Saturday, July 31, 2010

Need family advice please!?

Back in August for my bday I went 2 a bar and it was 'girls night'. My 2 friends and 2 cousins were invited. I ended up drinking to much to fast and got sick and wanted to go home before I met up with my 2 cousins because they were meeting us later after they got out of work. I had one of my friends I was with call them to let them know I was sick and was going home. Then I called when I got home to let them know I was home ok-both times left a message cause they didnt answer. The next day was my family birthday party.Only one of my cousins could make it. When she got there she yelled at me in front of everyone saying that I could have at least stayed at the bar till they got there and I should have called (not my friend) when I was in the middle of puking to let them know I was sick. I didnt say anything except I was sorry and she made me cry cause she embarrassed me in front of my fam. Now neither of them will speak to me! I said sorry to both of them 3 times and nothing. Help plz!!Need family advice please!?
they need to be more considerate, you DID call and leave them messages to let them know what was going on and they TOTALLY stepped out of bounds by yelling at you in front of everyone! i would let them know how you feel about this and see if an understanding can be found. if not, know that they were wrong, not you....Need family advice please!?
You apologized and it was not your fault in the first place they should be more considerate and understanding don't apologize anymore they should get over it
Your family is unreasonable. I would not concern myself with this issue. Find a nice guy, get to know him and if he ends up being a nice guy, marry him and start a family of your own and include those current family members who have an IQ higher than that of a turnip.
You did what you could the cousin should be sorry for acting the way they did in front of your family. I wouldn't want to invite them anywhere again. They act like you made it up and had your friend call them so you could go do something else without them. Could your cousin be jealous of your relationship with other friends?
yick sounds like your cousins are ver unreasonable people , move on let them get over themselves and when they decide to grow up and acr like adults they will come around and then you decide if you want them in your life
Well I have had similar problems. I just say sorry. If not your problem then leave and see what happens. If so worried then leave it you've lost a friendship but it can't be helped in a way.

Need family advice? brothers are being abused... help?

My brothers (16 and 15) are being abused by my uncle ';Jeff';. The sixteen year old one comes from an abusive past. I told the police, but they said ';Jason'; and ';Justin'; needed to come and make a statement... The problem beeing ';Justin'; doesn't think getting flat-out whammed is abuse, and ';Jason'; thinks abuse is normal.





I've seen ';Justin'; get hit several times, by my uncle, the one who I reported... Several times for doing nothing - he was in the living room watching TV and WHAM WHAM WHAM WHAM - my uncle hit hit him with a closed fist for not taking out the trash. After talking there were other incidences, too!





I wasn't able to talk to ';Jason';, but my uncle hit him in the book for reading the other day, calling him quote ';unworthy to read!'; And he was SUPPOSED to be reading. What should I do?Need family advice? brothers are being abused... help?
You should report your uncle ';Jeff'; to Child Protective Services in your state. They are different then the police and have a lot more authority to investigate these kind of matters. In most abuse cases the polices hands are tied, Where CPS is not they can investigate just on an accusation. Then if they find anything they will call the police in. It is sad because most people think the only avenue is the police but in a case like this they are the worst ones to call.





Also DO NOT talk to you brothers about the abuse or take pic because they can be used against the state if they go to try to get a protective order. I work for CPS in Utah and trust me it will do more damage then help.





good luck with all of this and if you have any further questions email me and I will help you.Need family advice? brothers are being abused... help?
try and obtain proof of the abuse and take it to the police. if the say that your brothers still need to make a statement then call an abuse hotline. also, if you can, try and convice your brothers that they are being abused and that it isn't normal because it's not normal nor is it okay. however, stay clear of your uncle before his rage turns on to you.
I don't know what state you are in but there is Child Protection Services in every State that look out for the welfare of children and they should be called. The Police cannot do anything unless it happens in their presence or one of the boys decides to press charges for assault and battery. Part of the reason they (the boys) may not want to do this is that whatever family unit there currently is will be broken up if they are put under protective custody and made wards of the court.They could end up in foster homes while the uncle goes to jail and I am sure they have thought about that and where they might end up.
if your bothers are getting abused then its your prority to do something .go to child protective services or if your brother are in school then go to the schools .i dont know where you live at but if you look in the front pages of the phonebook there is abuse hot line that is 1800 nomber you need to call them . but you need to get those boys out of that home cause they are in danger.
Get photos of any bruises, then take them to the police. If the police won't do anything, take them to children's services. If they won't come and investigate, go to an office in a larger city, use the phone book and look one up under the ';State Services'; section. Maybe you know someone with a cell phone that has a camera? Then you can email the pics to the agencies involved.
Your doing the right thing, take some pics. the show them to the cops.

Moving to New York with a family in 3 years! I need some serious advice!!!!!!!!?

I am hoping to move to New York in about 3 years when I my husband and I finish school. When finish school I am going to apply to FIT or Parsons. I am definitely going to move if I get in to one of those schools. It is my dream to work in the fashion industry in New York City. I know it鈥檚 hard. I have visited once for four days only. I have a 1-year-old daughter and I am not planning to have any more children. I am starting to have second thoughts about moving because I have been hearing bad things about the cost of living etc. I am just not sure how much money I should save and what I should do before I try to move. I was wondering also what are the best careers in NYC. I know its more difficult with a child. I REALLY need advice on this I have been stressing over this for months. I will appreciate ANY advice. Please help me!!!!!Moving to New York with a family in 3 years! I need some serious advice!!!!!!!!?
If you are wanting in the fashion industry NY is the place to be however you have a right to be concerned. NY is ungodly expensive it is nothing to throw down $1,500 or more for a tiny studio apartment. You have a lot of traffic, crime, and higher everything in the North just not in NY. If you are planning on moving there do a lot of research on neighborhoods, schools, and get opinions from people who have lived there, and remember to network talking to any and everyone you can. In order to move assuming that you won't have a job right away and with your little girl I wouldn't leave with less than $8,000 in pocket. If you drive you may want to consider living in southern CT and commuting to NY where the rent will be a little cheaper. Please if you need anything or advice don't hesitate to contact me and I will help you all I can. I am planning a move of my own and I know how stressful and scary it is.Moving to New York with a family in 3 years! I need some serious advice!!!!!!!!?
I moved from FL to San Francisco with family 6 yrs ago, sold all the funiture to local residents, packed every personal items be dilevered by UPS ground, they can keep your package for certan period, I drove 2 weeks to SF, found a cheap motel for 1 week, and find a small apartment, pick up my staff from UPS, then start my new life, it's been great.

Should i pursue the relationship i have over a matter of family advice?

i been chattin and meeting on line peoples for over a year and been threw alot n met some interesting people and have met some who fell in love threw online dating and meetings but my question is related to a online friend i am not suppose be talking to because of my sister who was friends with this person first so this guy i been chatting with a lil over a year and we hit it off juss like that and we cared for one another alot and but last year be4 we started talking more n more the first nite i met him online i didnt know he was friends with my sister threw online n my sister cared for him alot and witout me knowin i chat wit him the first nite and my other sister seen me chatting with him and told my other sister and since the first nite i met him i was told to leave him alone but i neva did and we hid all that from my sister and 2 weeks ago i findally told her and now she doesnt want us talking again but i am not willin to let this person go.. what should i do?Should i pursue the relationship i have over a matter of family advice?
Well, girl, that is certainly NO family advise, this is just a warning from your sis for you to stay away from HER catch. Ignore it, all IS FAIR AND SQUARE in the matter of relationship, friends or boyfriends, whats yours would be yours no matter what, continue chatting with this guy, but i must tell you , take good care of yourself, no pre marridge s*x, take care that you do not agree to anything that you do not want to do no matter how he plead with you (Erm, thats if he really ask you to .) Anyway, good luck to you .Should i pursue the relationship i have over a matter of family advice?
Tell your sister that you are his friend too, and she will just have to deal with it!!
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  • I don't get along with my family. Advice?

    I am the youngest in my family. My brother and sister always seem to be ';right'; in my parents' eyes. One little mistake will change everything good I've done for the rest of the week. I don't seem to get credit for hardly anything, and I'm very mad. I am on shaky grounds with my family. I can't be too upfront or I will just be labled as whining. What do you think?I don't get along with my family. Advice?
    Being the youngest in the family, this is a very common feeling. Your siblings seem to get to do whatever they want and go places that you never get to. It's not just you, I think most all youngest kids feel like this. The next time you do something you want credit for, tell your parents what you did, show them what you did. I think if you talk to them in a calm, mature way, they will take you seriously. It's all about the way you say things. Be clear about the things that are bothering you and offer solutions to the problems. I think they will be more than willing to listen if you approach them the right way.I don't get along with my family. Advice?
    Kind of sounds like whining to me. Count up the good and the blessings you have and maybe you will develop a different attitude. Being grateful usually changes everything for the better.
    screw em
    how old are you are you paying rent or you buying your own clothing are you paying utilities, doctor bills if not do as mom and dad says you will be out their hair soon enough and go into the real world where there is some cold hearted people
    It does sound like whining. Is there any way that you can improve your attitude?





    Making an effort to get along will make quite a difference for you.

    Family advice please!!!?

    My Brotherr is coming in Town and he is such an Arrogant AS%26amp;*^(^(%26amp;^. My Mom pushes us to go and spend time with him even though we dont get along. Would or should I continue to deal with this guy when Comes in town.???Family advice please!!!?
    Just say No. It is a waste of your time and a waste of his time. I know he is your sibling, but not everyone can just get along, sometimes siblings really can't get along at all. If you really don't want to then dont do it. If he is okay with it, then it is up to you.Family advice please!!!?
    There must be something inside your brother that is likable after all he has same blood you have. Do his friends and other family members feel as you do? Lighten up some and try to find some common ground and keep time on his visits at a minimum when you can't tolerate him any longer. I had similar relationship with my brother over years. When we began communicating again being miles apart I found out he was really a okay brother and looked forward to our next long distance visit.
    Maybe you should just tell your mom about what you go through when you're with him. Give her like, examples and say that it's just very uncomfortable and that you don't want to deal with it. If she still makes you go then do the same with your brother. Hope it comes out good.


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    I have an arrogant brother too the only thing you can do is put up with it. He is family and there is really nothing you can do unless you like put heat powder in his underwear drawer lol and get the satisfaction of watching him jump around lol.
    Sounds like u dont like him very much, and if u really HAVE to hang out with try to do something with him that doesnt involve much of u guys having to talk to each other, like a movie, or bring some of his and your friends with so u can go together, but kinda seperate once u get there.





    Good luck :)





    Hope I helped :)
    it seems to make your mom happy when you guys get along. so if he doesn't stay long, try to cooperate, but you don't have to be all brotherly towards him. and if he bugs you then just leave the room or area.
    i had that with my brother, and i stopped going just to make the rest of the family happy. why should i be miserable just to make them happy. talk with you family about him and why do you have to go.
    Dude, I know how you feel. Try going to a ballgame or something. That way you won't really have to socialize with the guy and you get to watch a game
    Yes, of course. You have to honour your Mother, if not your Brother. And please, no grudging presence okay - be nice, be gracious, buy him a gift, and give him a hug.
    Yes. Just do out for a little while and have fun. Ignore him being a jerk and just know that is only for a few hours.
    no!! its your life and think about it, why would you do something you really dont want to. sure hes your brother but maybe avoiding him is the best way to keep things from getting too out of control
    Issues aren't magically resolved. You must talk it through, what ever it is . Easier said than done, i know; but if you do show that effort of reconciliation. It will pay off.
    yes, he's your brother.... and you wan't mom happy... maybe eventually your 'bigger person' attitude will humble him a bit. You should invite him over to watch step brothers... kindof a lame movie, but an obnoxious brother!
    Visit him once to please your mom. Give him a chance, maybe he has changed. If he has not, then say your excuses and get out.
    Since he is your family I think you should see him at least once. Just remember he doesn't determine who you are. Regardless of how he acts.
    Of course! He is your brother for heaven's sake. Maybe spending some quality time with him could make him a more down-to-earth person.
    no matter what you do, he's still your brother. listen to your heart; it whispers. please your brother and you please your mom too.
    **** him. don't put up with his ****. if gets out of line punch him in the dick
    Yes, but only once or twice do you need to see him to appease your mother
    just dont countine 2 deal wit him just tell ur mom no
    TALK TO HIM ABOUT THIS
    He's your brother..suck it up..when he's dead and gone your gonna regret not spending time with him.
    dont put up with his shinanigans! haha thats a funny word. but anyway speak ur mind. let him know how u feel.

    Family advice and guidance?

    Okay so yesterday I was out in my backyard by my pool. My twin sister (13) as well as me (13) and my cousin (14). We were swimming, then we decided to get out. My sis pushed me for some reason and I accidently hit him in his private area! He got hard and we laughed thinking it was funny. Then my sister took it a little bit too far and asked him to show us. He did and I thought it was gross.





    Later that night I was going to sleep, in one room. Across the hall was my sis and my cousin in another room. My parents room is downstairs. I was woken up by my sister and cousin nudging me. My sister whispered me that we were going to try something new. sex.... I didnt like the idea, but my cousin did and so did she. They started from there and of course I joined in. blah blah. I kinda liked it and so did they. I think they want this more : O. What should I do? Or say?Family advice and guidance?
    You should tell them that you're not comfortable with this subject and if they start confronting you with things like ';baby'; or ';scaredy cat';, then tell them you have YOU HAVE THE RIGHT to feel uncomfortable around certain subjects, after that say no more - this gives them a smaller chance to find things to tease or accuse you with. If you feel their teasing or confrontations start to get too personal or intense it's okay to approach your parents - their there to help you, show your sister and cousin you have the courage to stand up for you, your rights and what you dislike in society. :)Family advice and guidance?
    troll. i thought last night it was your dad?


    EDIT- opps, sorry, it was your dad 2 days ago and you were 12.
    Their attitude was totally wrong.Sorry I dont know know the answer to this one.
    well, after you get done throwing up, you need to start trying to be a stronger person, you should not go along with people if you do not like the idea.





    i suggest you do not do this again. it is gross and you are too young.

    Depression in the family.. Advice Please..?

    My older brother has been taking anti depressants for the past two years.. he went off them for a bit and he is now back on them.. this morning he broke down on me.. he is so upset.. i dont know what to do.. can someone please tell me what i can do..





    maybe i can buy him a gift to cheer him up.. nice things to say to him? i dont know :S





    thank you..Depression in the family.. Advice Please..?
    You sound like a really sweet girl, but gifts and cheerful talk is like a kick in the teeth to a depressed person. Understand that they don't feel happy, and you trying to be happy on their behalf just makes them feel worse, like oh great, I can't even enjoy my little sister's company now, I'm such a jerk.





    Just be that good listener you were this morning. Tell him that anything he says is safe w/ you and that you will not judge him. Tell him that his mood fluctuations are okay and that you won't stop loving him no matter how he's feeling.





    That oughta be enough, as far as you can control.





    Keep being supportive, the world needs people like you!Depression in the family.. Advice Please..?
    Firstly it is very important that he always takes the medication recommended by his doctor. everyone is quite different with this condition so its hard to advise on how to deal with him .Observe what makes him seem lifted moodwise and( without being too interfering ) elaborate on that.


    Reassure him when hes down , spoil him a little. and be understanding. Maybe you could get him someone proffessional to talk to...I know its a big worry when this happens to someone in your family ! i really wish u and him well........hope ive helped a little........
    You are such an awesome sister!





    I agree with everything that was said in the above post. Basically, don't be happy/cheerful for him, BE THERE for him. Know what I mean? Honestly, I think the best thing you can do is to talk to him. Ask him about all his feelings and tell him to express them. Let him know that you're listening and not judging! =)
    I dont know about him but i feel realy depressed and i would kill for a hug. try giving him a hug

    Need marraige and family advice?

    my marriage has been rocky for years. I have two children and a husband who drinks a 12pack a day and can be verbally abusive to me and my oldest son 11yrs. My son has recently been hurting himself after his dad berates him. I need to let you know taht we are lving with my in-laws because we sold our house, because we were in financial difficulty and trying to recover from that. My husbnd won't listen and thinks we can buy a mobile home and put it on his parents property but I don't think we can make the payments and want to continue trying to pay off and save. We got into debt over the past 5 years, I went through a real tough time with my job and then losing my dad and didn't work becuase I was so depressed and couldn't get out of bed, so I quit my job after two years of struggle and then for two years stayed home with a daycare, which then added more stress to the family, so of course to my husband we are broke because of me.





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    I took out my retirment and paid off a larege debt, and then forgot about the taxes, which the profit from our house paid for (luckily). But my husband blames me for this mess, and I don't know what else I can do to make it better. I love him, but I don't like the way he is treating me and my son and I don't want to leave. If I do I would have to move in with my mom. I tried talking to my husband yesterday morning when he was sober and told him what our son is doing and that I didn't think we could afford a payment and that his parents don't want a trailer on their land. The plan was to build a building that we would live in and would then turn into a building in a couple of years for our farm that we are also tyring to expand and then buy a house or build after we have saved some money. He's not hardly speaking to me now. I feel like I should leave, but I don't think I could handle seeing him with someone else. I'm torn with what I should do. I can't take anymore blame.





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    I have no returned to work and enjoy my new job. I have no self esteem and I am overweight and have nothing to look forward to. If you had asked me 20 years ago this is not the life I would have expected myself to be in, I had so much more going in my life. I really don't know if my husband and I really have anything in common, I have been feeling for years now that he doesn't want to be seen with me that I embarras him, even if we go to Wal-Mart together he doesn't walk with me he is always ahead of me or behind me, never with me and at school or sport functions he stands at the back and doesn't sit with me and usually has an excuse for needing to drive his own vehicle. In our first year of marriage he had a ';friend'; that I found out about, he claims nothing ever happened, when I found out he told me thank you for trusting him and I told him I would this time but not again. I have wondered about other times since when he gets drunk he get very flirtatios with other women.





    21 minutes ago - 3 days left to answer. - 11 answers - Report AbuseNeed marraige and family advice?
    You need to think of both you and your son. Your son does not deserve this abuse, and if he is ';hurting himself'; at age 11, you need to get him out of there. Sounds like you really don't have much in common with your husband, and are maybe just afraid to be on your own. As unhappy as you are, just go ahead and leave and move in with your Mom, until you can afford to live on your own. Good luck and God Bless!

    Quick need quick family advice?

    Ok here is the problem. I live with my father and his life partner. We have 3 cats 2 dogs. They been fighting allot recently. today His life partner got another cat from friend of his. He has been told several times no more pets. Ok i have 2 options


    1. go to my fathers work and meet him when he gets off to warn him. This will probably lessen the impact.


    2. Do nothing and watch the fireworks when he gets home.Quick need quick family advice?
    Do whichever you prefer.


    The main thing to understand is, this is not your fight. You can't and shouldn't try to do anything about it, except talk to your father. Let the two ';adults'; deal with things between each other.


    If you are adversely affected by their bad relationship, absolutely tell your father! You should be his first priority.Quick need quick family advice?
    id say 2. ur dad might accidently yell at you because of how angry hed be and she had it coming
    # 1 and tell him not to over react unless you want them to fight hehe!
    #1, and you might get in a word about how tired you are of their constant bickering.
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  • Honest answers please... need advice on family and career change?

    Okay, I'll try this category since everyone else answers were nonsense.





    Here is the situtation:


    I am a single parent who will be moving to a smaller community (22,000 people versus 1.3 million) and have a few dilemmas.





    Career Dilemma:





    First, I already have an Associates Degree in general studies.





    I want to change careers as well as just relocating. Most job advertisements require only a high school diploma (only 20% of the town has an AS or BA).





    I am looking into short term education opportunities where I am living now. Would it be better to get additional program certificates in one specific area (such as accounting) or get course certificates in a variety of areas? I just want to be able to get a job there.





    Family Dilemma:





    How do I explain the move to my son? He will be four when we move and really hates change.Honest answers please... need advice on family and career change?
    #1. Either before you move, when you go visit/ looking for place, or after you're there: Go to your local Career Center. You can find them by calling your Human Services Dept. You don't have to be on any program or assistance to get these services for free, anyone can do it. However, as a single parent, you qualify for so many things they have career wise.


    They have a ';test'; you can take to see which direction will benefit you advancing further and what's best suited for you, your experiences, education and personality and goals.


    They'll have books with job listings, websites to go to, and job placement help. It works, and it is all free if you'll just ask.





    #2- being an army brat, we moved a lot, then I married into it and did it to my kids (for a while)


    He is very young, so it is actually better on him to go now, than later. Try to get a routine started once your settled, and that will always help him adjust to things. Get involved with a play group or something at you local library, they help him adjust, too.


    Kids are way more resilient than we give them credit for. If it is best for you, then in the end, that is best for him, right?!


    You sound like a good parent who's concerned for your child's future by bettering yours. He'll appreciate it in long run, promise.





    Good Luck, don't forget to ask for Human Services Dept, they have all the numbers and places you'll need! Good Luck!Honest answers please... need advice on family and career change?
    Totally accounting. It just made some list today - on cnn or yahoo - as being the top family freindly profession. Ill see if I can find the link.
    i would find a specific career and as for the child. i was a child who was moved around a lot and i too hate change actually i fear it but i got over it and he is so young he will get over it. be patient with him he may rebel but he will get used to it. i think kids have more school related opportunities in smaller communities anyway. he will be fine. good luck and best wishes.
    actually i would go after the accounting program, my girlfriend is a single mother and with her accounting degree she had all the qualifications to run any type of an office plus she does taxes for 2 companies at home and does taxes for people at home during tax season. her office job is all computer based so when her daughter is sick she is able to work from home. as for your son (i understand about hating change i do to) i think you will have to make the move sound like a huge adventure with a promise at the end. are you going to be buying a house? can he have a new swingset or something he has been repeatedly asking for?
    I would suggest that you get program certificates in a specific area. Your degree is already general, but not particularly conducive to employment. You need some marketable skills.





    As to explaining the move to your son, you should be honest and specific. Tell him far in advance. Get pictures of the town you are moving to, names of schools and activity centers. Show him a picture of the house you will live in (if you can). If you haven't found a house or apartment yet, bring him with you to look at them and help chose one.





    If at all possible, go visit the town with him and play at play grounds. Go camping or hiking in the area, and invite his friends to come with you. Take lots of pictures of him and his friends.





    Get the addresses and phone numbers of his best friends so he can write them letters and call them after the move.





    Hope everything goes well for you both!

    Can someone give me a little family advice?

    my mother and father can never get along when it comes to family.


    every time my mom starts to talk about my dads family my dad talks about hers and then they get into a big fight every time and i try to talk to them and say if they cant say anything nice about each others family dont say it at all,but it never ends up that way they always start to argue then not talk,and sometimes what they say about each others is really mean,so does anyone have any experiance with parents like these and could you tell me what you did to stop them from getting into an argument every time,ps.there fighting is really about whos family is better,my dads side is a little more laid back and my moms side is more stuffy.Can someone give me a little family advice?
    I see it like this, we all came from the same person that created us all. Regardless what color, religion, capabilities, handicaps, mental illness, disorders, or anything we came from God. It doesn't matter who's family is better or worse. That's all beside the point. Mom and dad got married for a reason. And that reason is because they love each other. Put families opinion aside and focus on what we have today. Focus on God, mom, dad, and the family. With everything on the same page no one is in the wrong.Can someone give me a little family advice?
    Tell them ';just shut up and get a divorce already!'; then (if you live at home) run up to your room and slam your door. THAT should hopefully get their attention.





    If you don't live at home, tell them the same thing, then walk OUT of the house and drive away. Call them later and tell them if they keep doing that in your presence you won't visit them.





    If you are still in school, talk to your guidance counselor about it.
    If they can't respect your feelings by stopping this behaviour in front of you, you could leave the room. You don't have to listen if this is how they choose to carry on. Maybe if you leave the room every time it starts they'll get the nessage.
    it's between them i ate to say it but you're better off staying out of it. it's normal for parents to fight about each other's family once in a while. if you get involved it only makes it worse.
    Sounds to me that your the parent. Talk to both of them separately. Maybe suggest counseling.
    When this happens , u break thru the conversation and start a new subject like lets go get some icecream or something.


    U should say nice things about both sides and they will start doing it too.
    Be a grown up about it and tell them to knock it off!! My parents 'badtalk' eachother around me since they split up, and I had finally had enough and told them both to quit it. I don't allow and 'badtalk' in my home, or around my children. Thats the rule around here. If they don't like it, tough luck!
    All children are conditioned and have family pride. When they grow up, these things stay with us. But generally when we fight about this, its stemmed from other arguments, this is generally, never the foundation. As far as stopping it, I really don't think you can. Find some humor in it . Start talking about your family, (the same Mother and Father that arguing over their families) like a 3rd party thing. If they don't find any humor in this, just leave the area and let them go at it. It could be just a way to leviate stress, and this is the best they can do. I will never understand parents. :)
    Your parents seem to be very immature, it's terrible that they say bad things about eachothers family and in front of you. You need to get all drama, and scream that you can't take it anymore and start pouring out the tears, and cry about how much you love both sides of your family and you can't stand to listen to them talk badly about them anymore. If they don't shut up after that, then they are just cold.
    I had the same problem ,my parents use to argue about everything ,they spent 20 years together after they got divorce,it was too hard for me and my sisters ,we coulden't stop them ,they wasen't happy togther ,i remember i use to cry and cry but nothing will stop them ,my mum got married again soon after the divorce ,and my father died just after my mum wedding I beleive its because he was so upset ,it was to much for him ,even after my father death my mum choosed to go to canada with here husband ,and she left us behind ,it was very hard ,I still speak to my mum ,but its hard to forget what she did ,she left in the most time we needed here .


    I really think that parents should never fight in front of the kids ,I think kids come first .


    form my experience I think ther is nothing you can do to stop them from getting into an argument .


    the parents fight and the kids suffer ,they are the grown up so they shoud stop fighting and start thinking about ther kids.


    and i wish you the best of luck ,and i wish you get all the happiness you wish for .
    OMG!!! i have the SAME EXACT family!!!!! *freaky* but... my grandma from my dads side LIVES with us. and my mom is NOT happy bout that. so, naturally, they get into fights often. my dad tries to break the fight up,,,, but it dont werk. one time, my mom got SO mad, she shoved my dad out the house and locked the door... i was 6 then.... they didnt file for a divorce because my mom does the house work and my dad makes the money. without one or the other, me and my two younger sisters cant survive, and both of my parents love me....so divorcing is outta the question. when they fight, its scary cos it gets phisical sometimes and they say really nasty things to eachother.


    My dad sometimes cries in front of me and thats freaky cos he almost never cries...hes a MAN. he whispers..... Be strong cos one day, we'll all end up killing eachother. i said nothing. u can share this story with your parents... i hope it mite soften them up and realize how much eachother is really worth.
    You are not going to change them. So you need to change yourself. Get up and leave the room. They've been married this long that they know the chorus line in the argument. You just don't have to sit in the audience.
    let them argue they show each other there love that way my parents had a 45 yr marriage of arguements thats how they got along by not getting along
    Hun U shouldnt get into ur parenst bussines not tryin to be ruude but it'z there choice to fight not urs if they dont love each other it just wont click...[[sorry if u thought that was rude]]
    i don't have parents like that, but what you might want to do is seperately talk to them about how it is affecting you! tell them they are relate so both of the sides should be considered the same. don't be scared to say it!
    Get them t-shirts for Christmas that say, ';You can pick your friends and you can pick your nose, but you can't pick your family. Deal with it.';

    Are there any family solicitors who can give free legal advice for 30 minutes in the London area?

    Hi. Check this link. If you put in your postcode you should be able to find a solicitor who fits the criteria you require.


    Very few solicitors do 1st free interviews now.Are there any family solicitors who can give free legal advice for 30 minutes in the London area?
    Try one of these law centres: http://www.lawcentres.org.uk/directory/l鈥?/a>Are there any family solicitors who can give free legal advice for 30 minutes in the London area?
    All solicitors do this dont they? Give them a ring and ask.








    Local CAB otherwise?

    Advice on how to block a family member from emailing, but retain the contact info.?

    Hi, Thanks for reading. Heres my dilema, I have an extended family member that is emailing me alot - ( several times a day)


    19 + times since the first of the month. The e-mails are those cheezy chain letters with angels and puppies ... or the like.


    I know that I could just hit the spam button , but I'm not sure if this action would result in them getting a notice that I considered them ';spam'; material.


    This person is an extended ';family member'; , but not someone I speak to often - usually at weddings, funerals and large family gatherings. They are having health problems and probably just sitting at home bored , but I use the email they are sending these to for business and it is really getting to be a problem.


    Any suggestions on how to remedy this situation with out offending them?Advice on how to block a family member from emailing, but retain the contact info.?
    When you hit the Spam button from a certain email, the other mails from same address are supposed to land on the bulk folder.


    But you can manually block mail from specific address.


    Note: all mails from that address will be deleted on the way and will never reach your mail box.





    How do I block mail from a specific sender? Can I un-block it later?


    Yahoo! Mail makes it easy to block unwanted messages from a known address. It's just as easy to remove the block if you want to.





    Here's how to add a block to an email address:





    Click Options in the upper-right corner of your Yahoo! Mail page.


    From the list on the left, click Spam.


    In the middle of this page, in the space provided in the ';Blocked Addresses'; section, enter the email address from which you don't want to receive mail.


    Click Add.


    The address now appears on your list of blocked addresses.


    Yahoo! Mail offers up to 500 blocked email addresses. You can see how many of your blocked addresses you're using beside the list – for example, “4 of 500 used”.





    You can also un-block addresses whenever you want.





    To remove a block from an address:





    From the Blocked Addresses list, click the address you wish to remove.


    Click Remove beside your the Blocked Addresses list.


    After removing an address from your Blocked Addresses list, you'll be able to receive mail from that address.Advice on how to block a family member from emailing, but retain the contact info.?
    Set up a filter and have them redirected to a new folder. Create a folder for them, then click Options %26gt; Filters and set one up. You can do one using the ';from'; info. It won't block it, but it will separate it and then you can just mass delete them if you want.





    Either that or create another email address and have them use that one.
    May I suggest that you open a separate free e-mail account just for personal messages like what you mentioned in your querry. You can then request all your personal contacts to add this new email address for further email messages. You can then keep your other email address free of personal messages thus giving you more option as to when your free to check less important messages at the same time decongesting your email address allocated for business purposes.

    I am family of four and are shifting to kl. pls advice what would be our monthly expenses of two kids going to?

    international school. and we would like to have a respectable resonable livingI am family of four and are shifting to kl. pls advice what would be our monthly expenses of two kids going to?
    for that kind of living, you need RM30k (USD8k a month)I am family of four and are shifting to kl. pls advice what would be our monthly expenses of two kids going to?
    make sure you don't move your entire family here just because somebody from Msia email you that they offer you a job out of the blue

    My family is going on vacation for 1 week, my inside dog will be outside, any advice?

    My dog is large, 5yr old and 105lbs. Chesapeake lab mix; she has very thick wavy hair. She hasn't stayed outside over night in about 3 years.My family is going on vacation for 1 week, my inside dog will be outside, any advice?
    I would suggest you put her in a kennel.My family is going on vacation for 1 week, my inside dog will be outside, any advice?
    Your leaving your dog outside for a week!?!?!?!? No dog should be left alone for a week EVER! So I hope you have someone who is going to be coming over to care for it, which you didn't mention. What is wrong with boarding it? It's not that outrageously expensive and they will walk it, and play with it (hopefully). Have you checked what the weather is going to be like in your area? It still gets very cold here at night, and hot during the days. Does the dog have a shelter to go in like and open garage bay or nice dog house that it likes? I don't understand why it has to be outside t night, can't you get someone to let it in at night and then let it out in the mornings?
    It would be better to get a house sitter and allow the dog to stay inside.





    Being that she is not an outside dog, she may bark, howel, dig, etc.





    It may irritate the neighbors and she may hurt herself.





    Otherwise, you will definitely need someone to check up on her at least twice a day.
    make sure to put a blanket in her dog house and have someone come over to your house everyday to feed and water her. she will be okay. the first night will be bad but she'll get use to it.
    have someone check on her every day at least once a day.
    I think to be fair to the dog, boarding her would be a much nicer option. Not the most ideal, that would be actually taking her with you. But it is cruel to take an animal that hasn't had to adapt to being outside all the time and expect them to adapt all of a sudden and for a whole weeks time.
    OK u keep her inside and than call some1 u know gave than the keys of Ur house 1 of Ur family member can take u outside and feed her after that walk her put her inside to feed her Ect .everday ur family member ECT%26gt;%26gt;%26gt;%26gt;%26gt;.....
    It's generally not a good idea to leave your dog outside for that amount of time due to the many problems that can arise quickly. This is especially true if you live in an urban area.





    Things that can go wrong:





    - Dog gets loose which could lead to injury or death


    - Someone can steal/take the dog


    - This could set a green flag off to house robbers


    - Someone who doesn't like dogs may poison it


    - Police may file complaints if dog makes noise





    Etc...





    Since you're going to be away for a week, it's best to seek a local dog boarding company or pet service that will care for your animal while you are away.





    This will help ensure:





    - Your dog will be taken care of, well-fed and looked after


    - They will ensure that nothing bad happens to the dog


    - If a medical problem occurs your dog will see a veterinarian


    - You can enjoy your vacation without worry


    - You can call the place and check in on the dog anytime


    - The dog will get play and socialization time





    If you can't find any company to do so, or are unhappy with prices:





    Try talking with a local neighbor that you trust.


    Offer to pay them a nominal fee: Something like $50-75 for the week.





    Make sure that you provide them with proper food, supplies, and veterinary contacts should something go wrong.





    Hope this helps!
    How will she be fed and watered? I hope you have arranged for someone to come do that. Also, does she have shelter to get out of the heat or cold, and is she a barker! Will she be chained up. I think it would much kinder to have her boarded somewhere or ask a friend to take her in. I think it is quite unkind to leave a pet alone for that long.
    I guess I don't really understand why the dog has to be outside for a week. Even if you have someone come over every day, your dog is fair game to anyone who wants to steal it, or any wild animal that would like an easy meal. The dog will be deprived of companionship for an entire week! If you don't have a relative who could take the dog in to care for, I would definitely suggest a boarding facility. It is never a good idea to leave your dog out for that long a time.
    Boarding in a much more humane option.





    What happens if she barks all night and someone reports it? It may well get taken away by animal control and cost you a lot more than boarding fees to get back. (If they will let you have it back) There also could be fines.





    What happens if the dig gets sick or gets hurt? Will there be someone checking at least twice a day to make sure all is well? Will they take her to the vet and cover the bills until you get back however big they may be?





    What about feeding, watering and walks?





    Please for the sake of your dog don;t leave her outside. You will enjoy your vacation so much better knowing she is being cared for in any situation rather than wondering about what maybe happening at home.
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  • Does anyone have any information/advice for a family looking to move to Cyprus?

    I saw this question and it made me so envious! We love Cyprus and are looking to more there in around 14 years time when my stepchildren are old enough to have a life of their own. We have looked at many properties in Cyprus although we like most parts have decided to buy in Paphos.





    If you go to www.buysellcyprus.com they have a huge amount of properties both used and new builds to buy in all parts of Cyprus from the Northern part to Aiya Napa. Properties can be a real bargain if you buy a new build off plan as they tend to go up in value before they are even finished and there are many many new builds being built there to choose from. Definately check out www.buysellcyprus as they can arrange visits to view property for 3 or 4 days at a price of around 拢89 each including flights and accommodation. You look at properties during the day and the then the evening is yours to do as you wish, so its the best of both worlds.





    Cyprus is a wonderful place, it is a fantastic home for families of any age, but especially with young children as Cyprus is very child orientated. They are very well catered for children of all age there and restaurants, shops, beaches etc. encourage children to be there. The weather is lovely all year round, making it an ideal country compared to the dreary, non guaranteed weather of the UK. The cost of living there is very good with their equivalent of the council tax costing around 拢30 per year! With cheap accommodation, cheap cost of living and gorgeous weather, what more can a person ask for? Good luck and say hello to the beautiful country for me!Does anyone have any information/advice for a family looking to move to Cyprus?
    Hi there





    We made the move (to Polis area) 3 years ago and have not regretted a minute! Wonderful climate, great people and stress free (compared to the UK anyway!).


    Tips:


    1 send your kids to a local school so they learn greek quickly


    2 consider renting for 6 months before you buy - that way you get to know the area you are planning to live in - you WILL end up wishing you had chosen a different place after you've lived here for a while!


    3 Buy sell is a good company (we bought through them - private developer) but also consider a private/unique build - that way you can have your own design etc but it takes longer - up to 18 months for a house from scratch


    4 When looking at which area to live in, consider whether you want to be near the big towns or be more rural - our side of the island is largely unspoilt unlike Paphos/Limassol/Larnaca but it depends what you want


    5 If you do buy straight away, you WILL need some form of central heating - winters are quite short and mild by UK standards but when it rains, it monsoons and the concrete sucks the water in making your home feel very damp - we learned that lesson having rented for the first winter and are so glad we went for underfloor heating...





    see the website below for advice if you want to build your own design plus also tips on renting villas - which apply equally if you plan to live in one!





    Good luck!Does anyone have any information/advice for a family looking to move to Cyprus?
    this is news and events, better off asking under travel
    Yes - relocating abroad can be expensive. However, you can actually profit from a move abroad if you follow the McCanns example. Leave your kids alone, then when one gets mislaid, you can set up a fund and sit back and watch as many people dip into their pockets to finance your personal expenses whilst you live in a luxury villa and all your mates come out for a few weeks to 'show support'.......





    You can eventually even make a new career out of it. Just watch the McCanns example unfold.
    My Dad lives in Cyprus, going over in 2 weeks, he has 2 houses in Paphos, Coral Bay and in my opinion this is a very nice place to live lots of restaurants, bars. Coral Bay beach probably the best beach in Cyprus. Most talk English well, so their shouldn't be a problem with the language. With regards to schools unless your children speak Greek you will have trouble, it also gets unbearbly hot for some in summer personly though i don't mind the heat. There you are, a little info probably won't help though.
    Yes!





    Go as quickly as you can because this country is going downhill fast.





    Goodluck and enjoy it.





    I do envy you
    no
    Look on the Cyprus Living website. Lots of useful information.
    Enjoy!
    When it rains, it really rains! The driving standards are really, really bad, the mechanics are really good and cheap, everybody gets their phone bill on the same day - always a long wait to pay it (or it used to be that way!), buy a 4x4, they're classed as agricultural and ins is very cheap,tomorrow means the day after,it seems to be tradition to start any household repair by knocking a hole in the wall - whether they need to or not,electrical items are much cheaper and they want your custom! - they deliver free usually same day, they have hundreds of different varieties of coat hangers, dry cleaning is cheap, food is cheap, electric is now pretty expensive, weather is great (most of the time!) short but bone chilling winters! Everybody has a brother/cousin/uncle who has a shop in Nicosia - but they will send a taxi to get whatever it is you want (and they do but they don't charge you for it!) All in all pretty good to live there! (we had three years there) strangely though, I wouldn't go on holiday!





    If you're buying just make sure you have an English speaking lawyer and check the deeds! Kids will love it!

    I need family advice

    ok to let u know ima 16teen year old dude im pretty damn cool and im really smart and creative im great in football and i think i could even become a carpenter,video game maker or somethin but i have alot of family problems...i never had a father he died before i was born and im living with my mom step dad and grandfather my mom used to do drugs as a teen but she has changed her life alot my step dad dosent have anything to do with me the only person that has something to do with me is my grandfather he spoiles me to death and hes always nice 2 me but i no he will only be here a few more years hes on oxygen and everything so i will have no one to look up to later on.my mom took methidone so she would be able to get off drugs as a teen she still took it until this year but she is still trying to get off methidone so she acts really mean and careless now its like shes losing her intelligence she really forgets alot of stuff .i also have a smaller brother and 2 sisters that my mom takes care of she does a good job but she forgets alot and shes not taking care of herself she wories about everyone else.my step dad has been cheating on her and she knows but she still wont leave him i have to here arguing everyday i had lots of friends were i used to live but my step dad moved my family to a boring town with not that many kids my age.ima cool kid i get to see my friends like every month we just chill and hangout but u no were not into smoking or drugs and stuff like that but anyway i could have a great future i just dont have anyone to look up to its hard not having a dad and my grandpa wont be here 4 that long also he dosent give me advice or anything my life used to be great until my mom married my step dad .i also have alot more family problems. i need someone to look up to so i can get far in life i want to be someone but with this family its hard my grandparents in va asked me if i wanted to live over their but i would never see my friends then how do i i get a good career and stuff when i have noone to look up 2?





    i no this is alot of bull i wrote but i need advice


    I need family advice
    wow dude you have a lot going on, sorry to hear its going this way. the only advice i can give is pray. If you believe in God, and have faith, ask him to take care of this for you. it will be taken care of in time. you have to be strong for yourself. im sorry to hear bout your gfather. maybe sign up for big brothers/sisters organization. you are under 18 and even though you have siblings you might be able to get signed up with that. i hope that you do not get involved into drugs or smoke cigs, cause kids your age try that stuff. you seem smart and have a good head on your shoulders, just keep LOOKING UP cause thats where it all is. you will have a great future if thats what you want, its all up to u. in 2 years you will be 18 and will be able to go to college and make a great life. i hope the best for you manI need family advice
    well if you have got some problems make your family notice you but that other kid who answered you i think you should spy on your step dad if you think he is cheating but if hes not just bond with him do the dishes clean and thats how they notice you .
    Good to here u r a resposible kid...





    Dont take any decision on ur mothers' life... Let her have in her own way...





    U can definately achieve something.. Concentrate on ur studies than family problems... Problems are there everywhere....





    I think this is not your age to take any major decision... Complete ur studies get good job...then have ti in ur own way





    All the best.
    I think you should convince your mother to leave your step dad.


    Or confront him about cheating on your mom.


    If your siblings are younger for them , I hope you make it so they look up to you and they aren't in need of someone like you are now.


    You should stay by your grandfather everyday until the end.


    I would say you should try to get a part time job, so that you will learn to not be spoiled.


    Things will work out if you give them time.









    Dear friend ,


    I am 35 years old now and i had your situation when i was 18. I had no one to count on ! no body even to talk to and have some advices .when i was at your age as i used to live in a poor country like iran we had no computr , no one to talk even as a ordinary friend , I said all these because i want to tell you that NOW I AM SUCCESSFUL . I thought and thought and thought with myself and i understood that the only person could help me was myself . I was in a poor family with 2 younger sister . no money .no property .nothing


    I saw that the only thing i can count on is my education , so i tried to study hard . i had to study more and more because i did not have money to have tutor . i did fight with all difficulties and do u believe that i did not have time to think about all the difficulties that came to me one by one . I just could accepted them and try to solve them. i decided to continue studying in the capital city in our country without any house there .


    i started teaching math ,the thing that i knew .little by little it worked out .still did not have any house to rest .every day i was guest in one house and it was killing me .


    problems , poverty ,difficulties could make some one strong from me .


    now after 17 years just fighting for money , for 1room which can be roof for mt head , difficulties , now my life is a little bit better .


    i can rent a room and i have brought my sister to my house and help her study at university .





    Dont think that you are the only one with difficulties in life in this world.


    8 months ago i married a canadian man and i will live in peaceful place like canada after 35 years fighting for peace .


    be strong !


    accept the problems you have and try to solve them !


    consider and know all the good things that you have ! it helps you and engourage you to over come the problems!


    nothing will change if you just think and sorrow !


    i have understood that you have nothing just being able to go to school.


    ok ! nice ! try to study hard ! it can be the only valueable thing ypu have .


    then you will grow ! you will improve !


    best wishes !


    sepideh

    Meeting his family, advice?

    I've only been dating him about two months, and he wants me to go home with him for a hometown celebration. His family, friends, and even some extended family will be there. I've never met a guy's family before, and I'm terrified! Any advice?Meeting his family, advice?
    Just be yourself ... He has probably told his family how much he likes you, and they will make an effort to like you as well. Make an effort to include yourself in family activities, like games, helping with dinner, etc. If he has young cousins or brothers/sister, try to engage yourself with them. This helped me a lot when I first met my boyfriend's extended family.Meeting his family, advice?
    Well the 1st thing is try to level the playing field, by this I mean see if you two can stay in a hotel (as opposed to a relative or friends house). It will just make things easier for you, there will be more privacy. Have him tell his family that you don't want to impose and/or something like you like to stay up late and don't want to be a bother. Be yourself, mind your please %26amp; thank you's, be honest (so something doesn't come back to bite you later), dress the part (respectable GF), bite your tongue when need be (you can rip him a new one back at the hotel, lol). I probaly would try to only be there for 2-3 days.
    Just be yourself and relax.


    When I first started dating my hubby, I had to use the washroom, when we got to his house, he showed me where it was and on the way saw them in the living room and said hello before he introduced me. I am sure they thought I was strange but being friendly helps in the long run!
    Dress properly!!!! Can't stress that. Also, everyone likes someone nice and cheery, even though I'd hope ur guy will take you to meet them all in small groups rather then making you into a show for people. Also, I'd say if you talk to anyone talk to him mom and his bf. They like that
    Oh how scary......





    I was nervous when I met my bfs fam......they dont like me very much so its even worse.





    Learn from my mistakes:





    Act polite


    Dont wear revealing clothing


    Ask lots of q's


    Answer honestly


    Stay with your bf at all times.. he will protect you.


    Make sure he tells you all the goss so you have inside info before you meet them








    GOODLUCK x
    be 100% you ... take my advice if you dont you will forget something you may have said and it will come back to get you later





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    Just be yourself, I'm sure they will find the same qualities in you that he likes.

    I have a friend and she found out that she is pregnant but doesn't know how to tell her family...any advice?

    my friend asked me for advice on how to tell her family that she is pregnant and i don't really know how to help her...the issue is that she is only 16 yrs.old...does anyone have any advice on how she can tell her family?I have a friend and she found out that she is pregnant but doesn't know how to tell her family...any advice?
    just to let it out there. maybe do nice stuff to her parents before? to soften them up. then just tell them. they should be understandingI have a friend and she found out that she is pregnant but doesn't know how to tell her family...any advice?
    ok tell her to go to plan parenthood or go and get an abortion and let NO ONE know
    She should just tell her parents during dinner or something. Or tell her mother first privately then her mom will tell her dad. So,they both wouldn't be yelling at her the same time. But, yet.. some parents probably wouldn't argue. I don't know how her parents are or how they would re act. So she should just break it down to them. Now would be a good time before it's too late.
    Keep it a secret.





    This is a government secret, but I am going to tell it to you, cuz I luv u.





    Anyways, if you stop thinking that you are pregnant, then you will no longer be pregnant. Just think you are not, and all your problems will be solved.
    There's never a easy way to tell your parents your pregnant when you a teen. So she basically has to come out %26amp; it, ';Mom, dad I'm pregnant. And I really need your help, please don't leave me';. Is what she can say, or write it in a letter %26amp; let if for them while she's(Your friend) gone.

    Las Vegas Single Family Home Advice Please?

    I researched a lot on the web and visited Las Vegas to get an idea of different areas to purchase a home. My main concern is a good neighborhood that won't depreciate in value. I really liked the northwest area 89129, south 89123 and southwest 89147, 89117. My budget is 250,000-300,000, 3br 2bath 1500-2000sf. Why are there so many homes in the 89129 area that are for sale?? Do you think the future development of the strip expanding to the areas 89123,89147,89117 have a negative impact on single family home prices?? Any advice, opinions or comments would be appreciated.


    Also do you think house prices will continue to depreciate, should I wait it out??Las Vegas Single Family Home Advice Please?
    I took part in building many of the homes out in the vary area your speaking about, I lived in Vegas for about twenty years, it was an empty void when we started building, probably built some of the homes your looking at. Back then the three bedrooms were going for less then $1000,00 to just over $150,000.00, now I know they've gone up due to the heavy influx of people. Back then there were 360 people a day coming into the city and 280 leaving per day, today it's the highest city for repossessed homes in the country, it was high back then. An average home owner stayed less then two years, some less then six months. The population in 1980 was 135,000, when I left it was 2 million and growing , along with prices, gangs and violence, it was no place to raise a family.


    Although he pay was good for my wife and I, we didn't drink, didn't party and didn't do drugs, the people are very untrusting, unfriendly and you can't get credit for two three years anywhere down there.


    Unless you have a large bank account, get yourself a weapon and a permit to carry some training. I carried a .38 special and in my vehicle a 357. I carried large sums of money, I had to pull my gun several times.





    It's not a city to retire to, several of my friends tried and came back with sorry tales.


    All I can say is good luck.








    P.S. if your that interested see ';Award Realty'; on the West end, thier very good to excellent.

    Legal Family advice, my mom kicked me out a 2 years ago...?

    my mom kicked me out of the house 2 years ago, since then i have been living with my grandparents they do not yet have legal guardianship of me YET but my mom came into town and wrote me a letter saying sorry for the abuse and now she wants me to move in with her on calgary thing is i am not going there but i am at wits ends , can she take me back? can i take her to court and request a 'divorce'? do i need evidence o why i think she is unfit? she thinks i am in an unstable home which isnt true its more stable then hers! her bf is abusive towards me!! didnt she walk away from the responsibilty of being my parent when she kicked me out of the house and moved out of province? she thinks i need consistency and discipline when i have that, i have run away once! because she was coming can she hold that against me? also can she keep threatneing to move me to calgary AGAINST my will??Legal Family advice, my mom kicked me out a 2 years ago...?
    I know very little of US law and less about Canadian law, but as a parent who is almost constantly in a court battle of some sort I know some laws are very flawed. Where exactly is your father in the situation? What are his opinions? It will be very difficult for your mom to force you after her ABANDONMENT of responsibility. Your grandparents sound like vrey good, responsible, stable and most of all loving role models who will help you in any way possible! Talk to them, and get their opinions. If they are not able to finance legal representation talk to a Legal Aid Organization if you have one locally, or in the most extreme of cases maybe DHS or a like agency can help. I know in Oklahoma the DHS provides the kids an attorney in matters where they have taken the kids out of a home. But be aware that by contacting DHS they may want to remove you from even your grandparents and I don't think you or your grandparents want that! Be very careful about what is said by anyone other than your grandparents, as DHS will take anything that is said by anyone and twist it to suit their own purposes. Don't believe for one second that they are in it for your best interest.. As a father who lost custody of my daughter in this way, I feel bad that you are having to go through this mess. If you feel that your grandparents are stable and caring about your interests not just child support, then by all means express your opinions to a judge if you get the chance. GOOD LUCK!!!Legal Family advice, my mom kicked me out a 2 years ago...?
    A lot depends on how old you are. Don't know about Canada, but in most states in the US you can petition the court for ';Emancipation'; at age 16 or older. Suggest you talk with your grandparents, and tell them of the abuse. You will need them on your side.
    That's horrible. She kicks you out of her home and then demands that you move with her to Calgary. You should talk to your grandparents and see what they have to say. Also, if her boyfriend is abusive you could tell the cops that. If for some reason you are forced to move back in with your Mom, try to get evidence that your Mom's boyfriend is abusive. and use it against him, and call the police again with your evidence.
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  • Okaay, i need some family advice?

    Theres this boy at my school who shares my auntie and uncle, what is he to me?


    My dads sister married his dads brother, what is he to me?


    Thankss xOkaay, i need some family advice?
    Your dad's sister is your aunt. Your aunt married this boy's uncle. So he's your uncle's nephew.Okaay, i need some family advice?
    maybe your 2nd cousin?


    i have no clue,


    but if you liked liked this guy,


    it would totally suck.
    If his parents are your aunt and uncle then he is your cousin.
    COUSIN
    cousin??
    cousins

    Best advice to get over death of a family/friend?

    I lost a family member (cancer) which I fished with often. I don't feel like fishing no more because it makes me think about him. What is the best advice for me to conitnue enjoying my hobby and get over this?Best advice to get over death of a family/friend?
    I lost my Dad to cancer a long time ago, my son was five at the time. They would go fishing everyday. After he died my son would not go fishing. I asked he why and he said it was wrong since he died. I told him it was still okay to still go fishing. He is now 27 and loves to go fishing he goes with his uncle every year.





    I would still go in memory of your friend, Im sure they would love it. and you can have think about all the good times you had.Best advice to get over death of a family/friend?
    Go fishing, as often as you like, on special occasions, whenever. Go to normal fishing sites that you normally go to, go to other sites, have fun. Take something that reminds you of your relative if you want, a photo, jewelry, something, while he is gone you still have to carry on, remember the good times you had with him, and don't stop you hobby!





    Don't worry if you feel like crying, it's perfectly natural, and in some ways helps us get over all the pent up emotion.
    just go fishing. as often as before. and you'll get over it, i promise you. i had an experience like that before.


    good luck.

    Can someone give our family some advice on death?

    Ok, the question doesn't 100 percent sum up the problem. My father in law just lost his wife to a battle of liver disease fighting for the last 10 years of her being sick. NOt from drinking either from a mistake a doctor made 40 years ago giving her a shot and it being used on someone with hepatitus. Well we lost her about 6 months ago. My husband doenst really talk about it, we're only 19 and 22, and this happened a month before our wedding. Ok about 2 months ago my father in law lost his best friend from elementary school to cancer out of nowhere he died in the hospital. Now its been about 3-4 months of nothing happening and now my father in laws mother went to the hopsital because she was bleeding and here she has an oversized cancerous cyst that ruptured during the surgery of removing it, and cancer is throughout her body. They came out and said we did everything we could, and I gues you can't do kemo w/ this type of cancer? Idk what to do, this is the hardest thing ever 4 a familyCan someone give our family some advice on death?
    First of all, you have my condolences on your loss. What can we say about death exactly? We all must cross that bridge at one time or another. To be absent from the body is to be present with The Lord. This is the time when you have to stay strong as a family%26amp;help each other get through it. If the cancer is through out the body I dont think chemo helps all they can do is keep the person comfortable%26amp;out of pain.Can someone give our family some advice on death?
    There's not much you can do except to continue to support each other as you each work it all out for yourselves %26amp; figure out how you're going to go on living a full, happy life (as every one of the deceased people would want you to do).





    As much as possible, remember each of these people in your daily lives. Not in a sad way, but in an honoring %26amp; celebrating way. Remember what they taught you, how they touched you, how they helped the community around them --- all of these things that they did help them to live on even now, in your lives, your actions, in who you are. They are still here. Not in their own bodies, anymore, but in your hearts, actions %26amp; words.





    Remember that each person in your husband's family (and yourself!) is going to deal with this in their own way %26amp; at their own pace. Be gentle with each other, but keep trying to fulfill the dreams of the deceased, by living your lives to the fullest and honoring their memories.
    i am very sorry to hear about your loss. many communities have hospice (an organization that helps people who are dying and their families). check your local hospital or community center for grief support groups. you can always see a therapist as well. the most important thing about experiencing a death is to allow yourself to grieve in whatever way you need to (as long as it is not self destructive). the feelings of that loss need to be processed. this is why we have funerals and memorial services - to remember the person and say our goodbyes. you can create your own ceremony to honor the memory and say goodbye to a loved one. it can be as simple as writing them a letter and burning or burying it or tying it to a balloon and sending it off. this can be very healing. remember all of the good times with the person and know that death is just a transition from one place to another. be happy they are now free from physical pain. i wish you the best.

    A little family advice, please?

    My cousin wants to add me on myspace. When we were younger she kind of ignored me whenever we were around each and i tried to be friendly. She never even spoke to me. I don't know if I should add her or not.....what would you do?A little family advice, please?
    I'd add her. She's your cousin. Unless she's just really evil, and you think she just might be up to something. But if she's really just trying to get along, maybe she feels bad about not getting along with you back then and wants to mend that family bond that you two really should have had.A little family advice, please?
    It sounds as if your cousin has a mean streak in her. I personally would not add her as a friend. She could do something on your myspace that could ruin your reputation. Stay on the safe side and do not add her. If she asks why, tell her you only have your closest friends and that is all you have time for. Do not give in to her, she does not deserve your friendship especially on myspace where she could hurt you through cyber-bullying.
    add her, people change and you are going tobe her cousin your entire life. You never know what will happen. If you get mad at her you can always delete her.
    add her. you dont have to talk to her at least give the chance to make it up. she is your cousin
    No I would not add her because she is really not your friend.
    umm hello? shes ur family........

    I want to get some parental rights back. I need advice in family law.?

    I am concerened about my 2 teenage daughters school behavior but the dad does not let me because of the court orders he has custody of them I need help I want to get involved in there school as soon as possible.I want to get some parental rights back. I need advice in family law.?
    He may have custody but you have the right to go talk to the school and be a part of parent teacher conferences and anything else involving your children. And with them being teens, do they want you involved in their life? If so, then thats even more reason to get involved.I want to get some parental rights back. I need advice in family law.?
    Check online for your local county courthouse webpage. They have forms you can download.





    Lawyers cost money so unless you are willing to do a lot of research like mentioned above or you can afford a lawyer...
    File a motion with the court asking for school records and permission to have communication with the school regarding your children. Courts are generally favorable when parents display an interest in their children's welfare. Then, once the judge grants your request, take a copy of the order to the school administration and you should be good to go. Don't forget to contact individual teachers to set up conferences - they can give you valuable info.

    I am in need of some boyfriend and family advice.....?

    Well I am dating this guy (we have been 2gether for 6 months and were engaged) everything is great between us! Were very much in love but my family and friends tell me he is not right for me. It just give me stress and hurts my feelings that they can't be happy for me! what should i do about the situation without hurting my friends and family's feelings or ruining my relationship with them?I am in need of some boyfriend and family advice.....?
    Just what is supposed to ';be right?'; A man who fawns over them more than you? A man who does not make the money they want or have the career they want?





    When the elders try to decide what is ';right for you';, they secretly mean what is right for them. And this can destroy every relationship you find.





    Presumably you are not engaged to a criminal or someone lacking in ethics. That would genuinely be a serious issue to face with your beloved, and that should cause a delay or cancellation of the engagement. But you have not indicated this to be the case.





    Therefore, you must assert some important things as one who is eligible for marriage:





    1. You are a sovereign being.


    2. Nothing will stop your loving your family.


    3. Loving your family does not mean giving up your sovereignty.


    4. You are finding the fulfillment of your dreams in the language of your dreams, not theirs.


    5. If your family loves you they must respect your sovereignty as an individual, and later as a family of your own.





    The choice is really yours as to who you would choose. And if a family withdraws their affection or friendship because of it, then real love wasn't in that family to begin with.I am in need of some boyfriend and family advice.....?
    Tell them that you know it's right and that's all that matters. And if they can't understand then you'll have to just ignore it.
    ask yourself why everyone that loves you tells you hes not the right one for you. pay attention. dont be blind. if ur mature enough to entertain the thought of marriage you need to take a closer look at this guy. dont be a fool. im not saying dump him. im saying open your ears and eyes and pay attention. there has to be a reason or several reasons why everyone says this about him. Do you think that your loved ones would try to cheat you out of life long happiness? or would they try to protect you from the biggest mistake of your life? just find out why they are saying these things, and listen with an open mind and heart.
    Love is blind, I would think to take it a bit slower with this fella. It takes time to get to know someone. But you live and you learn. I say if your mom is one of these voices, you should take into consideration what she is saying. You make your own mind, but alot of times mom knows best because she's been there before.
    Your family is outside looking in. maybe they see something you don't. take a step back and look at you life.
    How do they know if he's not right for you or not? If you love him and he loves you then that's all that matters. Who cares what others think. If you always care about what others have to say...you're never gonna live life the way you want to live it. Step out of the circle and do what you think is right. Family should always understand. If they don't at first they will eventually catch on.
    If you want to end up in divorce, listen to yourself and marry him. If you having sex with him already, then that's not smart. You only know the guy for six months. Crazy. I would never a girl only knowing her for six months. There is something wrong with him. Listen to your family.
    Why do they think that? Ask them. If their reasons aren't legitimate do not give them another thought. Who is marrying him anyway?
    Well I'd be concerned since you've been together for 6 months and already engaged.
    tell them you appreciate their concern, and that you are sure no one is ever going to be good enough for you in their eyes...but you love this man and you would like their blessing
    Maybe they think you're rushing things. I mean, you've been together for just 6months and you're already engaged? Even I would be surprised to know that. I think you should take your time and get to know each other more. I think your relatives are just concerned about you.
    Engaged? After only 6 months?


    Have you Lost your Brain?





    Listen to your family %26amp; friends carefully!


    This dude Must be a LOOZER!





    You have clouded ';Vision';!





    Sit down with your family members


    ASAP %26amp; ask them WHY they think


    this dude is not ';right'; for you.
    if you both really love each other the family need to just butt out or deal with it.
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  • Need advice on family friendly car?

    Ok, I have a Jeep Grand Cherokee '03, which I love(d). I've had it for about a year and a half, already we've had to replace the motor for a power window, it broke down because something was leaking and it had to be towed, the air conditioning has been fixed, and then the other day it just died on me. When they towed it to the shop it started running and they couldn't make it die again. My mechanic made me promise that I wouldn't drive it out of town because he didn't know what it was going to do. If we did keep it the heat is going to have to be fixed with winter coming. To top it all off, I'm about 35 weeks pregnant!!!!! I need advice on what cars/SUV's (no vans) are roomy enough for a car seat. At the same time I don't want to feel like I'm driving a bus! We probably can't afford something brand new but maybe something that's a couple of years old. Please help! Thanks in advance.Need advice on family friendly car?
    How about something like a used Toyota Highlander or Rav4? They are super reliable and basically bulletproof in design. Don't know what your budget is, but I am thinking along the lines of minimal maintenance effort on your part.





    Good luck!Need advice on family friendly car?
    Do you want another SUV or are you looking more towards a Mini-van type vehicle?





    My brother has two little ones and another on the way. His wife used to drive a Ford Explorer and while it seemed roomy, it was tough having two car seats in the back seat and forget someone else having to ride back there in between the car seats. She did not like the idea of driving a Mini-Van because she thought she was too young to and she too thought it was bus like.





    She finally gave in though and now drives a Dodge Caravan and loves it. It is so much easier to get the kids in and out and they have plenty of space in the trunk area. You can get a nice used Caravan for a decent price. Do you have a Carmax in your area? They are a great source for used vehicles. I also no some folks who have a Nissan Quest (a little more pricey than the Dodge) and they love it. Not all Vans feel like buses. Some arent' that bad.
    a midsized ford explorer will do the trick
    THE GMC ENVOY IS A VERY NICE SUV AND IT IS VERY COMFORTABLE TO DRIVE AS WELL.

    Any advice on coping with a 7 yearold just diagnosed with bi polar? He is angry and tries to hurt family.?

    Tried to kill'; self in June. Hospitalized and then into out-pt. Anti-depressents made it worse. Now on Deprokote (new) and Focalin for ADHD (severe) and clonidine to sleep. Impulsive, fast and angry. Worry about episodes and sfety of family. Adopted with Huntington's in genes and possible bi-polar. School will be a challenge this year.Any advice on coping with a 7 yearold just diagnosed with bi polar? He is angry and tries to hurt family.?
    I don't know if they explained bipolar to you..In children they will do anything thing it takes to fill their emotional needs at any costs. Since they are young and can not process and verbalize emotion like adults their coping skills are fewer and they must be taught..over,and over,and over. I do recommend DBT therapy. It is greatly successful in youth. Dialect behavior therapy. I have worked with youth ages 10-22 with severe emotional needs so if you need any contact resources I may be able to help you. Stay strong,react calmly, and use emergency respite when you need to!Any advice on coping with a 7 yearold just diagnosed with bi polar? He is angry and tries to hurt family.?
    Have you asked what he's angry about? and worked through that.
    the safety of the rest of the family is paramount. I would try to get him into an institution. I am so so sorry. God Bless you
    Your boy is on alot of medication, and it doesn't seem to be effective if he is still having episodes. Please keep a log of all his behaviors for at least a week, and take them to his psychiatrist, if he's not seeing one, he should be. It will show the psychiatrist just how severe his behaviors are. Document the time, place behavior occurred, how long it lasted before you could calm him, and what you did that finally ended the episode. Also, is there anything he really likes? Try putting him in a reward program for positive behaviors. And lastly, is he playing any sports? If not, he probably should be, often getting that extra energy out of a child will help some with his sleeping at night. School will be hard, my son is ADD and I have to keep on top of him, it can be exhausting, but in the end it is so rewarding because he made the honor roll (in honors courses!) last year and was so proud of himself. He also played baseball, golf and tennis! It's possible with the right medication and keep him on as much of a routine schedule as possible. Set times for studying, working on projects, etc. and don't let him out of it. (but give some small 5 min. breaks if he gets tired). Read with him every night too (note: with him: let him do reading until he gets tired, then you read a page or two, take turns) , it helps their reading skills. Good Luck.
    I'd be tempted to give him back--you have your hands full.


    I don't know what to say, a horrible situation.


    Peace.
    Children with ADHD and Bipolar belong in reform or military type schools. They shouldn't be placed in with the general population. They are totally out of control. There's no solution. Medication doesn't phase them. They are mean spirited, selfish, angry and a danger to themselves and others. Maybe exorcism is the answer. I would take the ';child'; to the Dept. of Human Services and tell them you can't control him/her. This has been my personal experience.
    If he is still in bad mental shape then his meds might not be helping. Sometimes it takes trial and error with some meds but work with his doctor on trying to find the right ones. You may need to seek a counselor to help bring out his anger issues BUT you have to reassure him that no matter what ,


    you will always love and be there for him. He need to know that he is wanted and loved and to feel that although others may look down on him that he has you to turn to for comfort.Be optimistic for him encourage him even if its with little things he likes to do. good luck! Get info on bipolar to stay aware of things.
    My only suggestion is to find a local support group and ask the same question.
    I have no easy answer for you. My son is bi polar, and was just diagnosed by his psychiatrist last year, in his late 20's. He has lived with this diorder for many years, but we didn't know what it was. His and your son's acting out, sound the same. After years of tears and frustration in searching for the correct medications we now have him with a psychiatrist that has found the correct medication to keep him in control. It will always mean tweaking of medications from time to time. Once you find the correct meds, you must give them as directed and not miss doses. That is very important. Your son is not mean, some people do not have a clue. He has a disorder, that can be treated with the proper meds. It may take time to find the correct meds, and everyone reacts differently. There is no miracle pill, but there are medications that will help your son to function. With my son, it takes 3 different medications working together to help him cope. It may take time, and a lot of patience, and prayers. Work closely with a good pshychiatrist, and read as much as you can on the subject to be informed. This requires a doctor with specialty, and a general doctor of medicine is probably not going to be able to prescribe the psychotrophic medications that he will need. I never wanted my son on a lot of meds, but it has been the meds that have helped him tremendously. God speed.

    Family advice please read to further?

    ok point is when ever i get girl friend my cousins always ask if im dating her online blah blah since i play alot of video games but i tell them i don't date girls online and im not into that. they never bu-live me and pick at me its really annoying now one of them has new girl friend there gonna keep bugging me bout something its gonna be annoying any advice? since im gonna see them over the holidaysFamily advice please read to further?
    Well, if you show that it bugs you they will keep it up. They sound like a bunch of really mature guys.





    Or you can always bring her to shut them up.





    Or get into a bar like fight. that would be a cool Xmas story for the grandkids.Family advice please read to further?
    here is what I would do....laugh with them when they ask why you are laughing, tell them you always laugh at pathetic comedy...thats what I would do...lol
    are they married or have girl/boy friends? if they don't you can tell them that you met her online, and that because they don't have a date at the moment they should definitely check it out. then tell them that there are plenty of people just like them there. rephrase and make them sound stupid. that's my advice! have a great holiday!
    well just let them be. you know the truth about things and they just want to make them self feel better by putting you down. don't let it get to you because sooner or later they will realize you don't care. and if you did date online it's your life not there's... you might want to let them know that. if it really annoys you then just shut them up, they can only go so far until it ticks you off. might as well stop it nicely then go off one day.





    two points of view... what ever you decide. good luck
    Man up and ignore the unnecessary comment. You don't need to prove anything to anyone but yourself first.
    Put the question right back to them. When they ask you if you are dating on line say ';no man I wouldn't ever to do that, are you dating on line?'; Then laugh and say ';you are aren't you that's why you ask me if I was .'; Don't get mad get even. Don't be so serious when people tease you about anything or they will keep teasing you if they see that it annoys you. Good luck in dealing with your naughty cousins.

    Where can I get free family law advice in london?

    My partner is having trouble seeing his son at the moment, because his ex doesnt like me (jealously etc, we also have a baby together) she is taking it out on my partner and refusing to let him see him.


    She has no valid grounds to stop my partner seeing his son apart from not liking me,(she attacked me in the street while i was 7 months pregnant) he has stayed at our house before and treated with the love and care he deserves.





    If anyone has any answers i'd be very grateful.





    P.s We don't qualify for legal aid.Where can I get free family law advice in london?
    Unfortunately, if you do not qualify for legal aid, you cannot get free legal advice in the UK. There may me sliding fee-scale programmes, or alternatives. See your Citizens' Advice Bureau.





    Your partner, on the grounds that HE is the child's father, has the right to legal redress. YOU have none.





    Your partner should see the Citizens' Advice Bureau, and also contact local law enforcement. If he cohabited with his ex for more than 6 months, the partnership, and subsequent breakup, qualify as civil partnerships, and there are custody issues that need to be resolved.





    BE AWARE: if your partner is not paying CSA now, insisting upon seeing his son will ENSURE they catch up with him, and he may have to pay past-due CSA to the tune of 拢thousands. Your life with him and your son will change for the worse, financially, for the next, um -- until his other son turns 16, or 18, if he finishes school.





    In fact, if your partner is NOT paying CSA now, the sooner he informs Children's Services, the better! He'll owe them less, and look like an honest bloke. The CSA catch up with everyone, sooner or later, and your partner could be in for it, (and you, and your son), if it's 'later'.





    If he is paying CSA, all the more grounds for him to see his child. Courts do not like to award sole-custody to one parent, unless there is an abuse situation. It's really down to your partner, to get the information he needs from the Citizen's Advice Bureau.





    TIP: Many flashy divorce/custody solicitors do a primary interview at no charge. They'll tell your partner they can't help him, but they might well tell him who can! He has a legal right to see his child, unless there is an injunction against him for any reason -- and I doubt there is. Courts don't award injunctions for spite, and I doubt his ex actually has one.





    Good luck.Where can I get free family law advice in london?
    citizens advice bureau
    Try the Citizens Advice Bureau
    dont u have a citizens advice bureau nearby

    Where can i find free family law advice in new york?

    www.findlaw.com has lots of good information for every jurisdiction.Where can i find free family law advice in new york?
    I got the answers I'm part of a company in New York that offers legal advice. If interested in getting the names and numbers of the attorney email me theporters288@sbcglobal.net or IM me on the yahoo messenger under the same name.Where can i find free family law advice in new york?
    http://forums.somethingawful.com/showthr鈥?/a> or contact the local law school. Some have students help people with low incomes.
    under the bridge downtown
    Depending upon your income Legal Aid should be able to help you and contact the Bar Association. They will know who is doing pro-bono work in that area.
    Family court house. Should me a web site for New York Family Law. CA has one that I have used for information.

    Advice without going to my GP in getting help to stop taking amphetamine with out telling my family?

    No one knows I have the problem, I have two sons and basically I just want to stop but I can't just stop. I'm not sure whether they wean you off on a subsitute to the drug or what the procedure is?Advice without going to my GP in getting help to stop taking amphetamine with out telling my family?
    I would look up, on the yahoo search bar.,And just type in, ';ways of getting off amphetamines';, I'm sure you find an answer there, but if not ,call a drug abuse hot line, %26amp; just tell them you,----- or, a friend need an answer, to getting off this. ';I hope this helps you';.Advice without going to my GP in getting help to stop taking amphetamine with out telling my family?
    This will take lots of discipline on yoru part both physical and a mental hurdle. I would wean off the pills, taking less per week. Try to substitute something for them. Maybe a vitamin.
    I would go to a pain specialist, or an addiction specialist. There are these types of docs, and they have to keep it confidential. They will help you get off the drug. Good luck to you.
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  • Any last minute advice before I go to dinner with my girlfriend's family for the first time?

    Thank for the advice!Any last minute advice before I go to dinner with my girlfriend's family for the first time?
    Be yourself! that's the most important thing, don't be someone your not. Don't try to hard to impress and have fun. Good look :D

    Need painting/decorating advice. I am in the process of painting the family room. Country theme. What colors?

    I am trying to change things on a budget. Couches are dark beige. Espresso colored coffee table, end tables, entertainment center. Maroon carpet is new and I don't want to change that only because of the expense otherwise it would go. We have 2 lamps that we Absolutely want to incorporate into the room but right now they stick out like a sore thumb. They are slate blue. Any ideas on decorating would be great. Wall color is my main concern right now they are pure white.Need painting/decorating advice. I am in the process of painting the family room. Country theme. What colors?
    Roughen part of wall with mortar and paint it beigh or cream. then soil it a little artistically if you have the skill. Otherwise, gett some bamboo stick or dry branch to hang to wall. You can also hide your lamps behind using bamboo or branches to wrap round it artistically. This should make to room country feelNeed painting/decorating advice. I am in the process of painting the family room. Country theme. What colors?
    mostly navy blue, burgundy and forest green is used to decorate country style , buy or make checkered drapes and use wood poles with rings to attach the drapes , use a tie back made from the same fabric , and get some hurricane lamps and a lot of wood and wicker to complete the decor .Or if you like floral look into something like these here


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    the lamps that you have will fit in if you add more of the slate blue to the room like pillows or drapes, even a painting on the wall that has this coulor in would be good.





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    If you absolutly want to use the lamps, why not use them as a guide? Try finding a slate blue for an accent wall and go for a beige/neutral for the rest of the walls...maybe in the same color pallet as your espresso coffee tables? As for accessories, use your personal likes. When I decorate I always use Yahoo Images Search to see what other peop;le do. Sometimes I get ideas, sometimes I just steal theres :) I redid my entire bedroom around one vase that I loved...it looks like it is an accessory I bought to match my bedroom, but it was really the inspiration :P