Does your family give you any REASONS as to why they think you shouldn't have more kids in the near future?
20 months apart...that's pretty close together. While I don't know if I could handle so many little tinies, if you're able to take care of these kids, and are able to support them financially and emotionally, and you WANT another child, I don't see why you shouldn't have another.
But I'm sure your family has reasons for saying what they say. If you find out these reasons are valid, you may want to consider them. But if it is indeed just a way to control your life, I would say to do what you %26amp; your husband have decided is best.
As long as you're acting in the best interest of your family and you don't feel overwhelmed (you're a braver woman than me!), go for it. You should just recognize the concerns of your family, but ultimately it should be YOU and your husband who make the final decision.Should I listen to my family's unwanted advice?
You seem to have your life in order, so why do they care?? Life only happens once. If you want more children then by all means have more. Children are a blessing! I have a huge family which I love. It is great around the holiday's to have a house full of loved ones. More memories to cherish.
For some reason people tend to try and control other peoples lives/decisions. I think it is because they lack control within their own lives. Either way do what makes you happy. It is much easier to please yourself then it is others. Good Luck %26amp; God Bless!
if it's unwanted why take it?
True, it is your decision. I don't know your parents or you, but I would just say maybe you need to honestly evaluate your day to day life with three girls. Perhaps they see something you don't. Sometimes when my folks offer advice about something it is because they are an observer and can see things about ourselves or situations that we don't.
If this doesn't fit, then I would say continue to make your own plans and path in life. Good for you if you can handle another child without asking for help. I have two boys 22 months apart and that is about as busy as I want to be. We don't have family nearby, but I often wish we did so that we'd have that extra support.
They are probably looking out for your best interests. 4 or more children is a lot of responsibility. If you are both ready for it, then you go with your heart and do what you want. It's your life.
Sure, have another Kid... The more the merrier right? Just so long as there isn't more than 4 of them.
...Oh, by the way. If your next child is a Boy then he'll most likely turn out Gay.
I THINK THAT YOUR FAMILY DOESN'T MEAN ANY HARM MAYBE THEY ARE JUST TRYING TO SAVE YOU FROM THE STRESS OF HAVING ALL THESE CHILDREN TO CARE FOR AT ONCE. BUT OVERALL I THINK THIS SHOULD BE A CHOICE THAT YOU AND YOUR HUSBAND MAKE.
If you and your husband want to have more kids, and you can financially afford it, then there is no reason not to. It's your life and you can do what you want.
Your family might see you two struggling to take care of your girls. I mean financially. Don't let the comments discourage you and your husband if you are able to take care of your children. But if you are on state assistance or asking for help from your family then I think you should stop until you can take care of them on your own. Children are a blessing and you are put here to have them so don't feel bad but be responsible for the one's you have.
I can understand why this might seem like unwanted criticism, but keep in mind that, as your childrens' Aunts, Uncles and Grandparents, they are also in this with you...just not to the same degree. As an Uncle, I find that I'm having to gauge my gift-giving so that I'm not singling out any of my nieces (I've got two) or nephews (3 of them as well) for something outstanding at the other's expense. This is a hard thing to do, as I then have to try to find some sort of gift for each child (especially at Christmas) that they'll love, but won't bankrupt me in the process when I also factor in gifts for my own parents and siblings.
And don't forget that your own relatives may also have families of their own, with their own time and financial demands as part of the bargain. It's not about you, necessarily, and it's not about them, either; rather, it's about making sure that the inter-family relationships don't suffer as the whole group grows.
Time and attention are also issues that will be effecting your family as well. For each child you've got, there will be quite definite demands on everyone's time when they're around. How does an Aunt, Uncle or Grandma/Grandpa be fair? Will someone be hurt because they feel that their older or younger sister is getting ';all the attention';?
I'll grant you that you've given birth to the kids, and that they're a part of your life 24/7. But keep in mind that your decision to bring more into the world *will* effect those around you, whether you like to think so or not.
So take it as advice, do what you think is right, and don't be surprised or upset if your relationship to your own family is changed as well - it IS, after all, your choice.
don't listen to them.
My family is like that to and i know what you are saying. There is a reason they are saying what they are. I believe that they might see something you might not it dose good to listen and ask questions do not be afraid to be you and think things out
You can listen to their advice, but you don't have to take it. If you and your husband want more children then go ahead. Obviously ensure the decision you're making is the right one. Explain to your family the decision you're making is one that you have made with your heart, and say to them you really want them to support you. I hope everything turns out OK for you.
It's whatever is in the best interest of YOU!!!!
Do what you and your husband want. THEY are your immediate family now.
Your parents sound controlling! UGH!
My in-laws are controlling. You know what my husband and I do? WE IGNORE THEM!!! Ha Ha!!!
I hate and despise those who control. You live your own life girl.
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