mow the yard 50% of the time, I do all of the painting, hanging of fans/lights), he is consumed with thingsAnyone with an ear to lend and a shoulder to cry on? Marriage/Family advice needed!?
He is being selfish and you need to set him straight. Not putting work in the house... tztztz. I wouldn't be happy this way either. I'm sure you've already tried talking to him about this, and it didn't work. So I guess leaving him is the only option. And, my god, even your kids are wondering why you married him...
In addition to good ';don'ts'; like don't drink and don't cheat, you need some substance, some ';do's'; like does love me a lot, does care for the kids.... ';Don'ts'; don't make a person, the ';do's'; do.Anyone with an ear to lend and a shoulder to cry on? Marriage/Family advice needed!?
buy the dr laura book 'the proper care and feeding of husbands' i am completely serious. you guys are in a rut. he is as bored with you and his life as you are with him. you have a home and children and your youth !!!! and health. the trick is to maximize all that, dear. first, why do you think you will go bankrupt? because divorce will not let you live in your own home? probably right. you would have to get a job and that would take up all your time. you would not have the same relationship with your children. here is another priceless book 'the 7 habits of highly successful famillies' by stephen covey. you married at 20. there are a million things you can do to enlarge your own world and be a more cheerful and interesting person to him. he is retreating from you. that is what the car and tv are about. he is silently asserting himself as a man. every man i have ever known has done something like this at one point or another. you guys were young when you tied yourselves down. you can both grow and learn and thrive as a couple, he is not a bad person and neither are you. read and keep reading and keep learning. there is another book you can read, it is called 'do one thing different' and it tells how you can turn this around.
how about before you end your marriage you just end the way you are today and go about freely being someone else? take a class, go to the gym, break up this routine. as i said, you have enviable youth and energy on your side. people change, and i see no reason it cant be for the better. peace.
I'd think the obvious question is: does he know how you feel? I mean, have you told him you are unhappy (and not with just one specific thing - but with him in general). If he values your relationship and his family....he might make some changes in his life. If he doesn't, then it's probably just a matter of time. So that you don't forget anything - you might want to make a list of all the things that are bugging you.
very selfish. he is not thinking about you or the kids. ask him to go to counseling and if he says no than you will know.
WOW!!! I could've written that question. Been there, done that. My husband was about the same way. The ONLY reason that we are still together is because he finally saw a medical doctor and not a mental doctor for the underlying issues. He ended up being put on anti-depressants and after a few 'tweaks', he's a wonderful man again. Life's stresses and our physical and physiological changes can always make us feel like bailing out. Our son has even said that he wants me to get a divorce if he ever goes off his medicine. I still do all the chores, except for mowing. You are going to have to see if his love for you is strong enough to possibly admit that he has issues and is willing to possibly go on medication. Don't call it the 12-year itch. Call it the breaking point. You can only be responsible for everything in the house and the kids before you no longer feel like a wife, but a maid and/or slave. Probably not a lot of help, but I wanted to tell you that you are not the only one out there dealing with this type of thing.
You don't ';just have the twelve year itch'; and that certainly is immature, selfish behavior. I don't know that advice is going to help, as he doesn't seem interested in the relationship. Obviously you need to share how you feel with him. If there is another man in his life who he respects, perhaps he would be able to talk to your husband.
I'm sorry you are dealing with this.
You're letting self doubts about yourself get to you. You can make it on your own and will do better financially without him. It's all about mind over matter.
The strains of his financial immaturity and lack of interaction with the kids are getting to you- that sounds like a very normal reaction to me!
Have you considered counseling? I would urge you to get credit counseling at the very least- there are several good organizations that offer free services. Marriage counseling would also be a good idea- he may very well have no idea how his behavior is affecting you and your children.
Wow I think I just read my life story of Yahoo answers. I'm sorry I can't offer much help I am in the same boat. Married almost 9 years together for 11, and we have 3 kids. Wow I think we are living in each others path. If you get some good advice please share it with me. It's hard thinking about divorce when you don't know what will happen to the 3 children. I face this everyday in my thoughts Good luck
I'm sorry to say this but it sounds like he is also unhappy. He isn't just lazy...he isn't motivated by anything. Buying expensive items when he can't afford them are only ways that he is trying to fill a void in his life...talk to him..he might also want the divorce. It will never be a good marriage if you are just staying in it for the kids either.
I would say his being very selfish. But then again you can't help who you love. My husband and I are like oil and water, i want to save he doesn't i like taking my son to the park and he wants to sit and watch movies. We compromise and make it work. Alright lets get our son and go to the movies. Sometime in marriage you have to just get over it and work it out. He needs to do this. I'm sorry you feel that way. You sound like your a prisoner in your own marriage. Divorce is not always the right answer but if you must well you must. You can take care of your kids and be successful. Good Luck.
there was a reason you fell in love with him right? Please don't contribute to the divorce rate because he has gotten a little complacent. people give up on people way to fast. Have a serious talk with him please! my wife left me because i never thought she would and now I'm the one scarred for life. I get to miss out on my 3 childrens lifes because I was a fool and I am willing to bet that if he had that presented to him, he would try a bit harder. Find a way to not get a divorce first is all I'm saying and dont care what other people think of him being social they aren't married to him. when will people realize that when you have kids and get married youre a family! not to say you have to give up on your parents or anything like that but their importance level goes down a notch.
this is the very thing that ended my marriage well one of them was the constant buying of sports cars and not trying to down size thinsg and we did not even have kids..... go to financial and marriage counseling now even if it is by yourslef at least try it alone before you leave or seperate alone i wish i had done that in the first place ( but i remarried to a financially minded guy)
He is very selfish and immature. You are unhappy and that is enough of a reason to end it if you really want to. He is not there for you and he is not a father to your children. They deserve better and so do you. I could not live with the stress of that financial burden. My husband is great. We have three kids (17,13 and 11) He does any housework that needs done while I am at work, he takes car of the lawn and the cars, when the kids were little he took care of them. We worked opposite shifts so they only had to spend a few hours a week with a sitter. Even though he does laundry and housework he thinks that I should not do things around the house that are ';mans work';. Go figure that one. He does not buy anything that we do not agree on together (neither do I) and when we want something we save for it and pay cash. You can't do this with a house or car but we do with everything else. We save for vacations before we go. Your children know that you are not happy. They really know more than any adult gives them credit for. The will like it better if you are happy and they will be more happy. We should not stay married for the children because that is not good for anyone, especially them. You need to ask yourself if you can spend the rest of your life like this. Life is too short to settle for less than you want and deserve. Good luck.
sounds like he is going through a midlife crisis!!!
He is being selfish and you need to set him straight. Not putting work in the house... tztztz. I wouldn't be happy this way either. I'm sure you've already tried talking to him about this, and it didn't work. So I guess leaving him is the only option. And, my god, even your kids are wondering why you married him...
In addition to good ';don'ts'; like don't drink and don't cheat, you need some substance, some ';do's'; like does love me a lot, does care for the kids.... ';Don'ts'; don't make a person, the ';do's'; do.Anyone with an ear to lend and a shoulder to cry on? Marriage/Family advice needed!?
buy the dr laura book 'the proper care and feeding of husbands' i am completely serious. you guys are in a rut. he is as bored with you and his life as you are with him. you have a home and children and your youth !!!! and health. the trick is to maximize all that, dear. first, why do you think you will go bankrupt? because divorce will not let you live in your own home? probably right. you would have to get a job and that would take up all your time. you would not have the same relationship with your children. here is another priceless book 'the 7 habits of highly successful famillies' by stephen covey. you married at 20. there are a million things you can do to enlarge your own world and be a more cheerful and interesting person to him. he is retreating from you. that is what the car and tv are about. he is silently asserting himself as a man. every man i have ever known has done something like this at one point or another. you guys were young when you tied yourselves down. you can both grow and learn and thrive as a couple, he is not a bad person and neither are you. read and keep reading and keep learning. there is another book you can read, it is called 'do one thing different' and it tells how you can turn this around.
how about before you end your marriage you just end the way you are today and go about freely being someone else? take a class, go to the gym, break up this routine. as i said, you have enviable youth and energy on your side. people change, and i see no reason it cant be for the better. peace.
I'd think the obvious question is: does he know how you feel? I mean, have you told him you are unhappy (and not with just one specific thing - but with him in general). If he values your relationship and his family....he might make some changes in his life. If he doesn't, then it's probably just a matter of time. So that you don't forget anything - you might want to make a list of all the things that are bugging you.
very selfish. he is not thinking about you or the kids. ask him to go to counseling and if he says no than you will know.
WOW!!! I could've written that question. Been there, done that. My husband was about the same way. The ONLY reason that we are still together is because he finally saw a medical doctor and not a mental doctor for the underlying issues. He ended up being put on anti-depressants and after a few 'tweaks', he's a wonderful man again. Life's stresses and our physical and physiological changes can always make us feel like bailing out. Our son has even said that he wants me to get a divorce if he ever goes off his medicine. I still do all the chores, except for mowing. You are going to have to see if his love for you is strong enough to possibly admit that he has issues and is willing to possibly go on medication. Don't call it the 12-year itch. Call it the breaking point. You can only be responsible for everything in the house and the kids before you no longer feel like a wife, but a maid and/or slave. Probably not a lot of help, but I wanted to tell you that you are not the only one out there dealing with this type of thing.
You don't ';just have the twelve year itch'; and that certainly is immature, selfish behavior. I don't know that advice is going to help, as he doesn't seem interested in the relationship. Obviously you need to share how you feel with him. If there is another man in his life who he respects, perhaps he would be able to talk to your husband.
I'm sorry you are dealing with this.
You're letting self doubts about yourself get to you. You can make it on your own and will do better financially without him. It's all about mind over matter.
The strains of his financial immaturity and lack of interaction with the kids are getting to you- that sounds like a very normal reaction to me!
Have you considered counseling? I would urge you to get credit counseling at the very least- there are several good organizations that offer free services. Marriage counseling would also be a good idea- he may very well have no idea how his behavior is affecting you and your children.
Wow I think I just read my life story of Yahoo answers. I'm sorry I can't offer much help I am in the same boat. Married almost 9 years together for 11, and we have 3 kids. Wow I think we are living in each others path. If you get some good advice please share it with me. It's hard thinking about divorce when you don't know what will happen to the 3 children. I face this everyday in my thoughts Good luck
I'm sorry to say this but it sounds like he is also unhappy. He isn't just lazy...he isn't motivated by anything. Buying expensive items when he can't afford them are only ways that he is trying to fill a void in his life...talk to him..he might also want the divorce. It will never be a good marriage if you are just staying in it for the kids either.
I would say his being very selfish. But then again you can't help who you love. My husband and I are like oil and water, i want to save he doesn't i like taking my son to the park and he wants to sit and watch movies. We compromise and make it work. Alright lets get our son and go to the movies. Sometime in marriage you have to just get over it and work it out. He needs to do this. I'm sorry you feel that way. You sound like your a prisoner in your own marriage. Divorce is not always the right answer but if you must well you must. You can take care of your kids and be successful. Good Luck.
there was a reason you fell in love with him right? Please don't contribute to the divorce rate because he has gotten a little complacent. people give up on people way to fast. Have a serious talk with him please! my wife left me because i never thought she would and now I'm the one scarred for life. I get to miss out on my 3 childrens lifes because I was a fool and I am willing to bet that if he had that presented to him, he would try a bit harder. Find a way to not get a divorce first is all I'm saying and dont care what other people think of him being social they aren't married to him. when will people realize that when you have kids and get married youre a family! not to say you have to give up on your parents or anything like that but their importance level goes down a notch.
this is the very thing that ended my marriage well one of them was the constant buying of sports cars and not trying to down size thinsg and we did not even have kids..... go to financial and marriage counseling now even if it is by yourslef at least try it alone before you leave or seperate alone i wish i had done that in the first place ( but i remarried to a financially minded guy)
He is very selfish and immature. You are unhappy and that is enough of a reason to end it if you really want to. He is not there for you and he is not a father to your children. They deserve better and so do you. I could not live with the stress of that financial burden. My husband is great. We have three kids (17,13 and 11) He does any housework that needs done while I am at work, he takes car of the lawn and the cars, when the kids were little he took care of them. We worked opposite shifts so they only had to spend a few hours a week with a sitter. Even though he does laundry and housework he thinks that I should not do things around the house that are ';mans work';. Go figure that one. He does not buy anything that we do not agree on together (neither do I) and when we want something we save for it and pay cash. You can't do this with a house or car but we do with everything else. We save for vacations before we go. Your children know that you are not happy. They really know more than any adult gives them credit for. The will like it better if you are happy and they will be more happy. We should not stay married for the children because that is not good for anyone, especially them. You need to ask yourself if you can spend the rest of your life like this. Life is too short to settle for less than you want and deserve. Good luck.
sounds like he is going through a midlife crisis!!!
Anxious about going home with a totally new look to see the family? Advice please?
I am going home for the holidays to see the family. I, however am nervous of how I will be received. I have lost over a 100lbs since they last saw me and I now have many tattoos and piercings (ears). I just worry that they will see that and not see the real me that they know. I mean, they are a pretty open crew about tatts but are kinda weird about piercings. To me, it is funny bc most of my friends say the total opposite about theirs in which flies easier. I was just wondering how to go about it. I just want to be me, but not to the extent to where I am viewed as being freaky or a wierdo. I mean, I dress well and have a bit of a skater look to me, but I am not a goth or totally out there. Anxious about going home with a totally new look to see the family? Advice please?
I don't know how recently you had the piercings, but it might be easier on you and them if you didn't wear some of the jewelry (if it isn't too early to take it out just yet). Anyway, while everyone is dealing with holiday stress and family expectations, it might just be that less jewelry will be more in your case....again, if this is an option.
Losing excess weight is usually well received if you've done so healthfully, but you're right about tatoos and piercings......this is not usually something which is ';middle of the road';. In family members especially it can evoke some pretty harsh feelings.....but it doesn't have to.
Tatoos shouldn't be that big a deal in winter - I would imagine most would be covered by the clothes you wear in cold weather. If you really feel uncomfortable and have some that will still show, try going to the cosmetic counter and look for a full-cover, water proof foundation like Dermablend to temporarily reduce that shock factor for your family.
I realize what I'm proposing sounds like the chicken way out, but it all depends on your perspective. THE PIERCINGS AND TATOOS DON'T MAKE YOU WHO YOU ARE, ANY MORE THAN NAIL POLISH OR CLOTHING OR A TEMPORARY HAIR COLOR. If it will make your holiday run more smoothly by being a little more conservative in your appearance at home, then why not do that, lower your anxiety factor and theirs, and have the happiest get-together possible?
You are who you are with or without the frills....but it seems to me it's easier to change your accessories - including the body art - than to get some of the leopards in your family to change their spots.......
Otherwise, just grin and bare it! :-)
Either way, best wishes to you! CassandraAnxious about going home with a totally new look to see the family? Advice please?
Before you visit you should send a picture.Most ppl don't like surpises.For example:Last year a family member brought there lesbian lover and her kids without telling us.It was very upsetting because it was a surpise and she did not tell US before she came out.I support gays.My mother just did not take it well.
I strong suggest to send a picture period.
Be brave. I know the feeling. Coming home with a mohawk or a big tattoo, face piercings, etc. etc. I've done that too. It is scary but you just have to be brave. They always get over it. Always. Soon they forget and it just becomes a part of you.
I think you should tell them first. Just so they aren't so shocked and over react or say something stupid. I saved a lot of hassle with my first tattoo by emailing my mum first.
They're your family...they will probably hassle you a bit, but they know the real you. I wouldn't worry. Besides, 100+ pounds, how incredible! Congratulations! Just be proud of yourself. You've earned the right to a new look! :o)
Send them some recent pictures of you first. That way they won't stand there at the door wondering who the heck are you and if they should let you in.
don't go home
take out the earings?? or call them a head of time and let them kno
I'd say just dress and act yourself.
Don't try to hide the tattoos or piercings by dressing in a way you normally would not. When you arrive at home, act like they aren't even there, and if people stare act like you don't notice.
If the tattoos have a deeper meaning than just looking cool, try explaining that if they ask.
As for the piercings, if you get any hassle, just say you like how they look and are not afraid what others think of them.
If they care about you as much as family should though, this should be no issue at all for them.
As for losing weight, this could be both good or bad. I'm going to risk it and say congratulations though.
I don't know how recently you had the piercings, but it might be easier on you and them if you didn't wear some of the jewelry (if it isn't too early to take it out just yet). Anyway, while everyone is dealing with holiday stress and family expectations, it might just be that less jewelry will be more in your case....again, if this is an option.
Losing excess weight is usually well received if you've done so healthfully, but you're right about tatoos and piercings......this is not usually something which is ';middle of the road';. In family members especially it can evoke some pretty harsh feelings.....but it doesn't have to.
Tatoos shouldn't be that big a deal in winter - I would imagine most would be covered by the clothes you wear in cold weather. If you really feel uncomfortable and have some that will still show, try going to the cosmetic counter and look for a full-cover, water proof foundation like Dermablend to temporarily reduce that shock factor for your family.
I realize what I'm proposing sounds like the chicken way out, but it all depends on your perspective. THE PIERCINGS AND TATOOS DON'T MAKE YOU WHO YOU ARE, ANY MORE THAN NAIL POLISH OR CLOTHING OR A TEMPORARY HAIR COLOR. If it will make your holiday run more smoothly by being a little more conservative in your appearance at home, then why not do that, lower your anxiety factor and theirs, and have the happiest get-together possible?
You are who you are with or without the frills....but it seems to me it's easier to change your accessories - including the body art - than to get some of the leopards in your family to change their spots.......
Otherwise, just grin and bare it! :-)
Either way, best wishes to you! CassandraAnxious about going home with a totally new look to see the family? Advice please?
Before you visit you should send a picture.Most ppl don't like surpises.For example:Last year a family member brought there lesbian lover and her kids without telling us.It was very upsetting because it was a surpise and she did not tell US before she came out.I support gays.My mother just did not take it well.
I strong suggest to send a picture period.
Be brave. I know the feeling. Coming home with a mohawk or a big tattoo, face piercings, etc. etc. I've done that too. It is scary but you just have to be brave. They always get over it. Always. Soon they forget and it just becomes a part of you.
I think you should tell them first. Just so they aren't so shocked and over react or say something stupid. I saved a lot of hassle with my first tattoo by emailing my mum first.
They're your family...they will probably hassle you a bit, but they know the real you. I wouldn't worry. Besides, 100+ pounds, how incredible! Congratulations! Just be proud of yourself. You've earned the right to a new look! :o)
Send them some recent pictures of you first. That way they won't stand there at the door wondering who the heck are you and if they should let you in.
don't go home
take out the earings?? or call them a head of time and let them kno
I'd say just dress and act yourself.
Don't try to hide the tattoos or piercings by dressing in a way you normally would not. When you arrive at home, act like they aren't even there, and if people stare act like you don't notice.
If the tattoos have a deeper meaning than just looking cool, try explaining that if they ask.
As for the piercings, if you get any hassle, just say you like how they look and are not afraid what others think of them.
If they care about you as much as family should though, this should be no issue at all for them.
As for losing weight, this could be both good or bad. I'm going to risk it and say congratulations though.
Grandparents born in Scotland. I want to relocate my family to Scotland. Any advice how? Hubby is a chef/mgr?
My husband and I want to relocate to Scotland or Ireland. We are in the restaurant industry and I really want to discover my roots and introduce my children to their heritage. I just don't have a clue where to begin.Grandparents born in Scotland. I want to relocate my family to Scotland. Any advice how? Hubby is a chef/mgr?
Not enough info in your question , we don't know where you want to move from, and I don't know why you would pick Ireland as a second choice?
The only suggestion I can make is that if you can afford it take a holiday in Scotland first and suss it all out when you get there. I'm sure there are plenty of jobs going in the chf/mgr area.(The Scottish are not renowned for their cooking abilities)
If you can't afford the advanced trip, you can't really afford to relocate, that would cost a fortune( depending where you are coming from)!Grandparents born in Scotland. I want to relocate my family to Scotland. Any advice how? Hubby is a chef/mgr?
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I'm in Scotland , where are you coming from? Does everyone have passports and good health etc , its the first thing they will ask,
Why do you want to come here ? Its freezing , expensive,over run with incoming foreign workers, the wages are terrible, Fuel is through the roof, need I go on?
Depending on where you're coming from, you could get a nasty shock when you realise the cost of living in Scotland. I agree that coming over for a holiday first would be a great idea. You'll see that there are big differences between lowland/highland/urban and rural areas. Try visitscotland.com for info. Good luck!
Not enough info in your question , we don't know where you want to move from, and I don't know why you would pick Ireland as a second choice?
The only suggestion I can make is that if you can afford it take a holiday in Scotland first and suss it all out when you get there. I'm sure there are plenty of jobs going in the chf/mgr area.(The Scottish are not renowned for their cooking abilities)
If you can't afford the advanced trip, you can't really afford to relocate, that would cost a fortune( depending where you are coming from)!Grandparents born in Scotland. I want to relocate my family to Scotland. Any advice how? Hubby is a chef/mgr?
www.chefsearch.co.uk
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I'm in Scotland , where are you coming from? Does everyone have passports and good health etc , its the first thing they will ask,
Why do you want to come here ? Its freezing , expensive,over run with incoming foreign workers, the wages are terrible, Fuel is through the roof, need I go on?
Depending on where you're coming from, you could get a nasty shock when you realise the cost of living in Scotland. I agree that coming over for a holiday first would be a great idea. You'll see that there are big differences between lowland/highland/urban and rural areas. Try visitscotland.com for info. Good luck!
I am looking for some advice on how to install surround sound speakers in a finished family room...?
My family room is finished with drywall. When I look up at the family room from the unfinished basement, I can see the floor of the family room. What I want to do is mount the speaker on the wall and ';fish'; the wire down the wall and into the basement. How do I do this and get the wire through the family room floor while I am in the basement. I am anticipating drilling holes, but I am looking for some input on ways to make this project as easy as possible. Is anyone aware of how to do this, or a website/reference that they find handy. I appreciate your thoughts in advance.I am looking for some advice on how to install surround sound speakers in a finished family room...?
you could consider going wireless
i guess beyond that we ran wire thru our vents.
U could drill holes, and be very neat about it with grommets. The speakers would hide the holes anyway unless u're really using small speakersI am looking for some advice on how to install surround sound speakers in a finished family room...?
Get a set of push pull rods. These rods will allow you to push or pull wire in the walls after drilling your hole.
you could consider going wireless
i guess beyond that we ran wire thru our vents.
U could drill holes, and be very neat about it with grommets. The speakers would hide the holes anyway unless u're really using small speakersI am looking for some advice on how to install surround sound speakers in a finished family room...?
Get a set of push pull rods. These rods will allow you to push or pull wire in the walls after drilling your hole.
Advice/Tips for adding another dog to the family?
In a week were going to be adding a puppy male black lab to the family. We currently have a male rottweiler. He is a good dog but I'm a little concerned about adding another male dog. Any advice how we can make a safe transition for the new pup?Advice/Tips for adding another dog to the family?
Resident dogs don't always relish sharing their territory and human family with some upstart new pup. To make sure peace and order prevails, take some care in introducing your new dog or puppy.
Check this steps in successfully introducing your pup to your resident dog:
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Spend a lot of time with him when he first comes. keep him away from the rottweiler for a few days, maybe keep one inside or locked in a fence or something like that. then every now and again bring the dogs together (with something blocking them from hurting one another, like the fence) and hopefully that might work after a few days or weeks. don't rush it. eventually they will like one another. but before then, don't leave them together without something barring them from one another. it's kind of different, but that's what i did with my birds and now they're best friends (and they're two males). so thy that and see if it works.
You don't say how old your Rottweiler is. Rottweilers are usually very good with puppies.
If there is less than 5 years between these dogs you would be better with a male and female mix than two dogs of the same gender who are close in age.
There is less chance of any fighting happening between a male and female.
This is good for safety, but maintenance is heavy. if you need, you are eligable to maintain then keep.
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Resident dogs don't always relish sharing their territory and human family with some upstart new pup. To make sure peace and order prevails, take some care in introducing your new dog or puppy.
Check this steps in successfully introducing your pup to your resident dog:
http://lnk.nu/dogtime.com/ut9.html
http://lnk.nu/dogtime.com/t4v.htmlAdvice/Tips for adding another dog to the family?
Spend a lot of time with him when he first comes. keep him away from the rottweiler for a few days, maybe keep one inside or locked in a fence or something like that. then every now and again bring the dogs together (with something blocking them from hurting one another, like the fence) and hopefully that might work after a few days or weeks. don't rush it. eventually they will like one another. but before then, don't leave them together without something barring them from one another. it's kind of different, but that's what i did with my birds and now they're best friends (and they're two males). so thy that and see if it works.
You don't say how old your Rottweiler is. Rottweilers are usually very good with puppies.
If there is less than 5 years between these dogs you would be better with a male and female mix than two dogs of the same gender who are close in age.
There is less chance of any fighting happening between a male and female.
This is good for safety, but maintenance is heavy. if you need, you are eligable to maintain then keep.
http://www.wikihow.com/Introduce-a-New-D鈥?/a>
What would be some advice that you would give to a couple planning a family?
THIS QUESTION IS ONLY TO THE PEOPLE THAT ARE MARRIED.
%26amp; at what age did you start your family %26amp; were you married before your started your family?What would be some advice that you would give to a couple planning a family?
Marry first. Do not marry young. A guy generally starts maturing after age 23 or 24. A girl should not burden herself with having a baby until she is at least 21.
make sure that things are working out for a year or two
Save your money and make sure you are financially ready to have a child.
Make sure that you are emotionally ready and mature enough to deal this the numerous problems and expenses a child will introduce into your life.
Be sure that you are willing to give up the partying, frequent nights out, and spontaneous vactions.
Make sure that you can afford child care if you plan to work.What would be some advice that you would give to a couple planning a family?
Get your college education first, get a real good paying job, start buying your house, THEN have kids. Try to have at least $10,000 in the bank before you have kids......they r expensive and it will take alot of money to raise them. Just to get started on a family with furniture , clothes, car seats, and diapers is about $3,000, for your first one. Once you do start a family you shouldn't space the children out any more than 3 years apart (if you are planning).........lol... life doesn't always go according to plan.
%26amp; at what age did you start your family %26amp; were you married before your started your family?What would be some advice that you would give to a couple planning a family?
Marry first. Do not marry young. A guy generally starts maturing after age 23 or 24. A girl should not burden herself with having a baby until she is at least 21.
make sure that things are working out for a year or two
Save your money and make sure you are financially ready to have a child.
Make sure that you are emotionally ready and mature enough to deal this the numerous problems and expenses a child will introduce into your life.
Be sure that you are willing to give up the partying, frequent nights out, and spontaneous vactions.
Make sure that you can afford child care if you plan to work.What would be some advice that you would give to a couple planning a family?
Get your college education first, get a real good paying job, start buying your house, THEN have kids. Try to have at least $10,000 in the bank before you have kids......they r expensive and it will take alot of money to raise them. Just to get started on a family with furniture , clothes, car seats, and diapers is about $3,000, for your first one. Once you do start a family you shouldn't space the children out any more than 3 years apart (if you are planning).........lol... life doesn't always go according to plan.
I had a psychotic episode and admitted myself to hospital on family advice?
Although I didn't realise it at the time I had lost it big time. When I was being admitted into hospital my family were asking 'what's wrong with her'. The doctors said they didn't know and it could have been caused by a number of things. They said sometimes it is caused by the family and what I noticed when I was in hospital is that most people there had problems and blamed their family, I remember doing a case study at college about a girl called Ruby whose family constantly lied to her about who she was when she knew the truth and knew they were lying but they still denied it. This eventually sent her round the twist. Psychologist experts out there is this a common theme, the parent thing?I had a psychotic episode and admitted myself to hospital on family advice?
It's far more comforting to blame somebody, or something, else than it is to acknowledge ones own failings. This way, if it's not our fault then why should we be the one to change our ways? (Selfishness.) Passing the blame onto another when the fault falls squarely on us is a common trend these days.
But, more than that, we're a society of sympathy whores. We want to feel like the victim when, all too frequently, we're the villain. The resulting sympathy then goes on to reinforce this victim mentality. The truth, though, is that we simply don't want to accept responsibility for our own actions. (Immaturity, Selfishness.)
Perhaps its a form of social psychosis or, in lesser cases, neurosis. Maybe it's something they put in the water. Maybe it's just an accute form of attention seeking.I had a psychotic episode and admitted myself to hospital on family advice?
Since you didn't say what your problem is it's hard to determine anything. The family isn't always to blame and most people want to push the blame on someone else.
This is very tricky for me to answer as I know of stories where things are 'covered-up' by the Doctors. The main thing here is your own personal well-being. Why do you think your being lied to? When you've come down from whatever peak you were at, are things still seeming suspicious? Is there anything about you that would need to be kept to yourself so as not to make certain other people aware?
I'm starting to think I'm answering this in the worst possible way as I'm giving you possible more to contemplate then you already have been?
Whatever reason you were brought into psychiatric care, that is what needs addressing and you want to be in Hospital (you could of course be discharged by now) for as little as time as possible.
If you don't like what the Doctors suggest for maintaining a happy life, then do your own research into areas you've pondered on but never got round to doing anything about it.
If you don't like the support your Family are offering because you feel they don't understand or want to understand, take them out of the equation for now and go your own way or find others that can help you when necessary.
It is you that knows what is best for you
It's far more comforting to blame somebody, or something, else than it is to acknowledge ones own failings. This way, if it's not our fault then why should we be the one to change our ways? (Selfishness.) Passing the blame onto another when the fault falls squarely on us is a common trend these days.
But, more than that, we're a society of sympathy whores. We want to feel like the victim when, all too frequently, we're the villain. The resulting sympathy then goes on to reinforce this victim mentality. The truth, though, is that we simply don't want to accept responsibility for our own actions. (Immaturity, Selfishness.)
Perhaps its a form of social psychosis or, in lesser cases, neurosis. Maybe it's something they put in the water. Maybe it's just an accute form of attention seeking.I had a psychotic episode and admitted myself to hospital on family advice?
Since you didn't say what your problem is it's hard to determine anything. The family isn't always to blame and most people want to push the blame on someone else.
This is very tricky for me to answer as I know of stories where things are 'covered-up' by the Doctors. The main thing here is your own personal well-being. Why do you think your being lied to? When you've come down from whatever peak you were at, are things still seeming suspicious? Is there anything about you that would need to be kept to yourself so as not to make certain other people aware?
I'm starting to think I'm answering this in the worst possible way as I'm giving you possible more to contemplate then you already have been?
Whatever reason you were brought into psychiatric care, that is what needs addressing and you want to be in Hospital (you could of course be discharged by now) for as little as time as possible.
If you don't like what the Doctors suggest for maintaining a happy life, then do your own research into areas you've pondered on but never got round to doing anything about it.
If you don't like the support your Family are offering because you feel they don't understand or want to understand, take them out of the equation for now and go your own way or find others that can help you when necessary.
It is you that knows what is best for you
Have you ever loved someone against your common sense and family advice?
and had it turned out well? I recently met this guy and think I'm falling for him. I've just never felt quite this way about anyone before. My head tells me I'm crazy due to certain circumstances (see below) but my heart urges me on. Is love sometimes worth taking a chance and following our heart instead of our head? My family would tell me I'm making a big mistake because said person is currently doing time (for a non violent, non drug related crime) and that I'd be crazy to get involved with him. I see their point but isn't love meaningless if you're not willing to go the extra mile for a person and at least give them a chance? I don't know what to do. My head tells me I'm wrong but my heart tells me I'm right. All I know is that when I'm with him I'm happy. Any advice or similar experiences you would be willing to share?Have you ever loved someone against your common sense and family advice?
Well, the two guys I dated who cheated on me were both guys that my parents told me I shouldn't be dating, or guys that my friends didn't like. So no, I've never had it turn out well. They know me better than I know me sometimes, and I have come to value their judgment. I may not always agree with it, but they tend to be right.
You need to make your own mistakes. So definitely take the chance. You may be pleasantly surprised, or you may find out that your family was right. But at this point, all that matters is what you want to do. Just don't expect your family to be pleased. I chose not to listen to my family and both times happened to turn out badly -- but if I hadn't done it, I wouldn't be the person I am today.Have you ever loved someone against your common sense and family advice?
I did and it turned out terrible. People outside of destructive relationships usually have a different take on things than the two people in the relationship. I was in complete denial of the obvious signs around me. And man, I must have looked like an idiot to my family and friends who were sitting here probably thinking, ';I cannot believe he's falling for this crap.'; But what could I do, right? She gave me affection, attention, and intimacy, and I fell for it. I wanted more and more and I fell in love with her. Buuuuuut... those negative things finally caught up to us and it all ended terribly. And in retrospect, I realized what an idiot I was being the whole time, and how I wasn't thinking straight.
I'm sure you'll realize the same thing down the road.
This is going to be a long one but as you asked for personal experience i may as well share my experience. Well about 6 months ago i met a 26 year old guy for my nearest town where i have friends and i met him round a friend of a friends house. Any way we started dating and things were good for a while, but my mum and every one wasnt to sure about him. They said there was something that they didnt trust about him (a breif backround of him which my mum and family knew, he had two children which he didnt see at all, he had tried all kinds of drugs and had done time in prison) I ignored them as i am the kind of person that is willing to give anyone a chance if i see potential in them (i wouldnt conisder my self posh or anything but these people i used to hang around with are totaly not like me, they use drugs and are on benifits, were as i an well turned out, pay my bills and dont take drugs and work) but i enjoyed the thrill of being a bit bad.. you know. like we all do. anyway he started becoming realy contoing after we moved into his friends house and as she was disabled i used to help her do things and eventualy he would take advatage of my good nature and mentaly abuse me to do things for him like lend him money and get him drinks and basicaly do every thing for him, while he just sat there getting stoned, all in all he done me out of 拢700 and took me for a fool. its not worth going with your heart feeling, your head is the one you should be listening to.
Well, the two guys I dated who cheated on me were both guys that my parents told me I shouldn't be dating, or guys that my friends didn't like. So no, I've never had it turn out well. They know me better than I know me sometimes, and I have come to value their judgment. I may not always agree with it, but they tend to be right.
You need to make your own mistakes. So definitely take the chance. You may be pleasantly surprised, or you may find out that your family was right. But at this point, all that matters is what you want to do. Just don't expect your family to be pleased. I chose not to listen to my family and both times happened to turn out badly -- but if I hadn't done it, I wouldn't be the person I am today.Have you ever loved someone against your common sense and family advice?
I did and it turned out terrible. People outside of destructive relationships usually have a different take on things than the two people in the relationship. I was in complete denial of the obvious signs around me. And man, I must have looked like an idiot to my family and friends who were sitting here probably thinking, ';I cannot believe he's falling for this crap.'; But what could I do, right? She gave me affection, attention, and intimacy, and I fell for it. I wanted more and more and I fell in love with her. Buuuuuut... those negative things finally caught up to us and it all ended terribly. And in retrospect, I realized what an idiot I was being the whole time, and how I wasn't thinking straight.
I'm sure you'll realize the same thing down the road.
This is going to be a long one but as you asked for personal experience i may as well share my experience. Well about 6 months ago i met a 26 year old guy for my nearest town where i have friends and i met him round a friend of a friends house. Any way we started dating and things were good for a while, but my mum and every one wasnt to sure about him. They said there was something that they didnt trust about him (a breif backround of him which my mum and family knew, he had two children which he didnt see at all, he had tried all kinds of drugs and had done time in prison) I ignored them as i am the kind of person that is willing to give anyone a chance if i see potential in them (i wouldnt conisder my self posh or anything but these people i used to hang around with are totaly not like me, they use drugs and are on benifits, were as i an well turned out, pay my bills and dont take drugs and work) but i enjoyed the thrill of being a bit bad.. you know. like we all do. anyway he started becoming realy contoing after we moved into his friends house and as she was disabled i used to help her do things and eventualy he would take advatage of my good nature and mentaly abuse me to do things for him like lend him money and get him drinks and basicaly do every thing for him, while he just sat there getting stoned, all in all he done me out of 拢700 and took me for a fool. its not worth going with your heart feeling, your head is the one you should be listening to.
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