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my mother is clingy to me. i am her oldest dauster of two the other will BE 2 very soon. i live with my grandmother, and have for some time. my grandmother needs a sort of costudy over me to get medicine and dodctor visits at a better price. my mother created a list of requirements though. i looked over them trying to cancel out anything so i could make my own chioces. My grandmother saw it and thought it was ok to just complain about it to everyone. i'll be 16 soon what is the fight over? mom thinks if she doesn't do this i will never see her again because of my grandmother. My grandmother takes care of me so she gets upset when i spend half of vacation or holiday time with mom becasue it is HER time. it does make sence. i'm worried though my mother isn't really a stable person, she was violent with me when i was young and i'm afraid if i don't go visit she'll do something to my sister or herself. she has been good to my sister though. so that's good but what do i do?Family or Family?(advice)?
Be careful not to hurt your grandmothers feelings. This is the woman that raised you. She deserves more then the woman that gave birth to you.Family or Family?(advice)?
This is a fight more between your mother and your grandmother, you are just stuck in the middle. I think it is absolutely wonderful that your grandmother was able and willing to take you in when there were problems with your mother. Why wasn't there custody papers then? You are 16 and in most states you can say where you want to live. Your grandmother can contact the family courts there and find out how much it would cost to get legal custody of you if that is what she needs. I know your grandmother gets upset with you for visiting your mother but you can explain to your grandmother your fear for your sister's well-being if you don't go visit.