Saturday, July 31, 2010

Need family advice? brothers are being abused... help?

My brothers (16 and 15) are being abused by my uncle ';Jeff';. The sixteen year old one comes from an abusive past. I told the police, but they said ';Jason'; and ';Justin'; needed to come and make a statement... The problem beeing ';Justin'; doesn't think getting flat-out whammed is abuse, and ';Jason'; thinks abuse is normal.





I've seen ';Justin'; get hit several times, by my uncle, the one who I reported... Several times for doing nothing - he was in the living room watching TV and WHAM WHAM WHAM WHAM - my uncle hit hit him with a closed fist for not taking out the trash. After talking there were other incidences, too!





I wasn't able to talk to ';Jason';, but my uncle hit him in the book for reading the other day, calling him quote ';unworthy to read!'; And he was SUPPOSED to be reading. What should I do?Need family advice? brothers are being abused... help?
You should report your uncle ';Jeff'; to Child Protective Services in your state. They are different then the police and have a lot more authority to investigate these kind of matters. In most abuse cases the polices hands are tied, Where CPS is not they can investigate just on an accusation. Then if they find anything they will call the police in. It is sad because most people think the only avenue is the police but in a case like this they are the worst ones to call.





Also DO NOT talk to you brothers about the abuse or take pic because they can be used against the state if they go to try to get a protective order. I work for CPS in Utah and trust me it will do more damage then help.





good luck with all of this and if you have any further questions email me and I will help you.Need family advice? brothers are being abused... help?
try and obtain proof of the abuse and take it to the police. if the say that your brothers still need to make a statement then call an abuse hotline. also, if you can, try and convice your brothers that they are being abused and that it isn't normal because it's not normal nor is it okay. however, stay clear of your uncle before his rage turns on to you.
I don't know what state you are in but there is Child Protection Services in every State that look out for the welfare of children and they should be called. The Police cannot do anything unless it happens in their presence or one of the boys decides to press charges for assault and battery. Part of the reason they (the boys) may not want to do this is that whatever family unit there currently is will be broken up if they are put under protective custody and made wards of the court.They could end up in foster homes while the uncle goes to jail and I am sure they have thought about that and where they might end up.
if your bothers are getting abused then its your prority to do something .go to child protective services or if your brother are in school then go to the schools .i dont know where you live at but if you look in the front pages of the phonebook there is abuse hot line that is 1800 nomber you need to call them . but you need to get those boys out of that home cause they are in danger.
Get photos of any bruises, then take them to the police. If the police won't do anything, take them to children's services. If they won't come and investigate, go to an office in a larger city, use the phone book and look one up under the ';State Services'; section. Maybe you know someone with a cell phone that has a camera? Then you can email the pics to the agencies involved.
Your doing the right thing, take some pics. the show them to the cops.

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