Family advice, HELP!!!?

Well I'm 22, in college, and basically my parents been separated, dirvorced, for five/six yrs now. My dad has done some bad things over the yrs. In 2001 moved in with my grandparents, me mom sis. They died in 04, we got own place, me mom, and sis moved to la in 05 summer. Well neway from 02-start of 07, this yr, i didn't talk to my dad like at all. Ive gone thru a lot in five yrs, seems more like that has passed. Lost a serious gf, a best friend, a good friend etc. Well neway my grandma, dads mom, called me in march 07, havent heard from her since 02. Talked, it was nice hearing from her. Apparently got my phone from my cousin, who paid online for it. Gave to my dad and grandma. My dad called in late march 1st time. I avoided him...and picked up..but was very short. I hardly responded. Then in end of may 07 I decided to talk to him again. I realized I only have one dad, and dont want any regrets later on, so yea started talking to him..not much, just like during breaks @ work n stuff.Family advice, HELP!!!?
It sounds like you truly are having some issues in your life. Being 22, technically you're an adult and can make decisions involving your life by yourself.





I appreciate that you care so much about your mom, sister, and family. It sounds like your mom has been there for you.





Sweetie, if you want a relationship with your father, you should have one . . . but I would make the boundaries clear to him. I would tell him that talk about your mom and anything having to do with her if off limits.





People make mistakes, and if you are able to put aside things that your dad did in the past, you're a good guy. I couldn't do it....my father died without our ever making up. I have mixed emotions about it, but wonder if things would have been easier, in my mind, if I had tried to make ammends.





Best of luckFamily advice, HELP!!!?
Sweetie you have so lost me!


But being a child of divorce and one that has completely ignored my own father I can tell you, that you can only do what's right for you. If you don't want to your dad then that's okay, it's your choice, and if your sister doesn't want to talk to him then that's her choice too! You can't judge her for the decision she wants to make.


My dad was an absolute bastard, and ignored me and my sister for years, and then he decides out of the blue that he wants to be involved again. I have nothing to do with him, but my sister still sees and talks to him, but that's her choice and I respect that.


Do what feels right, and don't let anyone judge you :)