Can someone give our family some advice on death?

Ok, the question doesn't 100 percent sum up the problem. My father in law just lost his wife to a battle of liver disease fighting for the last 10 years of her being sick. NOt from drinking either from a mistake a doctor made 40 years ago giving her a shot and it being used on someone with hepatitus. Well we lost her about 6 months ago. My husband doenst really talk about it, we're only 19 and 22, and this happened a month before our wedding. Ok about 2 months ago my father in law lost his best friend from elementary school to cancer out of nowhere he died in the hospital. Now its been about 3-4 months of nothing happening and now my father in laws mother went to the hopsital because she was bleeding and here she has an oversized cancerous cyst that ruptured during the surgery of removing it, and cancer is throughout her body. They came out and said we did everything we could, and I gues you can't do kemo w/ this type of cancer? Idk what to do, this is the hardest thing ever 4 a familyCan someone give our family some advice on death?
First of all, you have my condolences on your loss. What can we say about death exactly? We all must cross that bridge at one time or another. To be absent from the body is to be present with The Lord. This is the time when you have to stay strong as a family%26amp;help each other get through it. If the cancer is through out the body I dont think chemo helps all they can do is keep the person comfortable%26amp;out of pain.Can someone give our family some advice on death?
There's not much you can do except to continue to support each other as you each work it all out for yourselves %26amp; figure out how you're going to go on living a full, happy life (as every one of the deceased people would want you to do).





As much as possible, remember each of these people in your daily lives. Not in a sad way, but in an honoring %26amp; celebrating way. Remember what they taught you, how they touched you, how they helped the community around them --- all of these things that they did help them to live on even now, in your lives, your actions, in who you are. They are still here. Not in their own bodies, anymore, but in your hearts, actions %26amp; words.





Remember that each person in your husband's family (and yourself!) is going to deal with this in their own way %26amp; at their own pace. Be gentle with each other, but keep trying to fulfill the dreams of the deceased, by living your lives to the fullest and honoring their memories.
i am very sorry to hear about your loss. many communities have hospice (an organization that helps people who are dying and their families). check your local hospital or community center for grief support groups. you can always see a therapist as well. the most important thing about experiencing a death is to allow yourself to grieve in whatever way you need to (as long as it is not self destructive). the feelings of that loss need to be processed. this is why we have funerals and memorial services - to remember the person and say our goodbyes. you can create your own ceremony to honor the memory and say goodbye to a loved one. it can be as simple as writing them a letter and burning or burying it or tying it to a balloon and sending it off. this can be very healing. remember all of the good times with the person and know that death is just a transition from one place to another. be happy they are now free from physical pain. i wish you the best.