Tuesday, November 22, 2011

Advice on family complications with personal decision?

I'm 18 and unfortunately living at home. I plan on moving out as soon as possible and there's a GSD at a shelter which I might possibly want to adopt. I've known I would always get a second dog (even without my current dog's confidence issues) and planned on doing so after moving out, but in some ways my dog has been regressing and the sooner I get a second dog the better. The issue is this: though I'm inclined to simply come home with him for a couple reasons (my ma brought home a Corgi without warning and recently I was led to believe we'd get the kind of dog that mine needs around only for the family to impulsively get a dog of the complete opposite) I realize it may not be the best idea or approach.





Any suggestions?





I realize I could very well need ';parental permission'; as well in adopting him, thus another reason I'm seeking advice.Advice on family complications with personal decision?
Ask you family if you can make the finale decision about the the new dog because you know your dog the best and you want to make sure that you find one with the right personality for your dog. Isn't it important to get what the dog really needs. Take care HeatherAdvice on family complications with personal decision?
No dog without ';Parental Permission';. Mom gets to bring home any dog she wishes with out warning or consent because it is her home. When you have your own home you also will not need consent.


Right now it sounds like you should probably be more concerned with your family relationship than your dog's emotional issues. I've heard it said that pets are a reflection of their owners. Who knows? Maybe fixing the family problems will kill two birds with one stone. Good Luck!
Why are you ';unfortunately'; living at home? There is an old adage that says ';familiarity breeds contempt...'; Unfortunately it carries a lot of truth. You are far more concerned with your dog's feelings than that of your family. Is it because he will put up with anything and can't answer back? Does this seem right to you?





What will you do when you have your own place? Who will look after the dogs when you are at work?





Take a step back and explore your own attitudes, if you are attentive to all of your dog's needs and are sure that you could do the same for a second dog, without your family's help - and that you can support yourself on your own, move out right away, what are you waiting for?





If not, do a little soul searching and think of ways that you can make your relationship with your family better....
I'm not sure how bringing a German Shepherd home would help your dog with it's confidence. Especially a dog from the shelter. Why do you think big dogs like that are at the shelter? Because they haven't been properly trained or socialized. Then there is the problem of your family. You can't go bringing dogs home without checking first. The reason you have to check first, and your mom doesn't is that it's her house - as others have said. Getting another dog to solve problems with the dog you have is not a great idea.
you may want to bring your dog to a park with a lot of dogs that might bring her cofidence up maybe letting her try to play with the more confident dogs to help her out and this will help and buy some time to get another dog
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